For The Women - Guys You Might Learn Something From What The Women Will Say. (date, boyfriend)

[Mr88]

Here's 3 questions that I just wanna hear the female opinion.

I know men have but have women ever seen a man that you just wanna take home and just have sex with? (Kinda the same way guys do.....)

Many times I've seen where couples break up because "the boyfriend" isn't what she expected him to be. So, what is it that you as women really expect from a guy?

For me, COMMUNICATION is the biggest thing in a relationship, then everything else just falls into place. What's the biggest thing for you?

[CityGirl72]

I think what I want out of a relationship or man keeps changing as Ikeep evolving and growing older

Yes I have (inmy younger years) seen a guy I want - and took him home!!

I have broke up with many guys, but usually after the relationship has run it's course - not for any selfish reason

Since I've been with my husband now for 5 years, what I'd want out of a relationship is laughter. He's a very serious and quiet man. I'm very playful and perky - and recently I've gotten tired of holding up the whole "fun" part of the relationship - I love him - but he's a real downer

[Lisa_from_Debary]

I have seen men from time to time that I wanted to just take home and have my way with...

I think women have this idea that they can change a man, or that being involved in a relationship will change him, or being in love will change him, or being married, or having kids...I learned the hard way it doesn't work that way...men are not "fixer uppers".

I have to agree, communication is a big thing, however its not often in my life that I have been able to find a man who felt that way.

[Mr88]

Originally Posted by CityGirl72

Since I've been with my husband now for 5 years, what I'd want out of a relationship is laughter. He's a very serious and quiet man. I'm very playful and perky - and recently I've gotten tired of holding up the whole "fun" part of the relationship - I love him - but he's a real downer

Find out what he likes and do it......you might get him to at least smile when he thinks about you..........well that's what I think anyway.

Some alone time....just you and him away from the world.

[Mr88]

Originally Posted by Lisa_from_Debary

I have seen men from time to time that I wanted to just take home and have my way with...

I think women have this idea that they can change a man, or that being involved in a relationship will change him, or being in love will change him, or being married, or having kids...I learned the hard way it doesn't work that way...men are not "fixer uppers".

I agree with you somewhat. But then there are some. I think relationships are a way for us to learn and better ourselves. Everybody know what they are seeking in that SOMEONE, and will find that person in time. You just have to be open-minded and use bits and pieces from past relationships to help shape future ones.

Originally Posted by Lisa_from_Debary

I have to agree, communication is a big thing, however its not often in my life that I have been able to find a man who felt that way.

With regards to that^........I'm here! LOL

I love the feeling of knowing what that person is thinking and it makes me learn how to trust that person and know limits and boundaries. It's a beautiul thing.

[EdieGirl]

1. Not really lol. I have a healthy sexual appetite but it rarely shows itself in public. I rarely check out guys, undress them with my eyes etc. Being under the influence of alcohol is another story lol.

2. Don't take this the wrong way guys but, I think we women expect too much from you. We have a warped idea that you SHOULD be able to read our minds and KNOW what we want and need and well, it's completely wrong.

Great example of this was:

My cousin was making jello shots for her birthday party last week. She sent her fiance to the store to get more jello and was upset that he brought home 3 boxes of sugar free jello. She tells him this:

"Luis, why did you bring sugar free jello?! This is for jello shots, they're going to taste weird! You hate sugar free jello when I buy it but now that we need it for this you bring it?!"

Luis: "Well I remembered that you buy this one and it's the one you liked..."

Poor guy was only trying to please her by remembering about the sugar free when the situation didn't even call for it! Even though he had the right intentions, he still didn't please her.

This is what I mean by we expect too much from men...which leads me to #3...

3. Communication IS key!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is also the biggest thing for me in a relationship. Without great communication you can't function! I agree with you on that one!

[Mr88]

Originally Posted by EdieGirl

1. Not really lol. I have a healthy sexual appetite but it rarely shows itself in public. I rarely check out guys, undress them with my eyes etc. Being under the influence of alcohol is another story lol.

2. Don't take this the wrong way guys but, I think we women expect too much from you. We have a warped idea that you SHOULD be able to read our minds and KNOW what we want and need and well, it's completely wrong.

Great example of this was:

My cousin was making jello shots for her birthday party last week. She sent her fiance to the store to get more jello and was upset that he brought home 3 boxes of sugar free jello. She tells him this:

"Luis, why did you bring sugar free jello?! This is for jello shots, they're going to taste weird! You hate sugar free jello when I buy it but now that we need it for this you bring it?!"

Luis: "Well I remembered that you buy this one and it's the one you liked..."

Poor guy was only trying to please her by remembering about the sugar free when the situation didn't even call for it! Even though he had the right intentions, he still didn't please her.

This is what I mean by we expect too much from men...which leads me to #3...

3. Communication IS key!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is also the biggest thing for me in a relationship. Without great communication you can't function! I agree with you on that one!

Poor guy!...............I have had that happen to me before. But I've also learned through spending time with person I was with that I catch onto certain things especially the way she thinks. And what I realised is that I had fewer mistakes like ^ he did. But then again.......I think she didn't realise that he actually listens to her....one of the very many faults women find in me..LOL

[moonsavvy]

Originally Posted by Mr88

Here's 3 questions that I just wanna hear the female opinion.

I know men have but have women ever seen a man that you just wanna take home and just have sex with? (Kinda the same way guys do.....)

Many times I've seen where couples break up because "the boyfriend" isn't what she expected him to be. So, what is it that you as women really expect from a guy?

For me, COMMUNICATION is the biggest thing in a relationship, then everything else just falls into place. What's the biggest thing for you?

To answer the first question. Yes. Even when you are in a very satisfying relationship I still get attracted to men...they're cute! It's not so much of a sexual fantasy, it's more of a "I wonder how we would mesh?" sortof thing. And I've always been a little boycrazy that never goes away....does it?


I'm not sure how to answer the second question. If I were to guess it would be that women will try to test a man like. "How important am I to you" thing, sortof like the what would you give up thread. We want to know what you would sacrifice may it be time away from friends, hobbies, drinking, ect... Sortof like trying to change someone and that is a very bad idea.(I've tried it)

I think my husband would agree with you on communication, he's always trying to get me to communicate,however I sortof think that he should know what I want...he he, and that get's us in trouble. So I agree communication is largely important, telling someone what you want, what makes you uncomfortable, what bothers you, what you like, ect.. makes a big difference in the way a relationship works. It's definately been one area that we have been able to work on and see a big difference in how happy with are with each other.

I would also add intimacy. Touching and being touched, showing affection, spending time together really builds a stronger bond.

[Vienna]

I agree with EdieGirl I think she hit it dead on. I have to tell you about a guy that works with us who is trying to figure it out. We work in a doctors office there are 12 girls here. Let me tell you about "the guy" or Dr. he is a nice guy, but let me tell what he says or does that is such a turn off that there isn't one girl that we know that will date him. First when he meets a girl he will start to make her things like, jewelery boxes, or carve a poem in glass for her. Yes, I know that sounds romantic, but get to know her first don't overwhelm her, and don't brag that you do exotic wood working (it sounds like your gay), don't call the cops because someone bumped your car and only you can tell, or some old lady cuts you off and gives you the finger (you really look like a wimp). If your in a dangerous situation then call the police. Believe me all 12 of us girls agree, don't smother us let us get to know you, and please don't act like a wimp. It is a big turn off when we feel like we could "take you down." I hope this will help, I know this sounds mean but it is the Real Truth at least from all 12 girls here.

[Twinkle Toes]

[quote=Mr88;826215]Here's 3 questions that I just wanna hear the female opinion.

I know men have but have women ever seen a man that you just wanna take home and just have sex with? (Kinda the same way guys do.....) Heck Yeah!!!

Many times I've seen where couples break up because "the boyfriend" isn't what she expected him to be. So, what is it that you as women really expect from a guy? We expect different things at different times. I can't speak for the rest of these broads, but I will tell you very specifically what I want from you.

For me, COMMUNICATION is the biggest thing in a relationship, then everything else just falls into place. What's the biggest thing for you? Yeah, probably communication, but there are a variety of things I want/need at any given time and again, if you are with me I will tell you what those things are. [quote]