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Old 03-17-2010, 07:39 PM
 
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You're kidding, right? LOL
Spinx, you're just mad because I was 2 inches shy of your minimum requirement.
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Old 03-17-2010, 07:39 PM
 
Location: FL
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My balls are on vacation in Belize, so no.
[/tone my ex girl used] Whaaaaaaaaaaa [/tone my ex girl used] ! Well, you better pick them up and say something. Otherwise.................
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Old 03-17-2010, 07:42 PM
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Location: Tampa, Florida
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Alrighty, but I gotta forewarn you, it's bad news bears, buddy. Things tend to get a bit out of hand - I'm guessing you are familiar, however.
Please explain.

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Old 03-17-2010, 07:42 PM
 
Location: My Private Island
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He said something after I asked the other guy why the gym was so empty tonight, not after I asked the guy if he would put the weights on the machine for me. This guy has put my weights on numerous times before. It's part of my routine. It didn't particularly sound malicious either, but who am I to say since I didn't even make out what he said. Excuses excuses.

I'm just going to do the 3 strike system. When passing or in near proximity, I will make eye contact and smile and continue doing whatever I was doing. I will do this on 3 different occasions and if he acts like an iceberg, then I'm done.
Girlfriend.......insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results.

He clearly is not getting your smiles/looks/eye contact. You are going to have to straight up talk to him. Why are you so intimidated by this guy? Nobody is so damn hot they are beyond approach. Be confident in yourself. Hell, you know what you've got to offer and if he's not interested...so be it. He's not the only hot guy on earth. Keep moving and consider it his loss for not getting to know some as spectacular as you.

The word no may hurt but it doesn't kill and at least you will know and can stop torturing yourself.

Stop being scaaaaaardy cat!! j/k
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Old 03-17-2010, 07:45 PM
 
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Please explain.

Oh i was just kidding, but a lot of my friends tend to get out of hand. Got what doctors call, "a little bit of a drinking problem". lol

When you heading back, anyway?
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Old 03-17-2010, 07:48 PM
 
Location: The Mango Tree
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Girlfriend.......insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results.

He clearly is not getting your smiles/looks/eye contact.
Seeniorta, I haven't smiled at, looked, or make eye contact with him! At all! Not even when I'm practically 3 inches away from him. I act as if he's not even there. But yes, that is insanity because obviously me acting like he's a large rock isn't producing the desired results.

*smacks head against wall in frustration with self*


I'll go ahead and admit it even though I hate doing so! I am terrified that he'll think I'm weird if I show even the slightest hint of interest in him. I'm terrified that he'll be freaked out that this girl he is not attracted to in the least bit is attracted to him. That's why I'm behaving in such extremes. I know I'm jumping to conclusions about how he feels about me, but there - I said it. This goes back to good old self-esteem. I'm not wearing any armor so please be gentle with me.
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Old 03-17-2010, 07:49 PM
 
Location: Corydon, IN
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Okay, I misunderstood the specifics of the WHEN on his comment; nevertheless, it was a comment they weren't willing to share with you.

I can sort of relate since my own repertoire of expressions seems to be somewhat messed up. When I'm thinking people believe me angry; when I'm musing people think me contemplative, and the ONLY time my expression seems to fit is when I'm absolutely focused and concentrating, which women find charming and sexy for some reason. My happiness or laughter is called a "smirk" (which I feel negative and smugly superior in connotation), my sadness makes people think I'm JUST thinking, etc.

Apparently my notches are off by two.
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Old 03-17-2010, 07:50 PM
 
Location: Corydon, IN
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Seeniorta, I haven't smiled at, looked, or make eye contact with him! At all! Not even when I'm practically 3 inches away from him. I act as if he's not even there. But yes, that is insanity because obviously me acting like he's a large rock isn't producing the desired results.

*smacks head against wall in frustration with self*

That WOULD come off as arrogance! You need to lose that yesterday!
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Old 03-17-2010, 07:56 PM
 
Location: My Private Island
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Seeniorta, I haven't smiled at, looked, or make eye contact with him! At all! Not even when I'm practically 3 inches away from him. I act as if he's not even there. But yes, that is insanity because obviously me acting like he's a large rock isn't producing the desired results.

*smacks head against wall in frustration with self*


I'll go ahead and admit it even though I hate doing so! I am terrified that he'll think I'm weird if I show even the slightest hint of interest in him. I'm terrified that he'll be freaked out that this girl he is not attracted to in the least bit is attracted to him. That's why I'm behaving in such extremes. I know I'm jumping to conclusions about how he feels about me, but there - I said it. This goes back to good old self-esteem. I'm not wearing any armor so please be gentle with me.

Mango,

If this guy is not the least bit flattered you are wanting to get to know him then he isn't worth your time anyway. You are worrying about reactions that may never be.

I was under the impression you had already smiled/had eye contact with him. Try that tomorrow and see how it goes but ADD a "Hi, how are you" to go along with it. If you are behaving like he doesn't exist....then yes...he probably thinks you are a stuck up b*tch. Change that quickly and work on being approachable.

The funny thing is he could be feeling the same way and just trying to play it cool. If no one ever makes the first move it will be a wasted opportunity.

Seize the day girlfriend! You're worth it!!
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Old 03-17-2010, 08:16 PM
Status: "Partially taking all the blame" (set 25 days ago)
 
Location: Tampa, Florida
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Oh i was just kidding, but a lot of my friends tend to get out of hand. Got what doctors call, "a little bit of a drinking problem". lol[
Alcohol. The only bad amount is none.

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When you heading back, anyway?
I'll be applying at OPD next year (unless they **** me, again) but I'm probably going to swing by in the summer for a few days at least.
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