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I've been seeing this one particular guy at the gym regularly for the past few months. We've never talked to each other and to be quite honest, I'm not 100% sure if he even knows I exist since he's never blatantly looked at or acknowledged me when I was taking a peek at me. In my defense, my natural face at the gym is part ice queen, part *****. I'm incapable of beaming smiles and jogging simultaneously. It should be said that this guy is h-o-t. I tell myself that when we make eye contact, I will flash a warm smile, but we never do.
On to the point: I'm developing a crush. I've been considering opening the lines of communication between us, but it seems near impossible! He's always so wrapped up in his work out and socializing with the other guys weight lifting. He barely pays any attention to any female so it's fair to say he is not at the gym to pick-up chicks.
I'm the type of girl that goes to the gym to work out and sweat and this the first time someone has caught my eye. It's pretty easy to strike up a conversation in most other environments, but the gym has me hopelessly lost. I'm clueless about flirting at the gym. Is it creepy? From what I gather, most people are at the gym to work out, not get a date.
But wow. . . I haven't had a crush like this in a very long time. I feel like a randy schoolgirl with a really bad case of the giggles and flushed cheeks.
I've been seeing this one particular guy at the gym regularly for the past few months. We've never talked to each other and to be quite honest, I'm not 100% sure if he even knows I exist since he's never blatantly looked at or acknowledged me when I was taking a peek at me. In my defense, my natural face at the gym is part ice queen, part *****. I'm incapable of beaming smiles and jogging simultaneously. It should be said that this guy is h-o-t. I tell myself that when we make eye contact, I will flash a warm smile, but we never do.
On to the point: I'm developing a crush. I've been considering opening the lines of communication between us, but it seems near impossible! He's always so wrapped up in his work out and socializing with the other guys weight lifting. He barely pays any attention to any female so it's fair to say he is not at the gym to pick-up chicks.
I'm the type of girl that goes to the gym to work out and sweat and this the first time someone has caught my eye. It's pretty easy to strike up a conversation in most other environments, but the gym has me hopelessly lost. I'm clueless about flirting at the gym. Is it creepy? From what I gather, most people are at the gym to work out, not get a date.
But wow. . . I haven't had a crush like this in a very long time. I feel like a randy schoolgirl with a really bad case of the giggles and flushed cheeks.
Awwwww, your first gym crush! Hehe.
If you feel apprehensive about approaching him just casually smile when he looks at you. You may even wave ever so slightly. The main thing is to keep the b*tch look off of your face.
Walk up to him and ask if he needs someone to spot him.
That would be incredibly obvious since he already has a bunch of gym buddies that he switches out with and etc. On top of that, I don't know the faintest thing about spotting. My one experience with the bench press resulted in me dropping the bar onto my chest.
A lot of people don't like getting interrupted during their workouts, so it can be tricky if you spot someone at the gym. Sometimes there isn't a great way to communicate. I would suggest just trying to be more in the area that he is at, and smile at him when you walk by. After you do that several times, you could step it up with "Hi, how's it going?" If he mumbles and grumbles an answer, then he's clearly not interested. If he engages a bit, then you know you can take it up a notch.
If you feel apprehensive about approaching him just casually smile when he looks at you. You may even wave ever so slightly. The main thing is to keep the b*tch look off of your face.
I made a conscious effort to look pleasant while galavanting on the treadmill today, just in case he looked over. He doesn't look at me though! At least, I've never caught him. He's too busy doing his own thing and chatting with the guys (can't blame him, he definitely didn't get that body by scoping out chicks at the gym).
That would be incredibly obvious since he already has a bunch of gym buddies that he switches out with and etc. On top of that, I don't know the faintest thing about spotting. My one experience with the bench press resulted in me dropping the bar onto my chest.
A lot of people don't like getting interrupted during their workouts, so it can be tricky if you spot someone at the gym. Sometimes there isn't a great way to communicate. I would suggest just trying to be more in the area that he is at, and smile at him when you walk by. After you do that several times, you could step it up with "Hi, how's it going?" If he mumbles and grumbles an answer, then he's clearly not interested. If he engages a bit, then you know you can take it up a notch.
Your first point is exactly why I'm confused as to how initiate contact. He's always in the manly section of the weights though a.k.a the hardcore free weights. I made my way to the leg press (the one where you lay on the ground) today while he was on the weight thing next to me, but he's very involved in his strength training. I could have been wearing a Big Bird suit and clucking and I'm not quite sure if he would have looked over.
Sigh. I swear I'm not trying to be Debbie Downer lol.
You'll probably just have to walk by him and say "Hi" but keep walking. Do it over and over again until it seems natural. Sooner or later he'll notice - if he's interested. Like I said, the gym can be tough. Most people don't go there for conversations or chit chat. You have an hr. to work out, and ya gotta get it done.
edit: Do you not use free weights? That is the best way to tone, seriously! Now you have even MORE reason to get over to "that side". Check out the exercise section here about free weights vs. machines. Free weights really takes it up a notch. And no, you won't get bulked up. Not unless you are taking steroids.
That would be somewhat obvious. . . especially as there are quite a number of guys in the vicinity (and women) and I just so happen to pick him, while wearing an eager smile on my face lol.
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I've been considering opening the lines of communication between us, but it seems near impossible! He's always so wrapped up in his work out and socializing with the other guys weight lifting. He barely pays any attention to any female so it's fair to say he is not at the gym to pick-up chicks.
I feel like a randy schoolgirl with a really bad case of the giggles and flushed cheeks.
He's too busy doing his own thing and chatting with the guys (can't blame him, he definitely didn't get that body by scoping out chicks at the gym).
