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The first thing you need to do is lose the "all NY'ers are players" mentality. Especially since you have a boyfriend that you cheated on to be with him. You're upset because you have no control over the situation that YOU created.
That's a good reply. I know many decent people from NY.
Players are all over, not 'just in NY.' I'd describe the OP as a player because she has a boyfriend, yet chose to cheat on him.
That's a good reply. I know many decent people from NY.
Players are all over, not 'just in NY.' I'd describe the OP as a player because she has a boyfriend, yet chose to cheat on him.
Excuse me? What's wrong with being a player? You are implying players are not decent people.
Excuse me? What's wrong with being a player? You are implying players are not decent people.
The issue here is that the OP is accusing this guy of being a player while she herself is out there playing behind her boyfriends back. It's the hypocrisy of it all.
The issue here is that the OP is accusing this guy of being a player while she herself is out there playing behind her boyfriends back. It's the hypocrisy of it all.
okay okay okay okay. thanks everyone for giving me the beat down on cheating on my boyfriend and pointing out the obvious. and honestly putting things in perspective for me. don't make the assumption that i don't know what i did was wrong and that this is something i do everyday. there are other factors that you don't know about that contributed to my decision to act as i did. it still doesn't excuse my behavior, i'm not saying that. i'll make it short: i found out that my boyfriend has a relationship with a girl that has gone beyond friendship. whether there's a physical connection, i'm not 100 percent sure, but it's definitely looking that way. and i know that there's definitely an emotional one.
we've worked through things and we've decided to stay together. but for whatever reason, i did what i did as an act of rebellion and because it felt right. if that makes me an immoral person that doesn't care about another person's feelings than fine. but i'm in the school of thought where i feel like you only live once and when you have that emotional charge and connection with someone, you should just act. because you never know if you'll get to be in that same place again.
of course the argument against that is if everyone acted like that our world would be complete and utter chaos.
truthfully, it's not so much that i'm beating myself up--more so that i didn't have anyone to talk to about it. it's not something i'd want to go broadcasting to those in my world, both professionally and friendship-wise.
Nala8, seriously, thank you for your comments and for trying to understand. they truly are helpful.
Coolhand68, your last comment also put things in perspective for me, so thank you. you're right, that's why i'm upset. i created a situation and Mr. Bronx is not letting me have control.
End of the line here, i'm going to let this go and move on. it was fun while it lasted and a connection i don't regret. sometimes things aren't always so black and white.
The issue here is that the OP is accusing this guy of being a player while she herself is out there playing behind her boyfriends back. It's the hypocrisy of it all.
With all the good men out there craving for some attention from women, it's sad that the men that have such attention use it like that.
But I guess it's logical. One only values what takes effort. Those guys often attract women so easily and therefore they don't value that.
i just had to respond to this one, its too funny
its not my fault that girls dont want these lame dudes "craving" for attention from women. Its too easy. i tell girls the same thing and they all eat it up. dont act like dudes who like getting different women are breaking the law, theres no rules to life. besides women like settling down too much, ill let the other guys marry her
and this is not a regional thing either, so please.
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