Is it a game? (girl, call, friend, couple)

[Yzette]

Originally Posted by tssmith528

Lol she is 40

I hope you don't have any pet bunnies.

[tssmith528]

Yes she is inmature and I think some mental issues going on also. Last summer when I broke up with her 3 days later she was already talking with guys on line and at the same time texting me. I didn't see her for two months not even texting her until I texted her back to stop contacting me, that's when she started really pursue to get back together. She started calling very often showing up at my house. I gave in because I loved her but I realized that she didn't love me she was using me. If someone wants me back they don't just text you "I miss you" or etc...they would try to talk it out. She did this last year and I went back regardless, she is doing the same thing, instead of calling and lets talk I get annoying texting like "hi hunny" or I miss you like nothing happened. And I am sorry but it's just not normal when somebody texts you everyday then sees you and doesn't say hi but 5 minutes later texting me that "I knew you saw me and for your info I was catching the bus". Don't get me wrong I don't care that she didn't say hi but why are you texting me when you don't want to or can't say hi???. Is it mental or what?

[tssmith528]

Originally Posted by dgfurman

Omg, if she is over 40 and doing this nonsense, then quite frankly (coming from a 45 yr old woman here), she is not stable. That is so not cool. Unbelievable.

When you say not stable what exactly do you mean? I am asking because a few friends of mine said the same thing.

[tssmith528]

Ok. Here is an update. Of course she kept texting me how much she missed me and she wants to work out our problems. I still didn't answer until me stupid yesterday. Frankly I don't want to work out our problems but I don't mind to remain friends. So I texted her back saying talking doesn't hurt I guess. Than she says she will come by today to my place because they are fixing something at her place. I told her it's best to meet at a public place to talk. She says fine. Then later I texted her back that if she has people over to fix things let's just meet next week. She says no it's fine don't worry, don't you want to talk tomorrow? I said there is no rush there is always next week. And that text was yesterday around six and I never heard back from her but last night I got a strange text from her friend asking me when I was coming over to her house? Note that I promised to come over to her friends house few weeks ago to cut their hair but she never initiated asking me when I was coming over until last night. Is my ex girl nunts playing headgames? Why she hasn't gotten back to me...waiting for a reaction from me how come she didn't get back to me after she said how much she is missing me? Is she a nut case? Should I remain friends with her, I mean I know her for a quite while but I think she is playing games. After she got me answered her text now she is doing this. What does she want from me?

[sophialee]

I am pretty shocked at all these recent threads with women that are quite a bit older than me acting like they are 18. WTH is up w/ that?

[PassTheChocolate]

Of course it's a game, but I'd see it more as confirmation of why you left her in the first place. She's wacko, Jacko.

[Thursday007]

Someone is having what I like to call an "Attention Attack!" The whole text about walking to catch the bus was so unnecessary and it was only because you paid her no attention.

The continued texting everyday is over the top and I would almost bet to guess she's watching you too and you don't know it and timing things so she will run into you. These women do exist in real life not just the movies. I would cut off ALL communication with her immediately and say it's for the best right now - and don't go meeting her or talk to her on the phone. If she continues to text you send her a certified letter stating to cease and desist or you'll file charges. If that doesn't work you can get a harassment restraining order to make her stop. I'm sorry but there is something a little bit too obsessive about her behavior - don't feed it.

[RUINER_SR4]

Originally Posted by PassTheChocolate

She's wacko, Jacko.

This x eleventy billionty seven.

I vote change your phone number asap!

[tssmith528]

Originally Posted by Thursday007

Someone is having what I like to call an "Attention Attack!" The whole text about walking to catch the bus was so unnecessary and it was only because you paid her no attention.

The continued texting everyday is over the top and I would almost bet to guess she's watching you too and you don't know it and timing things so she will run into you. These women do exist in real life not just the movies. I would cut off ALL communication with her immediately and say it's for the best right now - and don't go meeting her or talk to her on the phone. If she continues to text you send her a certified letter stating to cease and desist or you'll file charges. If that doesn't work you can get a harassment restraining order to make her stop. I'm sorry but there is something a little bit too obsessive about her behavior - don't feed it.

I don't think she is watching me or timing me because at 2:00 PM I am always at work and I am never in that area at that time. I lost my job and that's why I was driving that way to do something. And what I don't understand is she didn't even wonder what I was doing at that time in that area while I was supposed to be working...instead she was explaining herself which means fishy. She knows I am a good hearted person and was there for her and now I only want to be friends with her which I am questioning now thanks to everyone's input on this board.

[Thursday007]

There are few exceptions to the 'friends after a relationship' rule - this ain't one of them. It's toxic.