What kind of relationship would you rather have?

[profgent1]

Originally Posted by smel

Neither. Ever. If I am in a relationship, and the guy did not claim me wth? And if he said I was his gf, but didn't want to spend time with me again wth? So, I would not settle for either of your choices. You would just be shortchanging yourself either way.

Considering this is more than a philosophical argument, the real life experience, deciding from one or the other, SHOULD be neither. As respondents have stated, both options are not satisfactory. A real man will treat you way better and give you want you want to be happy. I would add, holding out for more than either option offers "ups" the ante, to encourage the fellow to make better choices.

A woman I know aptly stated, 'if you want some of this, you have to court me.' A real man will court a woman and a real woman shouldn't settle for less. Guys get away with way too much. Telling a man what you want is not the same as someone who will never get to that point of working to be pleasing to a woman, and is only looking to notch the belt.

[smel]

Originally Posted by profgent1

Considering this is more than a philosophical argument, the real life experience, deciding from one or the other, SHOULD be neither. As respondents have stated, both options are not satisfactory. A real man will treat you way better and give you want you want to be happy. I would add, holding out for more than either option offers "ups" the ante, to encourage the fellow to make better choices.

A woman I know aptly stated, 'if you want some of this, you have to court me.' A real man will court a woman and a real woman shouldn't settle for less. Guys get away with way too much. Telling a man what you want is not the same as someone who will never get to that point of working to be pleasing to a woman, and is only looking to notch the belt.

Thank you. I couldn't agree more.