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Old 03-20-2010, 12:07 PM
 
Location: DFW
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If we're strictly talking about non-relationship, "baby, honey, darlin'" it's unprofessional and should never be used unless it's a older person (grandparent age) or you are addressing a child (under 10).
If your grandmother told the truth she did it cause she couldn't remember all the grandkids names. She used the generic terms like that so she didn't call one kid another kids name.

After the age of 70 it's OK to call any relative those names.
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Old 03-20-2010, 12:15 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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If we're strictly talking about non-relationship, "baby, honey, darlin'" it's unprofessional and shoud never be used unless it's a older person (grandparent age) or you are addressing a child (under 10).
Just what I was thinking. It's cool to be of an age where you can call the kids "honey" or "sweetie" and not automatically be seen as a perv.

On the other hand, it seems that whenever I use the term "Ma'am", women throw a fit.

"DON'T CALL ME MA'AM - I'M NOT THAT OLD!!!"

Sheesh...just trying to be polite...

...but "M'Lady" seems to ring some bells.
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Old 03-20-2010, 12:19 PM
 
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When I hear those terms from anyone it cools me pretty quickly. I had a supervisor at work who called me "baby girl" and it irked me to no end.

An SO is fine, but my pet name better be original - no baby, honey, sugar.
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Old 03-20-2010, 12:21 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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An SO is fine, but my pet name better be original - no baby, honey, sugar.
OK, Crappy Bugger!
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Old 03-20-2010, 12:26 PM
 
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OK, Crappy Bugger!
Now that's love. lol
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Old 03-20-2010, 12:42 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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Now that's love. lol
Yep, some of the pet names people come up with for each other...
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Old 03-20-2010, 01:10 PM
 
Location: My Private Island
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When I hear those terms from anyone it cools me pretty quickly. I had a supervisor at work who called me "baby girl" and it irked me to no end.

An SO is fine, but my pet name better be original - no baby, honey, sugar.
Ugh...that would irk me also. I hate "boo" too! No one calls me that but I hate to hear it along with other various pet names people call each other.
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Old 03-20-2010, 01:22 PM
 
Location: Nashville, Tn
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I've noticed since I moved to the South that it's very common for waitresses in particular to come up to you and say something like "What can I get for you darlin'". I don't see anything wrong with it at all, they're just being friendly. When I was working one of my good friends who was a woman started calling me "Boyfriend Bob" and pretty soon everybody in the office was calling me that. I also didn't mind that at all. I do agree it would be different if some strange guy came up to a woman and used some term like baby and I can understand how a woman might be put off by it because it tends to sound like part of a bar room pickup line. I guess it just depends on the circumstances.
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Old 03-20-2010, 01:31 PM
 
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When men are addressed by women with these terms, it's folksy and endearing.

When women are addressed by men with these terms, it's patronizing and condescending.

Why is that?
Not always the case; it depends on the setting & culture in which you live. Where I live these terms are interchangeable in a casual setting, however in a professional setting this terminology may be misconstrued as harassment or slander.
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Old 03-20-2010, 02:20 PM
 
Location: Hawaii
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I don't like them said to me unless it's by my husband. I think it seems like thiey're treating me like a child. I think it's the same way when a woman says it to a man (who she's not in a relationship with) it just sounds like you're reffering to them as a child.
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