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There are people who do just that. When you take away their job title, they feel lost, like they have nothing else to define them. And it isn't just their job. A lot of people view themselves in terms of their relationship to someone else. I'm a father or I'm a husband for example. Well what were they before they got married and had kids? What are they after their divorced? People really need to distinguish WHO they are from WHAT they are.
There are people who do just that. When you take away their job title, they feel lost, like they have nothing else to define them. And it isn't just their job. A lot of people view themselves in terms of their relationship to someone else. I'm a father or I'm a husband for example. Well what were they before they got married and had kids? What are they after their divorced? People really need to distinguish WHO they are from WHAT they are.
That's one reason a lot of people have trouble after retirement. I've seen lot's of guys retire from the military or police force and feel as though they lost their identity upon retirement. For a lot of them it came down to a need for affiliation too. When they were no longer a part of something they felt lost or left out.
There are people who do just that. When you take away their job title, they feel lost, like they have nothing else to define them. And it isn't just their job. A lot of people view themselves in terms of their relationship to someone else. I'm a father or I'm a husband for example. Well what were they before they got married and had kids? What are they after their divorced? People really need to distinguish WHO they are from WHAT they are.
If I wasn't working, I wouldn't be the same person.
If I wasn't working, I wouldn't be the same person.
Actually you would be. You'd be the same person just without a job. Did all of your personality traits suddenly appear after you started working? The person who's kind, honest and reliable is still those things without a job. Likewise, the person who's a total jerk is still a jerk if he loses his job. Why do you define yourself in terms of what you do for a living instead of qualities like character?
I have no problem identifying myself by what I do, because certain vocations really do capture the essence of one's life and do not have endpoints like retirement. What I do is so ingrained in the fiber of my being that to stop doing it would turn me into someone else entirely, if I didn't shrivel up and die, first.
Actually you would be. You'd be the same person just without a job. Did all of your personality traits suddenly appear after you started working? The person who's kind, honest and reliable is still those things without a job. Likewise, the person who's a total jerk is still a jerk if he loses his job. Why do you define yourself in terms of what you do for a living instead of qualities like character?
My personality only shows through my job. I've had people say I have no personality.
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