What does this mean?! Email from my ex

[miu]

Originally Posted by lilamx

But then he proceeds to tell me this: "Heyy hope everything is going well with u in *name of country*! hows everything with u?? kinda miss u . its funny, although we've been broken up for a longgg time and im seeing someone, u cross my mind quite a bit... just thought id share that and hope everythings going well with u . OH btw.."

How old are the both of you? Did he really type in "u" instead of "you" in the message? And the lack of capitalization? And did he really use those emoticons? I suppose that he text emailed you all of that, but I could never take an email seriously if it were typed out like that as if he were in high school. Maybe he is trying to act all cute and charming, but it wouldn't work on me.

Maybe he does miss your company, but him mentioning his current status as having a girlfriend seems like a way to see if you still like him romantically despite him not being single. Sort of a way to open the doors for you being a future FWB for him. And I feel sorry for his current girlfriend since he's not that into her and still continuing to be with her. Who wants to be with a guy like that? Not me.

Anyway, my take on his message is that it's a phishing email. Talk is cheap. Ignore what he says and types to you, and only pay attention to what actually does. And he's with another woman and in another country, and not on a airplane to you. So don't get your hopes up.

[mag32gie]

Just keep thinking about all of the reasons you broke up to begin with.
He probably does think about you sometimes when he is lonely and would like to have a little email fling but the reason you are not together will probably keep popping back up.

[lilamx]

You guys are right. I'm not really sweating that email anyways. Like I said, I was just surprised since not once since the breakup had he mentioned anything like that, he has a lot of pride. If that email had arrived a few months back I'd probably be ecstatic since I was still hung up on him. He knew he had me at the tips of his fingertips. Now I'm a different person, and I'm completely happy without him.
I hadn't considered his girlfriend, now that you guys mention it...I do feel sorry for her. And it makes me lose respect for him and take him down that pedestal I once had him on. Another funny thing is that only a few days before leaving to another country he invited me over to watch a movie...and tried to have sex with me. I don't think it was planned, it just happened, but luckily I didn't give in. He asked if it was because I was afraid my feelings for him might resurge- yeah right! What sickens me is that looking back, at that moment he was more than likely pursuing his current girlfriend or dating her since not long afterwards he was "in a relationship". So I really do feel sorry for her. Oh well.

[gentlearts]

Sounds like he wants to keep you percolating on the back burner just in case he made a mistake. I would not change my attitude towards him one iota, if I were you. In fact I'd be even more unavailable than before. Wait twice as long to return the email, and don't refer to what he wrote at all.

[sweetheart1311]

I can relate. After my ex husband left me, we had no contact for 4 months. Then we saw each other again. He gave me a hug, looked at me and said "I missed you, you know that?".

[Yzette]

Originally Posted by sweetheart1311

I can relate. After my ex husband left me, we had no contact for 4 months. Then we saw each other again. He gave me a hug, looked at me and said "I missed you, you know that?".

See, I would have been all, "Awwwww, aren't you cute? Well, nice running into you. Take care."

Living well is the best revenge.