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Look, eight out of ten relationships with that big of an age difference aren't gonna last past a couple years. That's because the relationships is, in the vast majority of cases, built upon superfluous things, like lust or initial fascination, or un-resolved Daddy Issues, or just plain ol' Gold Digger mentality, instead of the things that matter most in finding a true mate.
When I was 33 I married a 21-year-old. She said one night she and her gf's walked into the club I was playing at and after we played two songs she told her freinds she was "gonna marry that drummer dude."
Our marriage lasted for a little over two years.
I rest my case.
Look, eight out of ten relationships with that big of an age difference aren't gonna last past a couple years. That's because the relationships is, in the vast majority of cases, built upon superfluous things, like lust or initial fascination, or un-resolved Daddy Issues, or just plain ol' Gold Digger mentality, instead of the things that matter most in finding a true mate.
He's right. For me he was my knight in shining armour when I was going through a hard time. 9 years on and I want to end it. Nothing he has done really, I have just grown up and become my own person. I had been out of school for 3 years when I met him - he had been out for 20.
EDIT: btw the only reason we have been together for so long is because I am a coward. I wanted to end things 4 years ago when I was 26. I know how horrible that is, trust me, I live with it every day but I still can't work up the courage...
There's actually 2 questions here. Can a 25 year age difference work? Should a 42 year old date a 17 year old?.
I think the answers are different. Can a 25 year age difference work? - Most certainly it can. It's compatibility not chronolgical age that matters. Can a 17-42 year old relationship work? Highly unlikely, simply because it is doubtful that a 17 year old has actually completed the psychological processes to actually know who they are. Certainly I hadn't embraced all the parts of my identity until my mid-late 20s, it would have been fun but irresponsible to enter into a serious relationship with ANYONE before that. A 75-50 age difference looks much different.
The last date I went on I was 18 years older than he is and we had a great time.
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Of course you could always go by the biblical recommendations on age. 1/2 + 7 (assuming you're straight - the equation is different for gay couples) So at 45 the youngest you should date is 29/30 year olds.
Of course you could always go by the biblical recommendations on age. 1/2 + 7 (assuming you're straight - the equation is different for gay couples) So at 45 the youngest you should date is 29/30 year olds.
Where does it say anything about this in the Bible?
It can work as age is just a number. However, there is a big difference between 17 and 42. The teenager is/was just a child though nearly a legal adult. The folks involved are in different stages of life and will have very different motivations, thoughts, dreams and desires. It could work, though. Nothing new under the sun, to coin a phrase.
There's actually 2 questions here. Can a 25 year age difference work? Should a 42 year old date a 17 year old?.
I think the answers are different. Can a 25 year age difference work? - Most certainly it can. It's compatibility not chronolgical age that matters. Can a 17-42 year old relationship work? Highly unlikely, simply because it is doubtful that a 17 year old has actually completed the psychological processes to actually know who they are. Certainly I hadn't embraced all the parts of my identity until my mid-late 20s, it would have been fun but irresponsible to enter into a serious relationship with ANYONE before that. A 75-50 age difference looks much different.
The last date I went on I was 18 years older than he is and we had a great time.
Yeah, thanks, New Member, for resurrecting a 10-year-old thread. We've been through this topic so many times, on so may threads... But what several men have said, who were the older one in a marriage with a "young" wife, is that once the guys got to age 60 or so, and the wife was 40 or younger, she decided to move on.
Nothing to see here, people. Move along, move along. Same old, same old.
I doubt its going to last, but most relationships that we engage in at 17 don't last. The question I would be asking is whether this guy is better than your other options and if this relationship does end will you regret more that you entered into this relationship or that you didn't.
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