Online Dating Profile: Lie about my age? (marrying, females, statistics)
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Thanks. The point is that I would never say I'm something that I'm not just to get past the initial screen which is what the OP is trying to do. Even if it's something minor like an inch of height or one year in your age, it makes a bad first impression. Supposed I wasn't interested in women taller than me. I find one profile where the girl is 5'8" and then click on it to read more. Then I discover she's actually 5'9", but said she was 5'8" cause she was worried guys would screen her out, my first thought would be, "so this person tricked me into reading their profile. No thanks."
Oh, Geez, some of ya are way too stuffy! Once somebody sees you and she likes you, an inch won't matter at all! Same the other way around! She's not gonna measure you and I'd hope neither would you! Besides, even men wear shoes! Those shoes should have at least an inch of a heel, I'd think!
I think he is agreeing that the the strategy makes sense, and that no one will feel duped because they are just going to judge me as attractive or not over all else.
I think he is agreeing that the the strategy makes sense, and that no one will feel duped because they are just going to judge me as attractive or not over all else.
That wasn't my impression, but anyway... Enough of that!
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Originally Posted by Coolhand68
Precisely.
He-he, I think that's the first time I waste energy arguing with you.
Oh, Geez, some of ya are way too stuffy! Once somebody sees you and she likes you, an inch won't matter at all! Same the other way around! She's not gonna measure you and I'd hope neither would you! Besides, even men wear shoes! Those shoes should have at least an inch of a heel, I'd think!
The issue isn't height. It's honesty. If you lie about something so trivial as an inch of height just to get someone to look at your profile, that says something about you. First impressions matter.
Thanks. The point is that I would never say I'm something that I'm not just to get past the initial screen which is what the OP is trying to do. Even if it's something minor like an inch of height or one year in your age, it makes a bad first impression. Supposed I wasn't interested in women taller than me. I find one profile where the girl is 5'8" and then click on it to read more. Then I discover she's actually 5'9", but said she was 5'8" cause she was worried guys would screen her out, my first thought would be, "so this person tricked me into reading their profile. No thanks."
Does this actually happen? I've never heard of a woman lying about her height.
The issue isn't height. It's honesty. If you lie about something so trivial as an inch of height just to get someone to look at your profile, that says something about you. First impressions matter.
It's not even a lie! I bet half the people don't even know exactly how tall they are. And we shrink! When was the last time you were measured? School? Well, you may be 5'7 1/2 by now! As tall as I am, I may disappear by the end of the road.
Does this actually happen? I've never heard of a woman lying about her height.
I have. Had a coworker who was really 6' tall but she would put 5'10" on her profile because she was concerned about being weeded out.
As for your situation, it may work or it may not. If it were me I would just bite the bullet and put the real age in the area where it is searchable, not just in the descriptive text.
I had a friend who lied on her profile by 5 years (she was 42 and said she was 37). So she met plenty of guys that way. She looked younger, so nobody suspected it either. However, on one date, she told me how the slightly younger guy who took her out was disparaging women over 40 who approached him at a niteclub the previous week. He was saying, "Imagine her thinking ... an old hag of 42 ... that I would be interested in her?" He was jerk enough to say it out loud to her (even though he didn't know she was 42), but many men will think it and not say it. After she heard that tirade of course she could not 'fess up to what she had done and that she too was an "old hag of 42."
That is because you don't appear to understand what I mean by fertility. Men are interested in the signs of it because its pleasurable. Its simply nature's manipulation. The concept of an unplanned pregnancy would not exist if we ordered them out of a catalog.
Not all people are as "hepped up" about companionship as you are. Ask yourself why you, as a 45 year old, find plenty of men in their 50s.
BTW what prejudices do I harbor other than sexual pleasure exists because it causes us to reproduce? In that case, I am simply not an idiot. Was their another one?
And stop yelling. It comes off as rapid insecurity.
First of all, I'm emphasizing words, not yelling. And what is "rapid" insecurity? Perhaps you mean "rabid?" Regardless, it's not an issue.
You discount companionship but it's the only thing that endures. Otherwise, there would be no longterm male/female relationships once women lost their fertility. And the qualities that attract companionship are more reliable and, in the longterm, pleasurable than that which initiates sexual desire. You know, "silly" things like intelligence, education, interests, shared ideologies. Animals are driven by their sexual instincts but humans require much more than that.
Why do I find "plenty of men in their 50s?" Because that's the age group I WANT to find. I don't respond to men who are a lot younger than myself, even though some of them are apparently attracted to me.
As for your "prejudices," reread your own comments in this thread. They are condescending toward middle-aged females. Your remark about the 34-year-old man and the singles group was very telling. If you feel that way, fine. But don't project it onto the populous.
I have. Had a coworker who was really 6' tall but she would put 5'10" on her profile because she was concerned about being weeded out.
As for your situation, it may work or it may not. If it were me I would just bite the bullet and put the real age in the area where it is searchable, not just in the descriptive text.
I had a friend who lied on her profile by 5 years (she was 42 and said she was 37). So she met plenty of guys that way. She looked younger, so nobody suspected it either. However, on one date, she told me how the slightly younger guy who took her out was disparaging women over 40 who approached him at a niteclub the previous week. He was saying, "Imagine her thinking ... an old hag of 42 ... that I would be interested in her?" He was jerk enough to say it out loud to her (even though he didn't know she was 42), but many men will think it and not say it. After she heard that tirade of course she could not 'fess up to what she had done and that she too was an "old hag of 42."
OUCH! That had to really sting. But then again, anyone who would refer to any group of women as "old hags" is quite a jerk... I don't care if its a group of 85 y.o. women at a nursing home.
So what happened next with these two?
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