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My sis and I have always been very very close. It is only the two of us, with only 2 years separating us.
When we were about 16 and 14, she developed a massive crush on a guy we both knew. Turned out he had developed a massive crush too - on me. Nothing ever happened between us.
Ever since then my sister has been very wary about me meeting her potential boyfriends. Now at 28 she has a man who she has been with for about 9 months, and who she also now lives with. I am still yet to meet him.
Every time I suggest dinner/drinks/get together, she comes up with some reason why it can't happen. About 5 months ago I added him on FB just to say hi and she absolutely freeeeeaked at me. It has gotten to a point where it is really starting to seriously hurt me, and it doesn't help that my mum constantly takes her side, defends her and makes excuses - I know they say parents don't pick favourites but trust me, this is not the case with her little angel. She even tells me to stop being so dramatic if I bring it up with her.
I don't know what to do. I feel like I have to push my way into her life. It's SO embarassing every time someone asks "so what's your sister's bf like" and I have to tell them I haven't met him. Everyone knows how close we are and they are always really shocked. What can I do without being a total biatch?
She's younger. We have discussed it on the phone before and it doesn't seem to get me anywhere, we always end up in a fight. She thinks I am being silly and makes me feel like the bad guy because she says she has had a lot on her plate and just hasn't gotten around to organising something for the 4 of us (me, her, both the bf's).
I am going to lunch with my mum today, should I give talking to her one last shot?
Every time I suggest dinner/drinks/get together, she comes up with some reason why it can't happen. About 5 months ago I added him on FB just to say hi and she absolutely freeeeeaked at me. It has gotten to a point where it is really starting to seriously hurt me, and it doesn't help that my mum constantly takes her side, defends her and makes excuses - I know they say parents don't pick favourites but trust me, this is not the case with her little angel. She even tells me to stop being so dramatic if I bring it up with her.
I don't know what to do. I feel like I have to push my way into her life. It's SO embarassing every time someone asks "so what's your sister's bf like" and I have to tell them I haven't met him. Everyone knows how close we are and they are always really shocked. What can I do without being a total biatch?
So your sister was only with this guy for 4 months when you "friended" him on FB? I think that was an aggressive move, especially since you hadn't even met him yet.
My younger sister was very strong willed. A cute guy moved in next to my mom and she hadn't even met him and she said, "I'm going to marry that boy." Guess what? She did! I learned to try using reverse psychology on her. Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn't. Worth a try....
You appear to be making all the wrong moves. You keep pushing her to meet him, knowing that she doesn't want you to. You added him to FB, knowing that she wouldn't want you to. What is your next move?
Perhaps you are giving her reason to be wary. Who knows.
Perhaps you are giving her reason to be wary. Who knows.
I would never do anything even close to that. I friended him on Facebook because I didn't see any other way that I was ever going to speak to him at that stage... and now look, 5 months later and still nothing. I know now that it probably wasn't the right thing to do, but my sis hadn't had a boyfriend in 10 years, since she was 18 in high school, and I was desperate to meet the man who was finally making her so happy!!!
As for my next move, I have no idea. What on earth more can I do??
Last edited by yankeegirl313; 04-07-2010 at 06:14 AM..
I would never do anything even close to that. I friended him on Facebook because I didn't see any other way that I was ever going to speak to him at that stage... and now look, 5 months later and still nothing. I know now that it probably wasn't the right thing to do, but my sis hadn't had a boyfriend in 10 years, since she was 18 in high school, and I was desperate to meet the man who was finally making her so happy!!!
As for my next move, I have no idea. What on earth more can I do??
That made me lol.
Don't mean to offend, but what do you expect? She doesn't want you to meet him, but you seem keen to push her buttons and do everything to upset her. Why can't you just respect her wishes?
Last edited by yankeegirl313; 04-07-2010 at 06:14 AM..
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