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Old 04-07-2010, 06:39 AM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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Default Why are so many women suddenly bisexual?

I've heard different opinions, from, 'because it's seen as cool and guys like it', to 'because they are more free to be honest about their sexuality...'

The truth may be somewhere in between, I think. It definitely is a socio-cultural phenomenon, because like even 15 years ago it was quite a stigma to say you were bisexual or a lesbian. Then suddenly, from the early 00s, I suddenly heard alot of talk about threesomes, 'experimenting with the same sex' blah blah. I honestly think alot of women are kind of encouraged to go that way, it's like we may all have the seed of potential, but it's watered by our environment. I actually think pornography has alot to do it because like, at least 30% of internet porn seems to be lesbian/girl on girl. Women are also conditioned to see females as the more 'sexy' or desireable gender because of the male dominated viewpoint of sexuality.

I think it's true women's sexuality is fluid but men's is probably more fluid than they think. The strength of the stigma is so strong it kind of drowns everything out. If more women than men are bisexual why has bisexuality seemed to be more common in men in history? I don't think social pressures are the reason because if anything male homosexuality has been stigmatized more than female.

For awhile I admit I had a lesbian porn addiction but I'm kind of getting over that a bit. This may sound ridiculous, but it almost seems some women would rather date a really attractive woman rather than an unattractive man? I'd imagine that would feel quite emasculating for some. Do you think that'd be common or is it my imagination? Feminism encourages women to be with other women so they can supposedly 'know their own bodies better' as if they don't already have access to them 24/7, lol.

I'm not going on a crusade against it (ok I admit after watching enough lesbian porn and waking up to the fact I was getting no 'action' because I was a loser who stayed home and watched this **** while at the same time I wasn't getting any dates kind of skewed with my mind), it just seems society has a real fetish over it, it's like in your face with all these celebrities suddenly 'coming out.' I'm willing to bet if this was thirty years ago most would still be in their imaginery 'closets.'

Someone said something sounded quite ridiculous, that men have more 'competition' for hot women from other women, lmao. Even 10 years ago true bisexuality seemed rare now suddenly 'enlightened' women are just getting in touch with their sexuality. I don't want to degrade lesbians but it seems more like not caring about the gender and doing it out of erotic pleasure, like a kind of mutual masturbation. Maybe we're not really all bi, but simply have the capacity to gain erotic pleasure from both genders? Like Bonobos or something?

 
Old 04-07-2010, 06:57 AM
 
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it could be:

- because society is more open/tolerant these days.
- to jump on the bandwagon, and appear cool.

this may sound inflammatory to some, but the second reason IMO is more plausible.
 
Old 04-07-2010, 06:57 AM
 
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It's just a trend that will phase out eventually.
 
Old 04-07-2010, 07:10 AM
 
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I think samston is right. It's a cool thing in Hollyweird to be bi and flaunt it.
It's sort of like they 'trend set' various things and can be in your face with it because 'they are stars.'

The OP is very right how it was a stigma to be 'bi' or 'gay' not too long ago. In college, in the '80s, the worst thing you could do was call someone gay or lesbian.

If you wanted to stick it to someone and make them outcasts, starting a rumor about being 'gay' was the way..

It was not tolerated and very few people would be friends with you. I found out later 2 of my close college friends were gay but because of the stigma they have never openly revealed this. (I found out by accident when another friend told me.)
 
Old 04-07-2010, 07:27 AM
 
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I think samston is right. It's a cool thing in Hollyweird to be bi and flaunt it.
It's sort of like they 'trend set' various things and can be in your face with it because 'they are stars.'

The OP is very right how it was a stigma to be 'bi' or 'gay' not too long ago. In college, in the '80s, the worst thing you could do was call someone gay or lesbian.

If you wanted to stick it to someone and make them outcasts, starting a rumor about being 'gay' was the way..

It was not tolerated and very few people would be friends with you. I found out later 2 of my close college friends were gay but because of the stigma they have never openly revealed this. (I found out by accident when another friend told me.)
I find it interesting how alot of the old Hollywood stars were bisexual when it was such a far out thing.

Like Brando, Dietrich, Greta Garbo, James Dean - a very long list, apparently
 
Old 04-07-2010, 08:26 AM
 
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It's just a trend that will phase out eventually.
I don't know about phasing out eventually, but for now, it is definitely a trend...and the culprits are getting younger and younger. My daughter is 17 and she has sooooo many bi-sexual friends. My girlfriend's daughter is 19 and she told her mother all her friends are bi-sexual now. When I was in school, over 25 years ago, you were SHUNNED for being that way. Now, its like the "in" thing. Females are getting turned out on each other by the masses.
 
Old 04-07-2010, 08:34 AM
 
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I don't know about phasing out eventually, but for now, it is definitely a trend...and the culprits are getting younger and younger. My daughter is 17 and she has sooooo many bi-sexual friends. My girlfriend's daughter is 19 and she told her mother all her friends are bi-sexual now. When I was in school, over 25 years ago, you were SHUNNED for being that way. Now, its like the "in" thing. Females are getting turned out on each other by the masses.
Lol, that bad eh?

Even when I was in high school it wasn't that normal. I'm 24, graduated in 2003, and it seems the few who said they were bi actually WERE bi. I recall only the wilder girls kissing each other at parties, but like only a few years later its the norm for teens.
 
Old 04-07-2010, 08:41 AM
 
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Why are so many women suddenly bisexual?

Because it's as trendy as bellbottoms and big collars, leg warmers and big hair and anything else that has come down through the ages as a fad/trend.

I sure don't want to be here when they run out of things to call themselves.
 
Old 04-07-2010, 08:46 AM
 
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It's a fad and little more. While our society is more open and understanding of homosexual acts of any sort than it once was, you don't see men doing the same thing at anything near the same level.

What does that say to you, aside from the fact that we tend to treat genders differently? If the homosexuality itself was the issue, we wouldn't be -- but it's not.

Being "bi" is cool and guys like it.

Guys liking it means it draws attention.

It carries less of a stigma because even women will say they find women more aesthetically pleasing on a physical level, even women who are sexually drawn only to men. Men find it appealing AND we're geared to allow women to get away with things we do NOT allow men to get away with.

Once more: Fad, plain and simple. If you don't believe me, look at the number of college Freshmen and Sophomore women who are publicly (and most adamantly) declaring their bisexuality, look at the waning number by Junior year, and look at how many resolutely deny it once they're Seniors or graduating, because now they've got to get out and look responsible and respectable.

Is it merely the respectability stopping them? As stated, our society is more open and understanding; further, it's entirely illegal to ASK about such things in a work environment, so it's not like someone will be pressing them on the matter and they'll be denied a job.

Nearly all of them will marry MEN and will NOT reveal any bisexual activity in their past to him until AFTER they are legally bound. But since men think this is cool, wouldn't it be a draw rather than reason to back away?

Ah, the problem there is one of reputation once more; when it comes to screwing around, bisexual girls give off the signal of being open -- open to random sexual encounters, open to non-commitment style relationships, etc. Not saying it's right or wrong but it's the signal men get. Meanwhile the girls just LURRRRVES the attention they're getting. OMG LOL, did u c the way those guys went nutz when we kissed? In girl-think, attention means POWER.

Yet when it comes to marriage, you have to keep this guy, you have to impress his family, you have to present yourself in the best possible light; and saying you're bisexual STILL gives off those messages and now potentially suggests a sexually wanton attitude and the possibility of infidelity down the line, at least to his parents, if not to him. To HIM it suggests that you got around a lot in college.

So by the time these women are graduating college they have NO idea what or whom you're talking about when you refer to "that time in college, didn't you say you were bisexual?" No sirree, no idea whatsoever.
 
Old 04-07-2010, 08:50 AM
 
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I'm intrigued by this whole LUG (lesbian until graduation) phenomenon stereotype in the US. I doubt we had anything like that here, but we're still following the American trend. Shows like Double Shot at Love are probably helping, lol.

I think in the 00s it's alot more so than in the 90s, for some reason, as I said so much publicity about GLBT issues that every 'straight' gal - but seemingly not straight guys - wants to get somehow involved, even if it's just pashing your best friend at a party.

I think you're right Urban Sasquatch, in that it's to suit societal expectations, but I think in the next 10 years you'll probably see it being more acceptable for women into middle age.
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