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Old 04-10-2010, 05:46 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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Hello folks...


Well, long story short: I dated a girl for 8 months. For various reasons I don't want to get into, on Wednesday we broke up. However, we both felt awful (and we did it over the phone... I instigated it, I guess. I couldn't see her till today) and decided we would meet up today and talk, and see if we could try and make things right. Well, after a lengthy discussion I decided that we couldn't, and so we ended it.

So how do I get over it? This was the first real relationship and love that I've had. Not only that, she was my best friend. Things used to be amazing, but they deteriorated. We're still on talking terms I guess, although I want to keep away from talking to her for a bit so I can more quickly distance myself from those past emotions.

How long did it take you? I'm a male btw. I know everybody's different, but I just want an idea. I don't have much of a support group around here... my closest friends are in school elsewhere and won't be back till May. I do have my family, but I unfortunately live at school so I can't see them everyday (not easily, at least).
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Old 04-10-2010, 05:47 PM
 
Location: Harrisonburg, VA
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Half gallon of ice cream. Perhaps a full gallon if you dated for longer then a year.
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Old 04-10-2010, 06:14 PM
 
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Hello folks...


Well, long story short: I dated a girl for 8 months. For various reasons I don't want to get into, on Wednesday we broke up. However, we both felt awful (and we did it over the phone... I instigated it, I guess. I couldn't see her till today) and decided we would meet up today and talk, and see if we could try and make things right. Well, after a lengthy discussion I decided that we couldn't, and so we ended it.

So how do I get over it? This was the first real relationship and love that I've had. Not only that, she was my best friend. Things used to be amazing, but they deteriorated. We're still on talking terms I guess, although I want to keep away from talking to her for a bit so I can more quickly distance myself from those past emotions.

How long did it take you? I'm a male btw. I know everybody's different, but I just want an idea. I don't have much of a support group around here... my closest friends are in school elsewhere and won't be back till May. I do have my family, but I unfortunately live at school so I can't see them everyday (not easily, at least).
I'm still getting over mine and it has been over a month. I'm going to be doing some hardcore fishing in the very near future. It should help some and take my mind off of it. I think it also depends on how far you went to find what you were looking for. In my case I took it to the max and it was one of the dumbest things I have ever done in my life. Here is some fishing music for ya!
YouTube - Born on the bayou
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Old 04-10-2010, 06:34 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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I'll give you the most honest and simplest answer.




Time.

Its just gonna take some time.
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Old 04-10-2010, 06:50 PM
 
Location: Neither here nor there
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Time and keep yourself occupied as much as possible with things that interest you. Lots of possibilities but just don't get into a rebound relationship until this one is far into the background. Good luck.
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Old 04-10-2010, 06:53 PM
 
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I'll give you the most honest and simplest answer.




Time.

Its just gonna take some time.
Here is one for that as well! There you have it OP. Two American classics that should help point you in the right direction. Good luck buddy!

YouTube - The Chambers Brothers - Time Has Come Today
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Old 04-10-2010, 06:53 PM
 
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Hello folks...


Well, long story short: I dated a girl for 8 months. For various reasons I don't want to get into, on Wednesday we broke up. However, we both felt awful (and we did it over the phone... I instigated it, I guess. I couldn't see her till today) and decided we would meet up today and talk, and see if we could try and make things right. Well, after a lengthy discussion I decided that we couldn't, and so we ended it.

So how do I get over it? This was the first real relationship and love that I've had. Not only that, she was my best friend. Things used to be amazing, but they deteriorated. We're still on talking terms I guess, although I want to keep away from talking to her for a bit so I can more quickly distance myself from those past emotions.

How long did it take you? I'm a male btw. I know everybody's different, but I just want an idea. I don't have much of a support group around here... my closest friends are in school elsewhere and won't be back till May. I do have my family, but I unfortunately live at school so I can't see them everyday (not easily, at least).
Time is really the only thing that makes it go away.

The only other thing you can do is distract yourself. If you're emotionally ready, you should start dating again, but only if you can leave the baggage of the last relationship behind you and start mentally fresh with a new girl. That's the quickest way to get over someone.

The other things you can do to distract yourself is to keep busy, do things that you enjoy doing and don't allow room for thought. For me, it's play sports with friends or pickup basketball. Don't go running or biking, as you will be open to think too much. Pickup a PS3 or Xbox and melt your mind away on that. I know I'm definitely not thinking about girls when I play my PS3, and a lot of times I lose track of time as well.

Good luck buddy.
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Old 04-10-2010, 06:56 PM
 
Location: Hot Springs, AR
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I honestly can't think of a situation I've walked away from that I given a second thought. Mostly because if I initiate the break-up it's because I've exhausted every possibility of making the situation work.

I think it's interesting that since you are the one who intiated the break that you are having a hard time dealing with it. I'm going to assume there was a deal breaker situation you wouldn't or couldn't find a middle ground on. Whatever the reason for breaking it off, if you are having a hard time dealing with it, maybe you should re-think your position and the break-up.

If you really can't get back then Chow is right, the only true healer will be time. Good Luck.
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Old 04-10-2010, 07:00 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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Thanks for the advice guys.

Anyone own a time machine? One that goes forward?
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Old 04-10-2010, 07:02 PM
 
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Thanks for the advice guys.

Anyone own a time machine? One that goes forward?
I have one for that too but I'll let you guess?LOL......... Good luck!
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