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Old 04-15-2010, 06:09 PM
 
Location: Russian Federation
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Default You deserve better

Ok, I'm starting this thread with no intention to offend anyone, but i really wonder why it is so?
Here's the thing: i've read through enough threads here and i find that people here are so willing to help whoever comes their way.
For example, it kills me to hear people say "you deserve better" to someone they don't know. I mean how can you really know? I just read a thread about a girl who got used for sex (omg!). I hear people tell her: i hope you find a guy that treats you right, like you deserve. But how do you know what she deserves? Maybe she's a freaking demon in flesh and she deserves nothing more than to be treated like this? Maybe not, of course, but you just never know! Maybe a bit of research before you tell her "stay the way she is" and "the problem is in him, not in you"?
Girls, that guys use solely for sex are usually: FAR from smart (i mean, if you're being used and you have a brain you will NOTICE it quite soon), demanding and the only reason guys would want to be with them is cuz they're hot. That's the kinda girls men cheat on their wives with. Men buy them presents, take them places and then they want it the way their wife won't let them.
Usually people here tend to judge and terrorize girls like this. But should one of them come weeping and crawling, the same people are there to comfort her.
Of course, considering the girl to be evil and deserving to be punished is just an assumption, but considering to her to be nice and "deserving the right guy" is an assumption too, right?.
Maybe there are reasons for him to use her like that?
Again, i just took the used girl as an example. (used girl, don't get offended, we all had hard times. tough sh**. get over it). I can say the same about:
comforting "the nice guys", the wives who've been cheated on, husbands who've been cheated on, the girls/guys that desperately want to break up with their SOs, people tired of marriage and so on and so forth.
I say people usually get what they deserve. Everyone's got skeletons in their closets, after all. If they want just patting on the back, let's start another general forum - "support groups", but when you come here, don't go berserk if someone says "you brought it on yourself".
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Old 04-15-2010, 06:15 PM
 
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I say people usually get what they deserve. Everyone's got skeletons in their closets, after all. If they want just patting on the back, let's start another general forum - "support groups", but when you come here, don't go berserk if someone says "you brought it on yourself".
Good topic. Makes me question, what exactly is this place? I always thought this WAS kind of like a support forum. A venting forum? Advice forum?
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Old 04-15-2010, 06:20 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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Good topic. Makes me question, what exactly is this place? I always thought this WAS kind of like a support forum. A venting forum? Advice forum?
You've posted several threads..your not serious....
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Old 04-15-2010, 06:26 PM
 
Location: Silver Springs, FL
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Here we go....
-Dragging up a chair to watch the melee-
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Old 04-15-2010, 06:27 PM
 
Location: Russian Federation
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Good topic. Makes me question, what exactly is this place? I always thought this WAS kind of like a support forum. A venting forum? Advice forum?
hey, vanilla)
Discussion - that's what forums are mostly about. At least that's what i think. When in discussions people may not always hear what they WANT to hear.
I think forums allow to look at a problem from different angles, not just "sure sweetie, there-there, eat a cookie, have a candy".
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Old 04-15-2010, 06:28 PM
 
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You've posted several threads..your not serious....
Yes I am. Please enlighten me oh wise one.
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Old 04-15-2010, 06:29 PM
 
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hey, vanilla)
Discussion - that's what forums are mostly about. At least that's what i think. When in discussions people may not always hear what they WANT to hear.
I think forums allow to look at a problem from different angles, not just "sure sweetie, there-there, eat a cookie, have a candy".
Thanks Shku!
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Old 04-15-2010, 06:33 PM
 
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If you guys really want a ball-breaker I can play! I don't like being that way though!
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Old 04-15-2010, 06:37 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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Yes I am. Please enlighten me oh wise one.
You have no idea what the forums for or why you posted for advice ....and you want me to believe your clueless....you figure it out, good luck.
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Old 04-15-2010, 06:42 PM
 
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You have no idea what the forums for or why you posted for advice ....and you want me to believe your clueless....you figure it out, good luck.
At least you a LEVOW make me laugh! I'm crying sometimes!LMAO.............
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