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He's just biding his time until someone better comes along. Have some dignity and leave.
I agree.
Once a man loses respect for you it's almost impossible to get it back.
As NY Annie said, finding other interests and getting some therapy will help you move on. Addressing some of the reasons why you are so clingy and needy will help you to break the pattern for your next relationship.
He said that he doesn`t want to try anymore, yet you both are still sleeping together? Hell, he`s got it made.
Meh...I would just back off, and this means in the bedroom as well.
It doesn`t sound like there is much you can do at this point.
It is time for both of you to move on. Take some time for yourself, develop interests, make some new friends, take a class, and just do things that you want to do that do not remind you of him. It will take a while, but you will be happier. You really don't want to try to make him stay with you when the relationship is over for him. In fact, I would cut all contact with him immediately, and if you can, take a short vacation to clear your mind and set a new path for yourself.
He broke off the relationship because of your smothering and you're still not willing to give him space. You are smothering him. Your smothering, clingy, neediness is driving him further and further away. If you continue, at some point, he won't even want to be friends.
Time to get: 1. Therapy
2. Outside interests
There's an old saw that says: if you love someone, set him free. If he returns, it was meant to be.
Let go.
Especially the bolded... You need to work on your self-esteem. If you can't respect yourself, how do you expect him to respect you?
My boyfriend and I broke up for a day, I left and asked to return 1 day later. He said we could try to make it work. Since then, we have fought (this was 2 1/2 weeks ago) some days and gotten along well others. He says he doesnt want to try anymore but we can continue living together and be together as in not seeing other people, but he really doesnt want to go all out and be the good boyfriend he used to be- calling and checking in & such. (I smothered him, this is why we broke up, it was a mutual breakup for 1 day) I dont mind this as I do trust him and he is a homebody for the most part. He seems to want to block me, I know he loves me, he wont admit it , but wont deny it either. I know he cares about me. He just thinks love is not enough, our personalities (my smothering and neediness) dont mesh. I, of course, disagree. Being that he is a somewhat indecisive person, how can I get him to see us differently and be more open to me again? Any suggestions, please. I want to keep trying. Thank you. We have been spending more time in seperate rooms (do not sleep in seperate rooms) and this has seemed to help, he does his thing, I do mine, then we hang out , just not 24 7 though we're both usually home (except for work, of course) thank you again.
Instead of wasting your time beating this dead horse you should be moving out and learning to live on your own.
You have issues that need working on if you are to ever really have a successful relationship (with him or someone else).
The longer you wait to address your issues the more frustrated you will become and less likely chance that he will ever commit to you. It is probably too late to salvage THIS relationship, but be smart and start doing what you need to do to be ready for the next one.
A relationship is nothing but a mirror that tells you who you are. From this relationship, you learned you are needy and co-dependent, and the smothering is what is driving him away.
If you do what it takes to change and become healthy, that is the most important, whether you stay in this relationship or not. The relationship will reflect your ongoing self-improvement.
So focus on self-improvement, the rest will follow.
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Hell, he`s got it made. 
