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Old 04-20-2010, 09:20 AM
 
Location: My Private Island
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I'd give My life for My Country,that's about it.
Very noble of you.
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Old 04-20-2010, 12:09 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Some of these posts make me sad for the state of marriage these days
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Old 04-20-2010, 12:29 PM
 
Location: My Private Island
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Some of these posts make me sad for the state of marriage these days
Lovesmountains,

I don't think it necessarily speaks to the state of marriage. I have don't have a perfect marriage but I don't have a bad one either which I think most of us can attest to.

Here's my thought process: I have not known this man all of my life, therefore, I cannot say I would give my life for him. I love him but it is with conditions...he never cheats, doesn't abuse me, doesn't do drugs, etc. It doesn't mean I wouldn't fight to protect him but I am not foolish enough to think my love for him will keep him forever. Maybe it will, maybe it won't but I'm not so willing to sacrifice my life on those odds.

Perhaps it has alot to do with my past. I have never depended on a man, no father figure, etc. I have always made my own way. Therefore, there isn't a man (other than my son) worthy of giving my life for......yes, even my husband.

I would hope as Max's Mama stated he would not want me to give my life for him and I would not ask it of him.
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Old 04-20-2010, 12:43 PM
 
Location: South FL
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Some of these posts make me sad for the state of marriage these days

Hmmm, I don't know, it doesn't speak to me as anything negative, as much as I love my husband, I fully admit that my love for him is conditional and I know he feels the same way. We both would fight for each other and be by each other's side, but for example, your examples sound a little extreme to me...
Like you jumping into a water full of sharks to distract them...really??? So leave your children without parents? Take a bullet for him, jump in front a train?? Yeah, let's save this man's life just for him to have that image for the rest of his life.
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Old 04-20-2010, 12:50 PM
 
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Lovesmountains,

I don't think it necessarily speaks to the state of marriage. I have don't have a perfect marriage but I don't have a bad one either which I think most of us can attest to.

Here's my thought process: I have not known this man all of my life, therefore, I cannot say I would give my life for him. I love him but it is with conditions...he never cheats, doesn't abuse me, doesn't do drugs, etc. It doesn't mean I wouldn't fight to protect him but I am not foolish enough to think my love for him will keep him forever. Maybe it will, maybe it won't but I'm not so willing to sacrifice my life on those odds.

Perhaps it has alot to do with my past. I have never depended on a man, no father figure, etc. I have always made my own way. Therefore, there isn't a man (other than my son) worthy of giving my life for......yes, even my husband.

I would hope as Max's Mama stated he would not want me to give my life for him and I would not ask it of him.
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Hmmm, I don't know, it doesn't speak to me as anything negative, as much as I love my husband, I fully admit that my love for him is conditional and I know he feels the same way. We both would fight for each other and be by each other's side, but for example, your examples sound a little extreme to me...
Like you jumping into a water full of sharks to distract them...really??? So leave your children without parents? Take a bullet for him, jump in front a train?? Yeah, let's save this man's life just for him to have that image for the rest of his life.
+1 to both Seeniorita & MM, especially when we have children that I feel still need me very much.
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Old 04-20-2010, 12:56 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Hmmm, I don't know, it doesn't speak to me as anything negative, as much as I love my husband, I fully admit that my love for him is conditional and I know he feels the same way. We both would fight for each other and be by each other's side, but for example, your examples sound a little extreme to me...
Like you jumping into a water full of sharks to distract them...really??? So leave your children without parents? Take a bullet for him, jump in front a train?? Yeah, let's save this man's life just for him to have that image for the rest of his life.

My children are no longer under 18 and are enjoying living the lives of young adults I agree parents of young children would want to make sure one of them survives some shared calamity for the childrens sakes.

My examples may sound extreme to you, but I truly adore my husband and believe I'd sacrifice just about anything for him. But again, I know he feels the same way about me. We've got each others backs in all situations.
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Old 04-20-2010, 01:00 PM
 
Location: South FL
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My children are no longer under 18 and are enjoying living the lives of young adults I agree parents of young children would want to make sure one of them survives some shared calamity for the childrens sakes.

My examples may sound extreme to you, but I truly adore my husband and believe I'd sacrifice just about anything for him. But again, I know he feels the same way about me. We've got each others backs in all situations.

Well, if that's how you feel, that's how you feel... I just don't always think that expecting a sacrifice from a loved one is an element of an unconditional love.
Also, just because your kids are over 18, doesn't mean that they are old enough to deal with losing both parents (hypothetically speaking anyway). I hope none of us ever have to deal with making such decisions in real life.
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Old 04-20-2010, 01:05 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Well, if that's how you feel, that's how you feel... I just don't always think that expecting a sacrifice from a loved one is an element of an unconditional love.
Also, just because your kids are over 18, doesn't mean that they are old enough to deal with losing both parents (hypothetically speaking anyway). I hope none of us ever have to deal with making such decisions in real life.
Agreed, it's never easy to lose a parent no matter what your age. But now that they are no longer minors and are standing on their own two feet I can say unequivocally that my first loyalty would be to my husband, not to my motherhood. Maybe that's just me
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Old 04-20-2010, 01:08 PM
 
Location: South FL
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Agreed, it's never easy to lose a parent no matter what your age. But now that they are no longer minors and are standing on their own two feet I can say unequivocally that my first loyalty would be to my husband, not to my motherhood. Maybe that's just me
So do you think your husband would want you to sacrifice your life for him and leave your children behind? Afterall, doing what your husband wants is part of your loyalty, isn't it?
I'm sorry I'm being annoying, I'm just trying to understand your selflessness.
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Old 04-20-2010, 01:10 PM
 
Location: 'Shangri-La 'mountains west of Wolf Creek, Oregon
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