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Old 04-23-2010, 06:31 AM
 
Location: Bergen County, NJ
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My mother suffers from narcissistic behavior. It used to bother me and then I learned how to cope with it. I don't have much of a relationship with her these days since narcissistic disorder may include mental/verbal abuse. I just remember when I was engaged my mother went above and beyond to ruin it, she was so jealous. That was the icing on the cake. She was so self involved, self hating, and miserable that she wanted me to be like her- Only I made sure I used her as a glimpse of darkness and created my own source of inspiration to be anything but her.

I read this book, it's an excellent source for information and setting one free:

Trapped in the Mirror by Author, Elan-Golomb
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Old 04-23-2010, 06:49 AM
 
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Denial. There are some I've known who I wouldn't even bother saying anything to. They know it all, and they don't like to be challenged.



This is the second thread tonight that I see you preaching psychology when you damn the profession to heck in others. I think you need to talk to someone. You're confuddled.
Human beings are not always consistent.
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Old 04-23-2010, 06:56 AM
 
Location: Bergen County, NJ
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It's hard for people with this disorder to change. They have to recognize it and seek help. They have to learn to remove the word, "I" from every beginning statement, and learn to stop turning ones story to be about them ... My mother can't hold a job to save her life, she works long enough to collect unemployment and then gets herself fired, and says she didn't do anything wrong- it's management!!

I remember a time when my mother worked for a fortune 500 pharmaceutical company and executive management held a team-building meeting. My mother came home and told me they sat everyone at a round table and said to name 5 things that you felt you could improve about yourself. And my mother looked at me and said, "I couldn't name 5, that's ridiculous, there's nothing wrong with me- I could name 5 for all of them" ! Haa !! Hilarious ! She's NUTS and so are people that share this !
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Old 04-23-2010, 07:50 AM
 
Location: In my skin
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Human beings are not always consistent.
Speak for yourself and make up your mind, that is, if you ever want anyone to take you seriously.
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Old 04-23-2010, 08:44 AM
 
Location: The Jar
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They don't consider it a problem. In all honesty narcissism helps them succeed. To you it is a problem. And because they don't have empathy. They do not care how much suffering you went through.
Sad, but oh so true!
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Old 04-23-2010, 08:47 AM
 
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Speak for yourself and make up your mind, that is, if you ever want anyone to take you seriously.
most people are dual.
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Old 04-23-2010, 09:00 AM
 
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Has anybody ever told a full blown narcissist that he/she was a narcissist? What was their reaction?
I tried.

They fell asleep on me.
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Old 04-23-2010, 09:05 AM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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It's hard for people with this disorder to change. They have to recognize it and seek help. They have to learn to remove the word, "I" from every beginning statement, and learn to stop turning ones story to be about them ... My mother can't hold a job to save her life, she works long enough to collect unemployment and then gets herself fired, and says she didn't do anything wrong- it's management!!

I remember a time when my mother worked for a fortune 500 pharmaceutical company and executive management held a team-building meeting. My mother came home and told me they sat everyone at a round table and said to name 5 things that you felt you could improve about yourself. And my mother looked at me and said, "I couldn't name 5, that's ridiculous, there's nothing wrong with me- I could name 5 for all of them" ! Haa !! Hilarious ! She's NUTS and so are people that share this !
Oh yeah...people should definitely be looking out for what they can do for OTHERS, instead of looking out for #1...
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Old 04-23-2010, 09:24 AM
 
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I told my husband he was a narcissist, and he got a crazy look on his face and dropped me off on the side of the road.

Signed,

Betty Draper
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Old 04-23-2010, 09:38 AM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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I know what my answer would be...

"So?"
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