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Old 04-21-2010, 12:43 AM
 
Location: USA
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Ok I'm not sure what to do about a parent who is dating someone way younger than themself. It's bothering me how the age gap (24 and 50-something) is seen as ok to both of the people but I'm not ok with it. It's creepy when a family member dates someone who's 2-3 years older than yourself. Any advice? It's annoying me and can't figure out what to do.
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Old 04-21-2010, 02:53 AM
 
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i don't think it's your issue.

Part of life is detachment.
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Old 04-22-2010, 04:16 AM
 
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Ok I'm not sure what to do about a parent who is dating someone way younger than themself. It's bothering me how the age gap (24 and 50-something) is seen as ok to both of the people but I'm not ok with it. It's creepy when a family member dates someone who's 2-3 years older than yourself. Any advice? It's annoying me and can't figure out what to do.
Honestly, it is none of your business since they are both adults. I could understand if it was a 40 year old with a 14 year old.
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Old 04-22-2010, 04:22 AM
 
Location: Canada
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I guess morals just have changed, standards have fallen, and asking for help has become a waste of time.
What does an age difference between a 24-year-old and a 50some-year-old have to do with morals or standards? Are the people involved married or committed to anyone but each other?
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Old 04-22-2010, 04:33 AM
 
Location: USA
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The problem is, they're not married, the guy dates many girls at a time, and the woman is my own mother. The guy has a awful temper and abused a ex...I don't want to see my mother abused. Now anyone who sees abusive men as ok should not reply. I don't trust the situation with this guy and my mother doesn't realize the risk.
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Old 04-22-2010, 04:45 AM
 
Location: Beaverton, OR
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If the guy is over 50, I would say there is something wrong if there ISN'T at least a 20-year age difference (younger) between him and the girls he dates!
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Old 04-22-2010, 04:53 AM
 
Location: Canada
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The problem is, they're not married, the guy dates many girls at a time, and the woman is my own mother. The guy has a awful temper and abused a ex...I don't want to see my mother abused. Now anyone who sees abusive men as ok should not reply. I don't trust the situation with this guy and my mother doesn't realize the risk.
Then you ought to rephrase your question so people can give you better advice since apparently it isn't the age gap but rather the fact (taking you at your word) that the man is abusive. It isn't unnatural for children to have difficulty with the idea of their parents dating but I'm sure that many here would be happy to try and help you through your pain and confusion if you could clarify your issue and position.

Good advice has actually been given you already whether you chose to accept it as such or not. 'Advice' does not mean people have to agree with you or not ask questions.

If your mother is only 24 (?), you can't be more than 10 years old. Was that a typo?
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Old 04-22-2010, 05:12 AM
 
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Then you ought to rephrase your question so people can give you better advice since apparently it isn't the age gap but rather the fact (taking you at your word) that the man is abusive. It isn't unnatural for children to have difficulty with the idea of their parents dating but I'm sure that many here would be happy to try and help you through your pain and confusion if you could clarify your issue and position.

Good advice has actually been given you already whether you chose to accept it as such or not. 'Advice' does not mean people have to agree with you or not ask questions.

If your mother is only 24 (?), you can't be more than 10 years old. Was that a typo?
My mother is over 50, the guy is 24, his mother is younger than mine. It bothers me that this may have been going on when I was younger and this guy was under 18. To add to this mess, he has tried to flirt with me while dating her. I don't feel comfortable around either of them. Since when is a guy trying to date both generations normal
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Old 04-22-2010, 05:13 AM
 
Location: St Thomas, US Virgin Islands
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If your mother is only 24 (?), you can't be more than 10 years old. Was that a typo?
Good point! Along with the OP's comment that, "It's creepy when a family member dates someone who's 2-3 years older than yourself" () and the rather juvenile tone of his responses, it all seems a little odd.
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Old 04-22-2010, 05:19 AM
 
Location: USA
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Good point! Along with the OP's comment that, "It's creepy when a family member dates someone who's 2-3 years older than yourself" () and the rather juvenile tone of his responses, it all seems a little odd.
fyi: I'm a girl and I'm over 20.
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