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Old 04-25-2010, 11:01 AM
 
Location: Fort Worth, Texas
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I've been trying to find out the marriage/divorce status of some acquaintances online, with no luck. Since these are public records, I can't figure out why they're so hard to find. All the sites I've found require payment for this information.

Does anyone know of any sites that provide this information for free?
Alot of people lie, I can understand why you would be concerned.

Anyone thinking that using PUBLIC FREE sites to look up information is being wrong in some way, is just wrong thinking.

Check out www.knowx.com
I don't know if they have all the states in there yet but they have some. There is a FREE search there as well as paid searches, so keep knocking around until you find it.

I have used it many times just to help people track loved ones.
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Old 04-25-2010, 11:02 AM
 
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I've been trying to find out the marriage/divorce status of some acquaintances online, with no luck. Since these are public records, I can't figure out why they're so hard to find. All the sites I've found require payment for this information.

Does anyone know of any sites that provide this information for free?
Okay. If these are 'real' acquaintances, people that you've had more than three minutes worth of discussion with, then you'll know their marital status. So your post tells me that you're scoping out people like the counter girl at the dry cleaners. And that makes you kind of creepy, if you ask me.
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Old 04-25-2010, 11:04 AM
 
Location: Back in the gym...Yo Adrian!
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How about just asking them? Dont be all creepy and sneaky about it. Just ask to find out. If they are the kind of people who you think may not be truthful about such a simple question then they are not worth having in one's life now arent they?

Your post just screams of "psycho stalker" to me.
I agree, if they are acquaintances then just ask them, no need to be sneaky about it, that's shady.

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Old 04-25-2010, 11:12 AM
 
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As I have said before - CREEPY AND PSYCHO!! Definite RED FLAG to any guy if a woman wants to check the hall of records for anything on his background. Super creepy and psycho-ish. Just friggin' ask the guy.
Wrong.

it is common sense. it is smart. it is wise.

for instance the people i know who work in law enforcement, before they start dating anyone new, they routinely run a background check on the person.

if a person has nothing to hide, it is not a problem
if a person gets mad at the idea of someone they are dating running a background check on them....THAT is the red flag
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Old 04-25-2010, 11:21 AM
 
Location: Back in the gym...Yo Adrian!
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Perhaps the OP should shed some light on the nature of these acquintances and why he/she wants this information. That could make the difference in the creepiness factor.
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Old 04-25-2010, 11:26 AM
 
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Unless you're interested in dating someone and want to find out if he or she is married, that kind of information is none of your business.
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Old 04-25-2010, 11:28 AM
 
Location: Fort Worth, Texas
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How about just asking them? Dont be all creepy and sneaky about it. Just ask to find out. If they are the kind of people who you think may not be truthful about such a simple question then they are not worth having in one's life now arent they?

Your post just screams of "psycho stalker" to me.
Your post screams to me that you have something to hide and you don't want anyone to look into anything and find it.

BY DEFINITION...using legal means to gain information such as if a person is being honest about his or her marital state, is not psycho or stalkerish, its using common sense.

With the advent of the internet, it has given a means for people who are committed, to lie and live another life online and take advantage of people.
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Old 04-25-2010, 11:37 AM
 
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Your post just screams of "psycho stalker" to me. As I have said before - CREEPY AND PSYCHO!! Definite RED FLAG to any guy if a woman wants to check the hall of records for anything on his background. Super creepy and psycho-ish. Just friggin' ask the guy.
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Your post screams to me that you have something to hide and you don't want anyone to look into anything and find it.

BY DEFINITION...using legal means to gain information such as if a person is being honest about his or her marital state, is not psycho or stalkerish, its using common sense.

With the advent of the internet, it has given a means for people who are committed, to lie and live another life online and take advantage of people.
yeah, i have to agree with Lindsey here.
it's this line here that is the dead give-away ......


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Definite RED FLAG to any guy if a woman wants to check the hall of records for anything on his background. .
It just sounds like the panic of someone who has not been honest and is now angry and afraid of getting caught in the deception
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Old 04-25-2010, 11:40 AM
 
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Your post screams to me that you have something to hide and you don't want anyone to look into anything and find it.

BY DEFINITION...using legal means to gain information such as if a person is being honest about his or her marital state, is not psycho or stalkerish, its using common sense.

With the advent of the internet, it has given a means for people who are committed, to lie and live another life online and take advantage of people.
Ah, but why would anyone want to snoop that way on acquaintances?

Co-workers: MYOB

Neighbors: MYOB

People in your knitting club: MYOB

It doesn't matter what's legal. What matters is what's ethical.

That said, I have indeed looked up court records on someone I dated. He acted erratically and I had a sneaking suspicion something was going on. He had told me he was widowed, but when I looked him up in the Maryland court system, it turns out that he was going through a long, messy divorce in which his future-former had domestic violence charges pending against him. AND he was older than he said he was (which I had also suspected after I saw him nekkie).
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Old 04-25-2010, 11:41 AM
 
Location: Back in the gym...Yo Adrian!
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Anyone who feels compelled to launch background investigations on someone they are getting to know probably has trust issues, and that is just the beginning of what is to come. Plan on a lifetime of inquisitions, accusations, prying, and repeated privacy violations if you plan on dating someone who runs checks on you without your knowledge.
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