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Not sure how your profile reads, but I'd avoid any reference to sex, breast size, or any descriptions of your body that are made to sound attractive...lot's of curves, soft skin, pouty lips etc. Guys will hone in on the superficial stuff real fast and they seem to get fixated on a woman if she describes herself liberally with lot's of adjectives. The most intellectual, respectful, and confident man can read your well written profile but if you stated that you have a 36C cup size he's already picturing you face down, ass up in his bed.
Put emphasis on the things you enjoy doing in your free time in the body of your ad. You want someone who will be friends first and who enjoys concerts, the theater, ice skating, shooting pool, hiking etc. or whatever it is you enjoy doing. Keep the activities to a strictly platonic nature. Write it as though you were looking to hang out with an 8 year old or a female friend.
If you mention that you enjoy traveling he'll probably start thinking "weekend getaways" right away which in his mind mean "debauchery filled weekend" and he's thinking sex right away. If you mention you like going out for some cocktails, again, lot's of guys will start thinking "I'll get a few drinks in her and she'll loosen up and invite back to her place" and thinks the night will end with sex.
When stating what you're looking for in a man, remember the same rules about decribing yourself. No mention of specific body types, uninhibited in bedroom, good kissers, or experienced.
None of these are fool proof methods of finding a guy who won't want to jump in bed with you right away. Most will, but at least you can curb their expectations by writing a very platonic ad similar to something you might place in Meetup.com when looking for a friend or activity partner. Actually, that probably would be a decent place to look for someone without actually coming off like you are looking for someone. Find someone with similar interests and if you get lucky you'll make a friend and possibly more out of it.
Not sure how your profile reads, but I'd avoid any reference to sex, breast size, or any descriptions of your body that are made to sound attractive...lot's of curves, soft skin, pouty lips etc. Guys will hone in on the superficial stuff real fast and they seem to get fixated on a woman if she describes herself liberally with lot's of adjectives. The most intellectual, respectful, and confident man can read your well written profile but if you stated that you have a 36C cup size he's already picturing you face down, ass up in his bed.
Put emphasis on the things you enjoy doing in your free time in the body of your ad. You want someone who will be friends first and who enjoys concerts, the theater, ice skating, shooting pool, hiking etc. or whatever it is you enjoy doing. Keep the activities to a strictly platonic nature. Write it as though you were looking to hang out with an 8 year old or a female friend.
If you mention that you enjoy traveling he'll probably start thinking "weekend getaways" right away which in his mind mean "debauchery filled weekend" and he's thinking sex right away. If you mention you like going out for some cocktails, again, lot's of guys will start thinking "I'll get a few drinks in her and she'll loosen up and invite back to her place" and thinks the night will end with sex.
When stating what you're looking for in a man, remember the same rules about decribing yourself. No mention of specific body types, uninhibited in bedroom, good kissers, or experienced.
None of these are fool proof methods of finding a guy who won't want to jump in bed with you right away. Most will, but at least you can curb their expectations by writing a very platonic ad similar to something you might place in Meetup.com when looking for a friend or activity partner. Actually, that probably would be a decent place to look for someone without actually coming off like you are looking for someone. Find someone with similar interests and if you get lucky you'll make a friend and possibly more out of it.
Not sure how your profile reads, but I'd avoid any reference to sex, breast size, or any descriptions of your body that are made to sound attractive...lot's of curves, soft skin, pouty lips etc. Guys will hone in on the superficial stuff real fast and they seem to get fixated on a woman if she describes herself liberally with lot's of adjectives. The most intellectual, respectful, and confident man can read your well written profile but if you stated that you have a 36C cup size he's already picturing you face down, ass up in his bed.
Put emphasis on the things you enjoy doing in your free time in the body of your ad. You want someone who will be friends first and who enjoys concerts, the theater, ice skating, shooting pool, hiking etc. or whatever it is you enjoy doing. Keep the activities to a strictly platonic nature. Write it as though you were looking to hang out with an 8 year old or a female friend.
If you mention that you enjoy traveling he'll probably start thinking "weekend getaways" right away which in his mind mean "debauchery filled weekend" and he's thinking sex right away. If you mention you like going out for some cocktails, again, lot's of guys will start thinking "I'll get a few drinks in her and she'll loosen up and invite back to her place" and thinks the night will end with sex.
When stating what you're looking for in a man, remember the same rules about decribing yourself. No mention of specific body types, uninhibited in bedroom, good kissers, or experienced.
None of these are fool proof methods of finding a guy who won't want to jump in bed with you right away. Most will, but at least you can curb their expectations by writing a very platonic ad similar to something you might place in Meetup.com when looking for a friend or activity partner. Actually, that probably would be a decent place to look for someone without actually coming off like you are looking for someone. Find someone with similar interests and if you get lucky you'll make a friend and possibly more out of it.
OK, now THIS is the sort of info I am looking for, thank you.
For instance, I have mentioned travel in the past, and it never occurred to me that they are thinking sex-filled weekend romp.
I've never mentioned cocktails but I've mentioned wine... perhaps I shouldn't mention that either.
The thing is--even the men not ready to settle down will respond to your ad. The kind of men who reach out to women are the same kinds of men that are happy with a merely sexual relationship.
For someone who chronically complains about male bashing you certainly are pulling out all the stops with your posts in this thread bashing women aren't you? Man what a hypocrite.
you didnt like my post did you? hey about about the one frame #13, where i talk about 12 step coda's fitting her description perfect---like it? just a question. are you one of the 29.4 million sisters that filed a divorce on a man that loved them and didnt want it since 1975? just asking.
you didnt like my post did you? hey about about the one frame #13, where i talk about 12 step coda's fitting her description perfect--- dont like it, not even a little?
Your posts, and I stress posts as plural including your nasty millionaire post, in this thread do not bother me one bit it is your overall hypocracy. If you are going to be an instigator than don't complain.
But this is not my thread and I will not go further into it - people can read I don't need to further it.
I would almost think that 45 or 50 yrs old guys would almost be just out for sex only. I say that cause most guys that age have either been in relationsips for a long time or are confirmed bachlors.
True. Those who wanted and had the ability to commit are doing just that and aren't out looking.
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Man what a hypocrite.
