Attracting men 45-50 who AREN'T just out for casual sex (boyfriend, single)
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Interesting question. I am a 50 year old single male so perhaps have something to add. You will not find me on a dating site, it just is not my kind of thing. I am not all that interested in casual sex since I believe things always come at a price. Not to say I am against sex (will not more than 3 times a day at most) just that it is not everything anymore at my age.
So how would you make yourself more attractive to someone like me? Not easily because you would have to do something that is hard for women to do. You would have to find me and pursue me (and that is not due to my ego problems). People like me are not in bars or mall hangouts. Most likely you would only encounter us as a neighbor or at work or out shopping. Be aware that truly mature men are suspicious and wary. We may really love to have a long term relationship but the slings and arrows of time have taken their toll.
Physical attractiveness is a plus but it is also a negative if you think it entitles you to attention. A big heart, a bigger smile and genuine interest in my well being would be dangerously attractive. I better shut up now since I am giving away State Secrets.
unfortunately I don't have time to pursue someone like you. My divorce left me penniless/eyeballs in debt. I don't even own a home anymore thanks to that. I have to work my ass off to make as much money as I can to provide myself security for the future -- if a man hasn't taken care of me by 40 I think it's safe for me to assume I need to provide for myself until he bitter end. Maybe it's just too bad, so sad for me...
unfortunately I don't have time to pursue someone like you. My divorce left me penniless/eyeballs in debt. I don't even own a home anymore thanks to that. I have to work my ass off to make as much money as I can to provide myself security for the future -- if a man hasn't taken care of me by 40 I think it's safe for me to assume I need to provide for myself until he bitter end. Maybe it's just too bad, so sad for me...
Sorry to hear of your situation. Survival does come first. However I never mentioned money as a requirement to find a guy like me. I would expect guys like me are not suffering for daily living expenses.
Sorry to hear of your situation. Survival does come first. However I never mentioned money as a requirement to find a guy like me. I would expect guys like me are not suffering for daily living expenses.
That wasn't my point. My point is, I have to work hard to earn money for ME, not for a potential mate. I don't have the time to chase guys, because I don't have that kind of free time. I need to save up for my retirement, to buy a place, etc etc... I don't have the type of life which allows me to leisurely pursue men here and there... I did the career thing, and for better or worse the work grind is a part of life and there's nothing I can do about it.
I would prolly use a date site as a last resort to find a man who wants a long term relationship. Single men in that age group are outnumbered. I think they can’t help but believe there are a lot 45-50 women out there who haven’t had it for a while. I am married and I have one or two women hovering around waiting for me to fall off the wagon. Some of those dates’ sites are the cause of the problem by telling you they have found 1000 matches for you. I mean, come ’on who needs the internet when there are 1000’s perfect matches within 50 miles of you.
I would prolly use a date site as a last resort to find a man who wants a long term relationship. Single men in that age group are outnumbered. I think they can’t help but believe there are a lot 45-50 women out there who haven’t had it for a while. I am married and I have one or two women hovering around waiting for me to fall off the wagon. Some of those dates’ sites are the cause of the problem by telling you they have found 1000 matches for you. I mean, come ’on who needs the internet when there are 1000’s perfect matches within 50 miles of you.
I think you are right about the assumption I, as a 40 year old, haven't had it for a while. But they are mistaken, why would I want to sleep with a ugly 48 year old when I can still pull hot guys my age to 15 years younger for casual sex? This is exactly what I thought his last time: why would I want to shag yur fugly ass when I can send a text right now and be in bed wih someone hot?
I am not delusional - a hot guy my Age is likely out of my league when it comes to a relationship. But if I'm going to do the cheap sex thing, I can still pick and choose and land something hot.
I think you are right about the assumption I, as a 40 year old, haven't had it for a while. But they are mistaken, why would I want to sleep with a ugly 48 year old when I can still pull hot guys my age to 15 years younger for casual sex? This is exactly what I thought his last time: why would I want to shag yur fugly ass when I can send a text right now and be in bed wih someone hot?
I am not delusional - a hot guy my Age is likely out of my league when it comes to a relationship. But if I'm going to do the cheap sex thing, I can still pick and choose and land something hot.
Well, if you happen to find the secret of snatching up a hot man 45-50 interested in a LTR, no casual sex, not bitter or jaded due to a divorce, not drained financially and emotionally because of ex-wife and kids, I suggest you bottle it up because it's pure gold!
Well, if you happen to find the secret of snatching up a hot man 45-50 interested in a LTR, no casual sex, not bitter or jaded due to a divorce, not drained financially and emotionally because of ex-wife and kids, I suggest you bottle it up because it's pure gold!
Well "hot" isn't going to happen. Drained financially doesn't matter to me. I'll let you know about the rest... Neither of us should hold our breath!
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