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The guarded thread got me thinking. I tend to be guarded. Not shy or unfriendly at all, but I tend to keep certain things to myself (or just between myself and my SO). I tend to go do things or places without telling friends or family, never talk about money or business (I'm in the process of researching a business without a peep to others), my thoughts or goals, or my personal life of any details (I'll tell them that I have a G/F or such, but never in any details. Not a kiss-and-tell person at all). My best friend got mad me because I wouldn't tell him if I lost my virginity or a few years ago. I tend to go about my business and sort of tell people afterward in vague details.
Also, I use facebook, but my profile and wall are bare (No pics unless someone else posts them and no status information).
Are you like this? Is this a problem to you?
I consider myself guarded, to a degree. I enjoy being alone more than most people, and in order to accomplish that, in my life at least, it means I have to keep quiet about what I'm doing...stay on the "down low" so to speak. It's no problem for me, but years ago my sis and mom would get a bit annoyed, but they are used to it now.
However, as far as FB goes, that's all my family on there....I mean really - MOST of my family is there - and I have a huge one. And we all use it regularly, so I have TONS of pics on there, and use it to keep up with everyone. But I don't post status updates every hour or crap like that. In fact, my "relationship status" still says "single".
nobody needs to know everything. and it's not about unfriendliness or shyness.
I guess trust in life is earnt, not given away. It's about feeling comfortable with the person, so you can tell them important things. I think there should be no secrets in a marriage or relationship, period. but with a friend, perhaps. with an acquiantance or somebody you've just met, then sure.
I don't open up easy at all. It takes A LOT to get me to open up but even if I choose to be open wtih friends and family, there are details one will never know about me and that's my perogative.
I don't know. I'm not guarded with my personal information as far as where I live, my phone number, my pictures. And I do comment on others' posts that show up on my wall. But most of my own posts relate either to the games played there, or some music I've decided to post.
I don't tend to let others in to what I'm thinking unless I'm sleeping with them. On the Internet, it's a little different, since I'm fairly anonymous, just another guy on a keyboard. I don't matter, I'm no one special.
The guarded thread got me thinking. I tend to be guarded. Not shy or unfriendly at all, but I tend to keep certain things to myself (or just between myself and my SO). I tend to go do things or places without telling friends or family, never talk about money or business (I'm in the process of researching a business without a peep to others), my thoughts or goals, or my personal life of any details (I'll tell them that I have a G/F or such, but never in any details. Not a kiss-and-tell person at all). My best friend got mad me because I wouldn't tell him if I lost my virginity or a few years ago. I tend to go about my business and sort of tell people afterward in vague details.
Also, I use facebook, but my profile and wall are bare (No pics unless someone else posts them and no status information).
Are you like this? Is this a problem to you?
I am very guarded.
People in online forums probably know more about my life than family and associates.
My parents were betrayed by people when I was growing up and I have seen good friends subject to the same. And other things that I went through that pretty much made you keep your wits and vigilance or you would be toast.
Even at my normal and side jobs I see it going on.
So I am always going to had some type of defense.
If its not a block it will be a parry.
Until I can see an improvement in people I come into contact with being more loyal in general, I can only open the guard enough to minimize damage if i get twizzled.
The guarded thread got me thinking. I tend to be guarded. Not shy or unfriendly at all, but I tend to keep certain things to myself (or just between myself and my SO). I tend to go do things or places without telling friends or family, never talk about money or business (I'm in the process of researching a business without a peep to others), my thoughts or goals, or my personal life of any details (I'll tell them that I have a G/F or such, but never in any details. Not a kiss-and-tell person at all). My best friend got mad me because I wouldn't tell him if I lost my virginity or a few years ago. I tend to go about my business and sort of tell people afterward in vague details.
Also, I use facebook, but my profile and wall are bare (No pics unless someone else posts them and no status information).
Are you like this? Is this a problem to you?
I'm guarded when not discussing emotionally negative things on a date. My dates have claimed to end it with me thru lack of chemistry. Having a couple therapy sesssions helped me realize I was an outgoing, confident, happy and positive guy on dates, but didnt share any person struggles or humility which would allow these women to bond emotionally with me. Which made sense as we'd have really fun dates and they'd all go out with me again each time, but ended it because they didn't bond with me, because I wouldn't let them.
Next person I date I'll be trying to do that differently.
The guarded thread got me thinking. I tend to be guarded. Not shy or unfriendly at all, but I tend to keep certain things to myself (or just between myself and my SO). I tend to go do things or places without telling friends or family, never talk about money or business (I'm in the process of researching a business without a peep to others), my thoughts or goals, or my personal life of any details (I'll tell them that I have a G/F or such, but never in any details. Not a kiss-and-tell person at all). My best friend got mad me because I wouldn't tell him if I lost my virginity or a few years ago. I tend to go about my business and sort of tell people afterward in vague details.
Also, I use facebook, but my profile and wall are bare (No pics unless someone else posts them and no status information).
Are you like this? Is this a problem to you?
I might as well have posted this.
I'm very tight-lipped about a lot of things. When I tell about myself, I tend to use riddles and ironic phrases, especially on online profiles. My facebook is pretty much the same. I would never post my picture online for some reason. I don't care if I was Denzel X 10.
I'm especially protective about my business plans because there are always these people that want to get on their soapbox and say "Not gonna happen!!
Say's who?! Are you God, did you create me? Am I ruining your life by pursuing what I'm passionate about???
Get a life and mind your own!
Sorry, sort of ranted. I run across a lot of people who have too much time on their hands and resort to criticizing the speck of my eye while ignoring the tree in theirs.
I am very guarded and am often mistaken for being snobby. I just don't tell everyone my business. I only have a few close friends wherever we live.
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It's no problem for me, but years ago my sis and mom would get a bit annoyed, but they are used to it now. 
