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Okay, so there was this girl that wanted to hang out (Please note: I'm in High School)
So we went to a movie, had a good time (we didn't know eachother a friend introduced us)
The next weekend we went to a movie, and things didn't click, and I wasn't really looking for a relationship... soo, we stopped hanging out, but she KEEPS texting and Facebooking, and asking to hang out...
I'm a really nice guy, and I hate to say no to people, but what can I do to get her off my back? I guess hiding her from my status wouldn't be a bad idea... but she's also a teacher's sister, but she doesn't go to my school..
So it's a bit of a delicate situation here... suggestions?
Okay, so there was this girl that wanted to hang out (Please note: I'm in High School)
So we went to a movie, had a good time (we didn't know eachother a friend introduced us)
The next weekend we went to a movie, and things didn't click, and I wasn't really looking for a relationship... soo, we stopped hanging out, but she KEEPS texting and Facebooking, and asking to hang out...
I'm a really nice guy, and I hate to say no to people, but what can I do to get her off my back? I guess hiding her from my status wouldn't be a bad idea... but she's also a teacher's sister, but she doesn't go to my school..
So it's a bit of a delicate situation here... suggestions?
These are difficult situations, but the only thing to do is just be honest with her.
I know it's hard to let someone down and disappoint them, especially because you are a nice guy, but you have to tell her the truth - as nicely as possible of course Telling her in person would be best, but if you won't be seeing her any time soon then at least send her a nice text. Tell her you've decided to fly solo for a while, so thanks but no thanks for any future hanging out. Believe me, it is better for her to know as soon as possible and not be left wondering, okay?
Remember, part of growing up is facing the hard things you'd really rather not do!
These are difficult situations, but the only thing to do is just be honest with her.
I know it's hard to let someone down and disappoint them, especially because you are a nice guy, but you have to tell her the truth - as nicely as possible of course Telling her in person would be best, but if you won't be seeing her any time soon then at least send her a nice text. Tell her you've decided to fly solo for a while, so thanks but no thanks for any future hanging out. Believe me, it is better for her to know as soon as possible and not be left wondering, okay?
Remember, part of growing up is facing the hard things you'd really rather not do!
Yeah, figured someone would put this... guess I'll break out the comfort food and video games again, lol... thanks
Yeah, figured someone would put this... guess I'll break out the comfort food and video games again, lol... thanks
Noooo, don't do that. That will give her the wrong idea... she'll think you do like her after all - you've gone to all that trouble to invite her over, prepare food for her and play video games with her? Then you drop the bomb on her that you don't want to date her anymore and then she realizes all this stuff was just out of pity? She'll hate you.
No, it's better to just be direct but gentle. It's more in what you say and how you say it than what you do. Just say something like "I had a good time with you at the movies but I don't see this going anywhere. I think you're a cool person but there was just no spark. I hope you can understand." Leave the comfort food and games to her friends.
Noooo, don't do that. That will give her the wrong idea... she'll think you do like her after all - you've gone to all that trouble to invite her over, prepare food for her and play video games with her? Then you drop the bomb on her that you don't want to date her anymore and then she realizes all this stuff was just out of pity? She'll hate you.
No, it's better to just be direct but gentle. It's more in what you say and how you say it than what you do. Just say something like "I had a good time with you at the movies but I don't see this going anywhere. I think you're a cool person but there was just no spark. I hope you can understand." Leave the comfort food and games to her friends.
I agree, but I'd be easier on the 'no sparks' and things and just say, "while I enjoyed hanging out those couple times I'm not really looking to be in a relationship in any way and don't want to mislead you." That's about as honest and soft a blow as you can get. It takes the pressure of her and that you don't really like her. It's your interest in not having a relationship that is the issue - it's less personal.
I agree, but I'd be easier on the 'no sparks' and things and just say, "while I enjoyed hanging out those couple times I'm not really looking to be in a relationship in any way and don't want to mislead you." That's about as honest and soft a blow as you can get. It takes the pressure of her and that you don't really like her. It's your interest in not having a relationship that is the issue - it's less personal.
I'm not sure that is direct enough - she could interpret it as he still wants to date or hang out with her, he's just making it clear he doesn't want it to get serious. Or that he still wants to date her but he's making it clear they are not exclusive and he might date other girls. So that in itself could be very misleading, especially considering she is young and probably inexperienced.
I'm not sure that is direct enough - she could interpret it as he still wants to date or hang out with her, he's just making it clear he doesn't want it to get serious. Or that he still wants to date her but he's making it clear they are not exclusive and he might date other girls. So that in itself could be very misleading, especially considering she is young and probably inexperienced.
I was just going to say, most women would be able to do the interpretation of the dance rather quickly, but someone young may not get the hint as presented and in order to really assess the situation and what is appropriate to say based on the age range we are discussing there's a little more information we would need to know.
Noooo, don't do that. That will give her the wrong idea... she'll think you do like her after all - you've gone to all that trouble to invite her over, prepare food for her and play video games with her? Then you drop the bomb on her that you don't want to date her anymore and then she realizes all this stuff was just out of pity? She'll hate you.
No, it's better to just be direct but gentle. It's more in what you say and how you say it than what you do. Just say something like "I had a good time with you at the movies but I don't see this going anywhere. I think you're a cool person but there was just no spark. I hope you can understand." Leave the comfort food and games to her friends.
Lol I meant me, not invite her over, lol...
See, when I have more fun playing video games and doing nothing, than going to movies and hanging out.... probably don't want to say that though...
"Women have a wonderful instinct about things. They can discover everything except the obvious" Oscar Wilde
Lol I meant me, not invite her over, lol...
See, when I have more fun playing video games and doing nothing, than going to movies and hanging out.... probably don't want to say that though...
"Women have a wonderful instinct about things. They can discover everything except the obvious" Oscar Wilde
You still haven't told us how old the both of you are and several people have asked.
you still haven't told us how old the both of you are and several people have asked.
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Telling her in person would be best, but if you won't be seeing her any time soon then at least send her a nice text. Tell her you've decided to fly solo for a while, so thanks but no thanks for any future hanging out. Believe me, it is better for her to know as soon as possible and not be left wondering, okay?
