Retrieving items left over someone's house (free, vacation, guy, divorced)

[Ladywithafan]

Originally Posted by loves2read

have you considered that his wife may have come over and your stuff may have been destroyed by her because she still has issues
or that he could have had others in the house who threw your stuff out as sort of territorial marking...

I would hate to see you go over there and get into some type of confrontation situation but definitely understand why you would want your portfolio

I'm thinking it may have been destroyed or thrown out. That would be the logical explanation. Who knows...I don't want to spend much more time dwelling on it but I would like some closure no matter what's really happened. If it got thrown out, I'll deal with it...no one can take my creativity away from me, it's still within my soul.

[Etain2]

Originally Posted by JustJulia

Does he live close? I'd go over there and give a cheery, "Sorry about dropping by unannounced, but I couldn't get a hold of you. I'm here for my stuff."

I'd do the above but with someone.....sooner than later too

[cwaggy]

An ex fling left some stuff at my house....she was total arsehole and ended things abruptly, meanly and was a ***** in general. I put it in a hefty bag and threw the tied-up bag on her lawn. She never asked for it back but I did not want it in my house. She knew she done me wrong.

[TKramar]

Originally Posted by Ladywithafan

I'm thinking it may have been destroyed or thrown out. That would be the logical explanation. Who knows...I don't want to spend much more time dwelling on it but I would like some closure no matter what's really happened. If it got thrown out, I'll deal with it...no one can take my creativity away from me, it's still within my soul.

It's still B.S.--you don't destroy or get rid of something that's not yours to begin with.

[I_Love_LI_but]

Originally Posted by Ladywithafan

Believe me, that's how I feel, however, that's not my style. He knows where I live & he knows my number. I also am not a phone stalker. I'm tired of making a call or text here or there & having no response. When I'm ready, I'll take my girlfriends & one BIG guy & just show up.

So when are you going to be ready?

This has been going on since April 12.

I would have been there already if it were my work ...

[cremebrulee]

Originally Posted by Thursday007

He doesn't want to deal with confrontation or "the talk" about why he doesn't want to see you anymore and is avoiding you. That's the reason. Or people, men or women, who avoid closure are leaving an open window for 'just in case,' as well. No confirmation of anything leaves the door wide open.

I dated a man like this, who, now, lives in Florida....he comes back again and again, tells you what you want to hear...and then leaves again...all he is doing is using you to feed his ego...I agree with Thursday...about leaving the door open....be careful

[Aptor hours]

Maybe the x-wife in a jealous fit of rage destroyed your man's phone so he isn't even getting your messages! I would go get the stuff by 2PM on May 2nd or I would call a "time is up"

[Ladywithafan]

Originally Posted by Aptor hours

Maybe the x-wife in a jealous fit of rage destroyed your man's phone so he isn't even getting your messages! I would go get the stuff by 2PM on May 2nd or I would call a "time is up"

I have a friend who's a bounty hunter & bailbondsman; I think he's the right person to accompany me for item retrieval!

[Ladywithafan]

Well, I sent him a text this afternoon & he responded. Said he had been going through some trying times, was back with the xwife hanging out but it wasn't working out; I had mentioned they're in business together & he said she was totally freaking out because of me (she has phone records). However, not my problem....as they are divorced.

He came over & brought my portfolio and Moody Blues cds.

He said I did nothing to drive him away and he was sorry for blowing me off.
He wasn't mean or nasty or anything just said he was dealing with a lot of things in his life. Still wants to be friends & I told him if he wanted to see me he knows my number.

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by Ladywithafan

Well, I sent him a text this afternoon & he responded. Said he had been going through some trying times, was back with the xwife hanging out but it wasn't working out; I had mentioned they're in business together & he said she was totally freaking out because of me (she has phone records). However, not my problem....as they are divorced.

He came over & brought my portfolio and Moody Blues cds.

He said I did nothing to drive him away and he was sorry for blowing me off.
He wasn't mean or nasty or anything just said he was dealing with a lot of things in his life. Still wants to be friends & I told him if he wanted to see me he knows my number.

Sounds like the guy manned up and took care of business properly.

Gotta give him props for that at least.