Men who call you names or become visibly angry when you politely reject them. (married, girl)

[cdubs3201]

Originally Posted by Coolhand68

What you're seeing when they are rejected is their true colors. You basically avoided a very immature and childish "boy", and should give yourself a pat on the back for making the right decision.

Sorry, but I don't agree with that. I had one recent rejection where I acted a little out of character as I didn't see it coming. I don't act like that to every rejection, I usually handle it well.

Are you saying because I handled it poorly one time that means I'm a very immature and childish boy? and that each woman who rejected me made the right decision?

Every situation is different and sometimes people respond in ways they didn't intend. Emotions can sometimes take control over our decisions and we make mistakes. But since you're perfect you wouldn't know anything about that.

[Coolhand68]

Originally Posted by cdubs3201

Sorry, but I don't agree with that. I had one recent rejection where I acted a little out of character as I didn't see it coming. I don't act like that to every rejection, I usually handle it well.

Are you saying because I handled it poorly one time that means I'm a very immature and childish boy? and that each woman who rejected me made the right decision?

Every situation is different and sometimes people respond in ways they didn't intend. Emotions can sometimes take control over our decisions and we make mistakes. But since you're perfect you wouldn't know anything about that.

Ok, let's put the pin back in the grenade. For one thing, I never claimed to be perfect, so I don't know where you pulled that out of, and for another, you just proved that you have a tendency to read into someone's words and find insults where there aren't any. No one attacked you, but you took it as one, same way you probably took that one rejection as an insult or attack. However you reacted, you admit it was out of character and probably wish you would have handled it differently.

Think twice and post once.

[cdubs3201]

Originally Posted by Coolhand68

Ok, let's put the pin back in the grenade. For one thing, I never claimed to be perfect, so I don't know where you pulled that out of, and for another, you just proved that you have a tendency to read into someone's words and find insults where there aren't any. No one attacked you, but you took it as one, same way you probably took that one rejection as an insult or attack. However you reacted, you admit it was out of character and probably wish you would have handled it differently.

Think twice and post once.

Think about what you've posted before you think someone is pulling garbage out of thin air.

You said this: What you're seeing when they are rejected is their true colors. You basically avoided a very immature and childish "boy", and should give yourself a pat on the back for making the right decision.

So since you've never acted angry or immature in any dating scenario ever in your life, I don't expect you to understand.

I don't take what you're saying as an attack on me personally, your statement just screams ignorance as you just encouraged someone to take appreciation in rejecting someone and then justifying it more after the fact because they acted in a way that emotions could've easily taken over their judgement (we are human, remember) so that they should be forever judged as their true colors to be immature and childish as a person......based on one incident.

Good luck with that.

[wigirl920]

There's nothing wrong with disagreeing, but let's please keep it about the thread topic and not one another. Thank you

[Capt. Dan]

Originally Posted by yellfire

You are correct. This is why I don't approach men. I tend to have crushes on cartoon characters or other unattainable "men". If I get drunk enough to approach a man and he rejects me, I just throw up on him. No need to name-call. That's just not cool.

WHAT????????? YOU have trouble going up to men and asking them out? I dont think I understand how that could be. You are drop dead gorgeous and really really intelligent! A man would have to be an absolute IDIOT to turn you down. Hell. If a guy turns YOU down Doc, he deserves to be puked on!!!!!!!!!!

[Huckleberry3911948]

they are not men they are cowards and thugs. real men dont do that, on this i am clear.
stop hanging out in places that support that behavior.
move on up with the company you keep.

[yellfire]

Originally Posted by Capt. Dan

WHAT????????? YOU have trouble going up to men and asking them out? I dont think I understand how that could be. You are drop dead gorgeous and really really intelligent! A man would have to be an absolute IDIOT to turn you down. Hell. If a guy turns YOU down Doc, he deserves to be puked on!!!!!!!!!!

YOU are a sweetheart. Nah, i don't have trouble approaching men. Currently not engaging in the chase cause I got one or two things going on. Also, I am a total lightweight and never have more than one drink but thought it would be a very obvious way to reject someone...

I'm shy though, and usually don't like to make the first move. I will smile, a friendly smile, not a coy, come-hither look. And if I'm introduced, I will ask questions and make it pretty obvious that I am interested in him as a person. What kinds of things do you do for fun? If you had the time and could go anywhere in the world, where would you go? I Try to stay away from the big three, at least initially: politics, money, religion. If he's not interested, I just shake his hand and say, great to meet you, take care.

I just don't understand the games, I guess maybe i'm too old for it? It's fun to watch though. Almost like a documentary, or going to the zoo: The Mating Rituals of the North American Human.

[MattB4]

Originally Posted by yellfire

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I just don't understand the games, I guess maybe i'm too old for it? It's fun to watch though. Almost like a documentary, or going to the zoo: The Mating Rituals of the North American Human.

Score =10 for mental maturity (I can only really give one positive by forum setup). If you are "too old for it" your picture must be from an earlier time in your life. Judging from it I would put you at maybe 25 max. But then again people twice your age can have problems with mental maturity so age is irrelevant.

Off Topic: Nicely done your profile photo in the layout and presentation. Perhaps by a professional photographer? It nicely puts you in a setting that makes for a second and third look from an viewer.

[Coolhand68]

Originally Posted by cdubs3201

Think about what you've posted before you think someone is pulling garbage out of thin air.

You said this: What you're seeing when they are rejected is their true colors. You basically avoided a very immature and childish "boy", and should give yourself a pat on the back for making the right decision.

So since you've never acted angry or immature in any dating scenario ever in your life, I don't expect you to understand.

I don't take what you're saying as an attack on me personally, your statement just screams ignorance as you just encouraged someone to take appreciation in rejecting someone and then justifying it more after the fact because they acted in a way that emotions could've easily taken over their judgement (we are human, remember) so that they should be forever judged as their true colors to be immature and childish as a person......based on one incident.
Good luck with that.

One incident is all it takes when you are just getting to know someone. You don't get a second change to make a first impression. First impressions last, and you have to trust your instincts.

And I hold my position, if someone flies off the handle with insults just because you rejected them, then they are childish and immature. Either that or very angry and bitter individuals. Either way, it's a blessing in disguise that she rejected this individual.

I have been rejected before, and when I was, I didn't go on some tirade insulting the girl and throwing a tantrum. I can promise you it won't get you a second chance or earn any compassion from anyone.

[Whyte Byrd]

Originally Posted by soliloquy

Why the name calling? Why the anger?

Why? Who knows but it's a damn good indication you made the right choice.