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Old 04-29-2010, 03:43 PM
 
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Default Men who call you names or become visibly angry when you politely reject them.

Why the name calling? Why the anger?

I am so bored today and that's why all these posts. LOl
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Old 04-29-2010, 03:58 PM
 
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Why the name calling? Why the anger?

I am so bored today and that's why all these posts. LOl
Going into a tizzy is uncalled for in that regard. Getting PO'd when you are played for a fool takes a little different approach and the "player" should be prepared to get an ear full! Not all guys do it but many do!
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Old 04-29-2010, 04:00 PM
 
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Um women get angry too. I think most people can't handle rejection well. The blow to their ego crushes them and they retialiate with anger.
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Old 04-29-2010, 04:14 PM
 
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Um women get angry too. I think most people can't handle rejection well. The blow to their ego crushes them and they retialiate with anger.
You are correct. This is why I don't approach men. I tend to have crushes on cartoon characters or other unattainable "men". If I get drunk enough to approach a man and he rejects me, I just throw up on him. No need to name-call. That's just not cool.
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Old 04-29-2010, 04:33 PM
 
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Default I am proud to say

that I don't have to do this because i reject before i get rejected!! Then I won so there's nothing to get angry about!!
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Old 04-29-2010, 04:37 PM
 
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that I don't have to do this because i reject before i get rejected!! Then I won so there's nothing to get angry about!!
Preemptive rejection. Excellent strategy, agreed!
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Old 04-29-2010, 05:03 PM
 
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Default my mom

used to call my dad as having a "punitive character" where he would reject people before they had a chance to reject him because he had poor self esteem

but he at least had a wife who pointed that out to him--I don't have a wife!!
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Old 04-29-2010, 05:11 PM
 
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It could be:

- their ego has been dented.
- they're insecure and they couldn't take another hit, since it further hampers their confidence.
- they're not nice/wholesome people, and enjoy insulting others.

if any situation, if one of these three reasons is the cause, it's their problem, not yours.
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Old 04-29-2010, 05:12 PM
 
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You are correct. This is why I don't approach men. I tend to have crushes on cartoon characters or other unattainable "men". If I get drunk enough to approach a man and he rejects me, I just throw up on him. No need to name-call. That's just not cool.

How come it is always the sweethearts that have trouble approaching men? I wouldn't think you'd have much trouble in that department.


Actually I have a good theory on why this is...but it will get me in time out again. On the plus side, I am really used to time out. In 7th grade, at the end of the year, the ASST Principal pulled me aside and told me I had spent more time in Detention than in class. I LOL'd...and got detention again for doing it. Those poor teachers, I'm a jerk.
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Old 04-29-2010, 05:12 PM
 
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Why the name calling? Why the anger?

I am so bored today and that's why all these posts. LOl
The short answer: Because they're jerks.

The long answer: Because no one ever taught them how to lose gracefully and learn from defeat. I feel bad for young women who have to deal with men who grew up during and after the politically correct esteem-building "we're all winners!" nonsense took over the educational system.

Nuh-uh. We're not all winners.* We don't always get what we want. Sometimes we fall down and go boom. That doesn't mean we get to lash out like two-year-olds.

No one ever taught them that, though, so between that and the awful Gen Y sense of entitlement fostered by helicopter parents whose little angels can do no wrong, you get churlish behavior when you respond with a polite rejection. (And before the crankypants curmudgeons chime in with "Women act like beyotches if you so much as look at them," yes, some women have no concept of how to let a guy down gently--Gen Y sheltering cuts both ways--but I'm taking the OP at her word when she says "polite.")

But really, it's just that they're jerks.





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*I'm one step ahead of the detractors so don't even say it.
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