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It depends on how strong the love was I think. I've been in a relationship where it took two years to get over it's break up--I suspect because bad habits were hard to break. And I've been in a relationship where, 30+ years later, I wasn't over him. One was true love, one wasn't.
Thank you RazorRob, and I can't agree with you more...it's just so hard because right now all I can do is cry and my heart hurts so much....I've had a hard life in a lot of ways and I was so afraid of putting myself out there because I was afraid this might happen but I took a chance anyway....
I am trying so hard, have been for weeks, but my heart just isn't in it and I'm not sure I can muster up the strength. I've never been one to turn to drugs but I finally started taking antidepressants and I just took a Xanax for the first time in my life. This is terrible!!!
I already know that I must move on, but it is so so hard right now. I'm thinking....good drugs right now? A drink or two? Don't even feel like doing that, hoping the Xanax will kick in.....that's as far as I'm willing to go....
I already know that I must move on, but it is so so hard right now. I'm thinking....good drugs right now? A drink or two? Don't even feel like doing that, hoping the Xanax will kick in.....that's as far as I'm willing to go....
Hang in there - this too shall pass, and I'm pulling for it to be sooner rather than later
Awww I'm sorry. Yes, I have felt physical pain before from heartbreak. All I can say is you can't put a time limit on it, but it WILL get better. It really depends on the intensity and duration of your relationship. And how effectively you deal with the pain (if you shove it somewhere rather than face it and deal with it, it WILL take longer to feel better).
I got divorced 3 1/2 years ago from a man I had been with for 8 1/2 years. It took about 6 months for the intense pain to really stop, then hmmm another year to where I felt like I was ok (but I was also very self-destructive during this time and running from the pain, so I think that prolonged my healing). But really it was another year after that before I was fully healed to a point where I could move forward in another relationship.
Just know that it will get better, in time. In the meantime, focus on staying busy. Find hobbies, spend time with friends. Don't wallow in your grief, but DO deal with your pain in SMALL CHUNKS. DO deal with it, don't stuff it somewhere.
Think of it as a closet completely packed full of stuff that you want to clean out. If you try to clean it out all at once, it will overwhelm you and may fall on top of you and bury you. If you keep the door closed and just don't look, all the crap is going to stay there and haunt you from behind that door. But if you take a few pieces out at a time, a day at a time, before you know it the closet will be clean. And you will feel much better.
I already know that I must move on, but it is so so hard right now. I'm thinking....good drugs right now? A drink or two? Don't even feel like doing that, hoping the Xanax will kick in.....that's as far as I'm willing to go....
I sure hope this post is a tongue in cheek humor 'cuse it's scary if it's not!
The very best medicine for a broken heart is to stay as busy as you can then relax and meditate to find your center again. All part of moving on........
I'm going through that too and it's been 4 months and I still feel like crying sometimes and my heart hurts, physically. It's getting a lot better though. Like other posters said it depends on the intensity of your feelings. And maybe how you feel about your life in general.
What helps for me is exercise. Do you run or walk or swim or anything? If not I would try it, it seems to help during and after.
A xanax probably isn't the best or worst thing but alcohol can make you more depressed.
Allowing yourself to listen to sad songs and cry a while is good, but also distraction- activities, friends, tv, movies, books, whatever you can do to temporarily forget is a relief.
Journal! It works wonders to write about what you thought would happen vs what did happen in the relationship. It's painful but helpful to figure out where things went off track and think about what if anything you would do differently next time. Once you write it out, you may find you wouldn't have even chosen this dude knowing what you know now.
A broken heart takes forever to mend. Ask anyone suffering from one. It never heals as fast as we'd like. But the most important thing is - a broken heart does heal.
Thank you RazorRob, and I can't agree with you more...it's just so hard because right now all I can do is cry and my heart hurts so much....I've had a hard life in a lot of ways and I was so afraid of putting myself out there because I was afraid this might happen but I took a chance anyway....
I am trying so hard, have been for weeks, but my heart just isn't in it and I'm not sure I can muster up the strength. I've never been one to turn to drugs but I finally started taking antidepressants and I just took a Xanax for the first time in my life. This is terrible!!!
I feel ya..trust me..I spent years in a depression...and over time the pain will get easier to deal with...kinda like a callus ....I can't say the pain goes away all together, but after years of actually facing things I've realized that there is a tomorrow to look forward to...I am single still, but I have hope...You will too onegreatnurse....
just do your best and talk to people about things a lot..it helps to get things out and have people who care to listen....stay away from movies about relationships and music that has those same themes if possible..direct your attention towards your faith if you have faith in God..He helped me through everything to be honest..
praying does make you feel a little better if you are pure about your intentions...Private message me if you need to talk too...we can exchange some stories and it could help also.
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