Is a divorcee a better catch? (marriage, women, single, husband)

[Shysister]

I was talking with a friend and she mentioned she's interested in this guy because he's divorced and has already been married. He married the woman because she was pregnant with his kid and he wanted to do the right thing. However as it usually ends up the marriage didn't work out and now he's divorced and my friend says he's the perfect catch now. He's already been married and since it didn't work out, it only makes him become the perfect husband for the next woman.

I've also heard men say that a woman who's been married before stock is higher than a woman who's never been married because someone did choose to commit to her which is not an easy thing for a man and also the woman would have learned there is no mr. perfect as she probably went into the marriage assuming mr. perfect is who she married only to find out during the marriage mr. perfect doesn't exist. And the fact that a woman has been chosen before makes her a better catch compared to a woman who hasn't been chose at all.

What are your thoughts?

[GTOlover]

HMM not really if some one was married before or never married at all it does not matter or make someone a better catch. either way all that matters is if you enjoy being with that person and get along with each other, have fun together, make each other happy and enjoy spending time together that's what really matters IMO

[NotARedneck]

Men who have never been married tend to be over looked for superficial reasons. Divorced men didn't have that problem and usually still don't. They may have other problems but women are eager to give them another chance thinking: "His ex didn't understand/appreciate him".

Divorced men have just had a hands on lesson in what a woman doesn't like about them and naturally are good at covering this up. Few are interested in really changing. Never married men, in contrast, can give off "false positives" for such issues, due to their lack of experience.

This is a big reason why there are 4 times as many unmarried divorced women as unmarried divorced men and why never married men far outnumber never married women although divorced women being a single mother is also a major factor. This is a major shift from decades ago and probably explains the persistence of a high rate of divorce.

[Redisca]

Originally Posted by Shysister

What are your thoughts?

Statistics indicate otherwise. Second marriages have much higher divorce rates than first marriages, third marriages -- still higher divorce rates. Which should tell you something. With very rare exceptions, there is no "right" and "wrong" party in a divorce -- both of them contributed to the breakdown of the marriage; and the personal flaws that did so do not evaporate upon divorce, but are carried over into subsequent marriages. At least, that seems to be the trend. And, understand, I'm saying this as someone who is married for the second time.

[Mr.Cat]

Depends.

[JustJulia]

Piping up: a divorcée (with two Es) is a woman, like a fiancée. If you are talking about a man, the word is divorcé or fiancé.

[Mr.Cat]

Originally Posted by JustJulia

Piping up: a divorcée (with two Es) is a woman, like a fiancée. If you are talking about a man, the word is divorcé or fiancé.

Okée

[MissLucky]

The way I see it is that, if someone was brave enough to leave their first marriages, they are very likely to do it again. Even more easily. Does this make them a better catch? Dunno..

[JustJulia]

Originally Posted by mr.cat

okée

lol!

[Whyte Byrd]

In some ways, yes, if the divorced person learned from their first marriage, which I did.