Straight genders would you date a transexual? (guys, family, attraction)

[Lamplight]

I honestly don't think I would. I certainly don't have a problem with trans-gender people and I'm sure I'd have no problem with a friendship, but if I knew he/she was originally a man I think I'd always feel like I was dating a man. And since I'm not attracted to men I can't wrap my brain around that. At the very least it would always be in the back of mind, and I doubt that would make for a healthy relationship.

[90sman]

Absolutely not. Transgenders need to be placed in a mental institution. They suffer from a mental disorder called Gender Identity Disorder. If they can't even figure out what gender they are, how are they going to function properly in a relationship? If you have a male private part and male hormones, then you're a male. If you have a female private part and female hormones, then you're a female. There's nothing confusing about that.

[imcurious]

Just plain "no."

[Braunwyn]

Originally Posted by 90sman

Absolutely not. Transgenders need to be placed in a mental institution. They suffer from a mental disorder called Gender Identity Disorder. If they can't even figure out what gender they are, how are they going to function properly in a relationship? If you have a male private part and male hormones, then you're a male. If you have a female private part and female hormones, then you're a female. There's nothing confusing about that.

Lets pull back that broad brush. We all face personal hardships and challenges. That doesn't mean we don't have something to contribute. One of my heroes happens to be transgendered. His name is Ben Barres (born Barbara Barres).

You can read about him here on the Stanford's School of Medicine website.

He's the chair at Stanford University School of Medicine of Neurobiology. His research, and that of his students, will no doubt play a role in the life of someone you love at some point in the future, if not already. He is a mover and shaker in our society and his existence will no doubt play a larger role in the aid of others than most. He does not belong in a mental institution. He belongs right where he is. I'm not sure how old you are, but if aging, degenerative neuro-disease, or Alzheimers' disease is ever a concern in your future, it would be in your best interest to have this person working for you than locked up somewhere.

That's not to say all transgendered people have such potential, but that they're like any of us. Some have more to contribute than others, and sexual identification, orientation, confusion, shouldn't matter.

[bicoastal10]

Originally Posted by jackdonekings

i know this question is odd but honest would you date a transexual? As a straight man i wouldn't i would rather date a biological born female than a transgender, but i do understand that transexuals are straight not gay, gay date gays, lesbians date lesbians so the big question is would you date or do you find a transexuals attractive as you may find the opposite sex attracted to you?. i just need your opinions hehe

I've never actually dated one, but I've had many sexual encounters with M to F transexuals. To me, they are no different than biological women in terms of looks, the way they dress, act, and smell, and many even look far better than your average biological women. Many of you would be stunned at how passable many of the transexuals in LA, Vegas, Miami, and NYC are.

I've always dated biological women, but I would be open to the possibility of dating a transexual provided she was extremely passable.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by jazzcat22

I can't even imagine dating at all, after being married all my adult life. But I loved this article in O magazine about a straight woman who fell in love with a transgendered man (he had gone from being a female):

Falling in Love with a Transgender Man - Oprah.com

I think it shows what true love is all about....

I can't say I read it carefully, but I don't believe on all those pages she mentioned what's under that napkin after all!

As far as I'm concerned, Oprah can keep them and date them all!

[sweetchas]

Hell to the NO!!

[Theophane]

Straight genders would you date a transexual?

Some straight people actually have transexuals as a sexual fetish, but I am not one of them.

[Clark Park]

Originally Posted by RowingMunkeyCU

Hell no. I actually feel that transsexual operations should be illegal, except in the rare case of people born as hermaphrodites. You live with what you were born with, no matter how much you dislike it.

I don't agree with that point of view at all.

Having known transgender people, I have educated myself to have a better understanding of their situation.

I suppose there are folks who are against surgical or medical remedies for people born with cleft palates, or co-joined ("Siamese") twins, etc. To me the triumph of an individual over a birth defect - and that is what transsexual people have, a birth defect - is a good thing.

[katestar]

To say that any human desire is to be illegal is in itself insanity, I think. Who are you to know what someone feels, wants, needs or desires. Let be.