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I'm 44, never had a girlfriend. A friend of mine had a son a few months ago and invited me to be godfather. The godmother is a friend of them, she's 30 and we have met several times because of the baby of course.
I obviously don't know much about this but I think she's hitting on me. Even if it's a family/friends gathering, she never leaves my side, seems fascinated by everything I say even if it's something ordinary.
Now she invited me for a drink and I don't know how to politely decline without stirring much controversy. I say this because I'm sure my friend and his wife already know about this and I don't want any looks or inappropriate comments if I decline.
I told her I'm pretty busy so I would have to check my schedule before giving her an answer.
She's very pretty and intelligent but I'm at stage where no such things have place.
You could go out, and ask what her intent is. Is it 2 friends hanging out, or is she looking for something more? If it's the latter, tell her you're just not in a place for dating at the moment.
It is a bit blunt, and may be awkward, but it just answers your questions on her intent, and lets her know your feelings. No games, or delays, needed. But let her know you find her attractive, and intelligent, so she knows it's not her personally.
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I'd do it man. I mean, keep her in the friendzone since she's your buddy's girl and all.
I don't know why but hanging out with women seems like something you need to do, even if it's a friend's wife. She may be able to hook you up with her social circle and maybe give you some advice you don't really have to ask for.
When my buddies visit I always hear that stuff from their wives.
You could go out, and ask what her intent is. Is it 2 friends hanging out, or is she looking for something more? If it's the latter, tell her you're just not in a place for dating at the moment.
We're not 12 anymore. I would have a hard time believing a woman would ask a man out to play friends.
We're not 12 anymore. I would have a hard time believing a woman would ask a man out to play friends.
You'd be surprised. Many women on here get asked out, and they think the guy was just being nice. In any case, just tell her you aren't interested. No need for a song and dance. Hell, what can she do if you're not interested--except get over it.
So at 44 you haven't figured out how to say the words "Sorry, not interested in dating right now."??
Honestly just say to her, "You seem very nice, intelligent and attractive, and I know we will see a lot of each other and I appreciate the offer, but I prefer to hang out alone and I am not interested in dating at all at this time."
Did you ever stop and think that maybe your friends are trying to set you up?
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