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Old 05-13-2010, 08:41 PM
 
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If you two do divorce or separate, will your children still be in the local area or will she move them far away? So long as you have access to them and they to you, you won't be losing them. You've bonded with them up to this point and they know who their dad is, regardless if she tries to fill their heads with nonsense about you.
I don't believe she should be allowed to unilaterally decide where the children will be. I will file for full custody knowing that joint custody would be the realistic end point. I just want to make sure that their father will be the man who raises them. I grew up without a father (he died when I was 5 weeks old) and I think that is a major reason things haven't been right with me.

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One of the biggest fears men have about leaving their wives when there are children involved is having another man move in and become their step-father. Don't allow this to be the thing that keeps you from leaving. Focus on your own sanity and well being for now. The children are fine and they will be alright, regardless of who gets custody.
I wish I could be so sure of that.

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The only way you can work on your own happiness and well being is to rid yourself of the toxic elements that are monopolizing your life right now. One being the spouse. If it's not salvageable, then the longer you wait, the deeper you will sink into misery. Unfortunately there is no easy way out.
I really wish I could just up and leave and take the boys with me and be happy ever after.........but I know that is far from realistic on so many levels. Still, I think my life would markedly improve if she were not in it.
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Old 05-13-2010, 08:56 PM
 
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What is the reason for the hate and discontent? Is this something that can be remedied? Will it be something that can resolved with help or amending how each approaches the relationship?

It cannot be remedied because she is not someone who can change the way she approaches things.
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Old 05-13-2010, 10:07 PM
 
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I really wish I could just up and leave and take the boys with me and be happy ever after.........but I know that is far from realistic on so many levels. Still, I think my life would markedly improve if she were not in it.
As much as you resent your wife, I don't think it's fair to deprive your children of their relationship with her, or take her children completely away from her. She's their mother.
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Old 05-14-2010, 07:27 AM
 
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It cannot be remedied because she is not someone who can change the way she approaches things.
There is your answer. I know that feeling. That sounds like my ex.
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Old 05-14-2010, 10:19 AM
 
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As much as you resent your wife, I don't think it's fair to deprive your children of their relationship with her, or take her children completely away from her. She's their mother.
I would never ever even consider that, because I know how it was growing up with one parent. But that's why I said it would be far from realistic on so many levels for that to happen.......that was fantasy talking, not reality.......
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Old 05-14-2010, 10:24 AM
 
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I would never ever even consider that, because I know how it was growing up with one parent. But that's why I said it would be far from realistic on so many levels for that to happen.......that was fantasy talking, not reality.......
Well hey as long as we're talking fantasy....why not pretend she's Halle Berry...um no not her..too many issues...um Eva Menendez.

Sorry, Lucario, I couldn't resist...just joking with you. Hope you at least got a smile out of it.
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Old 05-14-2010, 10:31 AM
 
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Get yourself a girlfriend already!
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Old 05-14-2010, 10:35 AM
 
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Well hey as long as we're talking fantasy....why not pretend she's Halle Berry...um no not her..too many issues...um Eva Menendez.

Sorry, Lucario, I couldn't resist...just joking with you. Hope you at least got a smile out of it.

I've tried. Pam Grier, Raquel Welch, Zoe Saldana, Halle, FloJo, Christina Hendricks, Eva Mendes, Eva Longoria, all tones, all ages, the list goes on........then I wake up.
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Old 05-14-2010, 10:36 AM
 
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Get yourself a girlfriend already!
U dunno how much I've been thinking about that lately.......
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Old 05-14-2010, 10:38 AM
 
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I've tried. Pam Grier, Raquel Welch, Zoe Saldana, Halle, FloJo, Christina Hendricks, Eva Mendes, Eva Longoria, all tones, all ages, the list goes on........then I wake up.
Time for some "rose colored glasses"
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