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Why do some women who have stereotypical preferences stick to it so blindly that they can't see a good thing in front of them?
Sorry had to change my question because asking about Asian women and Hispanic men wasn't allowed. Wonder why?
Any way. I was invovled with a sexy little woman (whose chinese). We were close but apparently she prefers white guys. I was an exception (hispanic). But over time I guess she decided she only wanted to get serious with a white guy because in her words, "i don't see myself marrying someone who isn't white". I was like what the umm heck? Are you serious? I never even realized how common the stereotype until I realized she fit right in. All her actions, her clothes, her make up, even the way she talks was surrounding the stereotypical americanized asian searching for a white guy. I understanding having a preference but assuming you'll never be happy with anyone else is ridiculous.
I tried to talk it over but I kept getting the same response as if it were written in her blood and could never be changed. I have preferences also but I never use them as reasons for getting rid of a great person. She even told me how much I made her happy and how great I was. My only "flaw" was that i didn't meet her preference...ehem.
Is this common? Do some women stand by their preference like law?
PS: For those who want to delete this thread. This isn't a racial discussion. Although I have no control over the comments others have. You ask me it's on "preference".
Why do some women who have stereotypical preferences stick to it so blindly that they can't see a good thing in front of them?
Sorry had to change my question because asking about Asian women and Hispanic men wasn't allowed. Wonder why?
Any way. I was invovled with a sexy little woman (whose chinese). We were close but apparently she prefers white guys. I was an exception (hispanic). But over time I guess she decided she only wanted to get serious with a white guy because in her words, "i don't see myself marrying someone who isn't white". I was like what the umm heck? Are you serious? I never even realized how common the stereotype until I realized she fit right in. All her actions, her clothes, her make up, even the way she talks was surrounding the stereotypical americanized asian searching for a white guy. I understanding having a preference but assuming you'll never be happy with anyone else is ridiculous.
I tried to talk it over but I kept getting the same response as if it were written in her blood and could never be changed. I have preferences also but I never use them as reasons for getting rid of a great person. She even told me how much I made her happy and how great I was. My only "flaw" was that i didn't meet her preference...ehem.
Is this common? Do some women stand by their preference like law?
PS: For those who want to delete this thread. This isn't a racial discussion. Although I have no control over the comments others have. You ask me it's on "preference".
Everybody has a preference in various aspects of life. For example:
I only use Mobil 1 or Royal Purple motor oil for all my cars.
I only eat "healthy" foods.
I only go to African barber shops to cut my hair.
I only use bath soaps with minimal chemicals.
See, I could go on, but some people extend it further to dating and really I don't understand the problem. You have 3.5 billion other women to date if this lady does not want to go further with you.
as has been stated, preferences are normal. It's her own right/prerogative.
I only would consider dating southern Asian women. No other ethnicity qualifies. I don't see it as being discriminatory or exclusionary, but such is life, I like what I like.
Yep, and it's not limited to women, of course. I'd venture to say many people have something in their minds as what makes a person a candidate for marriage, and while that can certainly change it can just as easily be a primary determining factor.
Everybody has a preference in various aspects of life. For example:
I only use Mobil 1 or Royal Purple motor oil for all my cars.
I only eat "healthy" foods.
I only go to African barber shops to cut my hair.
I only use bath soaps with minimal chemicals.
See, I could go on, but some people extend it further to dating and really I don't understand the problem. You have 3.5 billion other women to date if this lady does not want to go further with you.
The problem is that people shouldn't be catergorized like food or products. Everyone is different regardless of the category they have been generalized. Dating is an experience and the purpose is to find who you connect with (or get laid...cough sorry). If you connect with someone why disgard them because they weren't the right brand?
It's too common and it's frustrating because it seems to be accepted. I wonder where it comes from but then I see the stereotypes that surround us and I realize that they are the reason. Society has affected the way we think. She was an asian who fantasized about that perfect white guy and had I realized how common it was I would've known that I never had a chance long before I grew attached to her. I searched and you never see and posts on hispanic men and asian women. I was like wow I was screwed before I knew it. I hate following stereotypes but when I find out personally that a lot of them are true I feel powerless to go against them.
Preferences are not always based on stereotypes. It could be physical attraction, or attraction to culture, or experiences in growing up around x group, etc.
We naturally are attracted to people who gel with us, or are better suited to us.
So are you saying because she was chinese with a white fetish she was better suited for a white guy and not a hispanic man who knew her and would've taken care of her? Problem is that we BELIEVE a type is better suited for us be we really know nothing until we try. Most women I know will stick to what they know and never venture. Then they wonder why they can't find a great guy. Stop tripping over the same ditch, choose a new path and see where it takes you.
dude, get over her. you're idolizing this chick, plenty of other fish in the sea. it's her loss. sort of racist of her if you ask me. she's asian and she wants white dudes? what about some self love for her own race? anyway, you're lucky you didn't end up with someone so narrow minded. find someone who will realize all your awesomeness and not make you feel like crap for something you have no control over.
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...cough sorry). If you connect with someone why disgard them because they weren't the right brand?