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robee70 · 05-21-2010, 09:42 AM

My first BF, who was my first everything really. It took me close to 2 years to get over him and even today I sometimes think about him (not in that way but just a random memory or thought). Still puts a smile on my face, because he was a terrific guy with a wonderful family. We were together for a little over 3 years but we were just too young.

himain · 05-21-2010, 09:58 AM

15 years and probably still won't let go even though I've had a couple huge AH HA moments...

e.ortega · 05-21-2010, 10:21 AM

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Originally Posted by lkm370

An ex, a secret crush, a bestfriend, un-requited? Whats the longest it's taken you to get over a single person?...or are you still not really fully over them?

me...one year and counting, but definently doing better

My daughter will be 15 in August and I still ain't over my ex

what's my problem? LoL

Whyte Byrd · 05-21-2010, 10:54 AM

34 years and counting. Once in a lifetime, someone special comes along that you will just never forget or get over.

Sparklez_304 · 05-21-2010, 11:05 AM

about 3 years for one...one im still not over and we broke up over a decade ago lol.

cdubs3201 · 05-21-2010, 11:13 AM

There was a girl I dated on and off for about two years, and it took me a long time to get over her because she would always weasel her way back into my life and I would always let her. I just finished college, and my parents had just split and divorced, so I felt I was emotionally clingy and vulnerable at that point in my life.

I basically moved 400 miles away and she was STILL torturing me with her BS. The only way I could get rid of her was to email her a bunch of mean and hurtful things that I could think of because I knew I couldn't trust myself to ignore her, she had to be the one to ignore me, and it worked flawlessly.

She did actually email me after 2 years of no contact via facebook, I noticed she was now married with a baby. I basically told her I did not want anymore contact with her again, that she tortured me for years emotionally, and that I'd appreciate it if she stayed out of my life.

Problem solved. But it took years to finally get over her.

LABART · 05-21-2010, 11:21 AM

I ended all my relationships for one reason or another, not that I have been in a lot of relationships. They weren't right for me, so I pick up the pieces and move along. My husband is a good man and I really believe that we will be together until death pulls us apart. If something were to go wrong or something happened to him I think it would have a great affect on me.

VBmom · 05-21-2010, 11:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Whyte Byrd

34 years and counting. Once in a lifetime, someone special comes along that you will just never forget or get over.

I'm with you. My high school boyfriend was killed while we were still in school. It has been 25 years and I still think of him every day. I think about his sweet smile and his laugh. I look at my own daughter's big blue eyes and think they are almost the same color as his eventhough he is not her father.
I hear about a teenager killed in a car accident and my heart still aches for him. 25 years. I know it will never end. Funny how when you die young you get to be perfect forever.
I am fortunate to have an understanding husband who has also had a great loss in his life. He gets it.

himain · 05-21-2010, 11:27 AM

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Originally Posted by VBmom

I'm with you. My high school boyfriend was killed while we were still in school. It has been 25 years and I still think of him every day. I think about his sweet smile and his laugh. I look at my own daughter's big blue eyes and think they are almost the same color as his eventhough he is not her father.
I hear about a teenager killed in a car accident and my heart still aches for him. 25 years. I know it will never end. Funny how when you die young you get to be perfect forever.
I am fortunate to have an understanding husband who has also had a great loss in his life. He gets it.

Wow, I'm very sorry to hear this..

redjan1225 · 05-21-2010, 12:45 PM

My first love was actually my second BF. He and the first BF decided to go to war over me and my true love one. We only dated about 6 months. I was a sophomore in high school. I loved him more than words could ever describe. He dumped me over the summer. It was two full years before I dated someone else. I never stopped getting the butterflies when I saw him (usually at school and later we went to the same college). We were able to be friends about 5 years later, but I still sort of loved him. I think I always will love him the way he was back when. I recently saw pictures of him all grown up and I don't feel the same attraction, but I love my memories.