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Old 05-21-2010, 01:21 PM
 
Location: Houston, TX
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3 years after a 22 month relationship.
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Old 05-21-2010, 02:29 PM
 
Location: Texas
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wow...just out of curiousity, why did it take so long?
Because I kept her 'ideal' qualities at the forefront of my mind for so long (forgetting her godawful bitchiness) that I would compare everyone else to her...and I would resent the others I was with for not living up to her good qualities. Then one day I realized what an awful friend and all-around person she was. It just clicked and all of a sudden, I didn't care.

I guess she was just the first woman I met that was in a certain stratosphere of her own...I did learn to find someone who had her good qualities and none of her bad ones, though.
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Old 05-21-2010, 02:33 PM
 
Location: Nashville, Tn
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What's the longest it's taken you to get over someone?
I had a girlfriend who was still in high school when I was in my first year of college and we broke up because her parents found out I was smoking marijuana. It actually took a few years to get over it and she also happened to be a friend of my sister and my sister knew better than to even bring up the subject.
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Old 05-21-2010, 08:52 PM
 
Location: colorado
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Default 3 days or less

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An ex, a secret crush, a bestfriend, un-requited? Whats the longest it's taken you to get over a single person?...or are you still not really fully over them?

me...one year and counting, but definently doing better

The 1st day is for crying...
the 2nd day is for cursing them out
and they say the best way to get over someone ...is to get under someone else...
why waste unwanted tears on someone when you can be getting out there meeting someone who truly deserves you.
good things leave us so something better can take its place..
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Old 05-21-2010, 09:06 PM
 
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The 1st day is for crying...
the 2nd day is for cursing them out
and they say the best way to get over someone ...is to get under someone else...
why waste unwanted tears on someone when you can be getting out there meeting someone who truly deserves you.
good things leave us so something better can take its place..
I don't think that works.
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Old 05-21-2010, 09:16 PM
 
Location: New Milford, NJ
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I'll let you know when I'm over him. I'm not there yet...it wasn't even a full 9 months, more like 8 months, but I knew it was coming to an end for at least a month and I was already starting to grieve before it officially ended so...I would say two months and counting now...
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Old 05-21-2010, 11:57 PM
 
Location: norcal
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I don't think that works.
it totally doesnt.
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Old 05-22-2010, 06:55 AM
 
Location: Texas
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it totally doesnt.
At best, it fools you into thinking you are over them so you never really deal with your issues...that can bite you in the arse one day...
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Old 05-22-2010, 07:07 AM
 
Location: New Milford, NJ
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The 1st day is for crying...
the 2nd day is for cursing them out
and they say the best way to get over someone ...is to get under someone else...
why waste unwanted tears on someone when you can be getting out there meeting someone who truly deserves you.
good things leave us so something better can take its place..
I hope that's true....I think I need to get to the "getting under someone else part" but I think I'm not ready yet. Maybe a few drinks will take care of that tonight.
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Old 05-22-2010, 07:20 AM
 
Location: Eternal State of Confusion
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1 week. A guy I was involved with for a number of years started seeing a close female friend of mine...the same female friend who used to tell me he was an a-hole and to dump him. It was a blessing in disguise. They married and I was in the bridal party, as my girlfriend was in mine. I definitely got the better end of the deal.
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