POLL: Who is at Fault? (women, money, never, hubby)

[Redisca]

Originally Posted by sharpie1234

you're such a nasty person.
you're incapable of responding without sounding harsh and offensive.

*Shrug* Jump on the bandwagon, why don't you. Plenty of nice, highly moral people here will help you out. If it's another gangbang, so be it.

[SD4020]

Originally Posted by Redisca

You are both at fault for being petty and making a big deal out of nothing.

On second thought, OP, you should wash your own clothes for a few weeks. Your fiance does your laundry, she's being a good wife; but she's not a butler. Having her do it AND criticizing her for not checking your pockets AND dismissively telling her that ruining her gift was nothing -- that's a bit irritating. Just a little bit. If you don't like the way she does your laundry, do it yourself. Or maybe do yours AND hers for a while.

I tend to agree.

Yours for not checking your pockets. I know I had that discussion more than once. I tried to make it a habit to check my pockets and before starting a load of laundry.

I do my own laundry so I argue with myself.

[JustJulia]

Originally Posted by GypsySoul22

My friend has washed 2 of her son's Ipods. It can happen.

I did that! Thank goodness it dried out. Took several days, but it started working again.

[NY Annie]

Originally Posted by sharpie1234

you're such a nasty person.
you're incapable of responding without sounding harsh and offensive.

Absolutely she is not being nasty. What were you reading? It wasn't Redisca's post, that's for sure.

[Mooseketeer]

If it's in the hamper it should have been checked before. She is good enough to do the laundry why should she have to check all the pockets ? It's a bit rich to get annoyed that the laundry fairy did not do her "job" properly.

I have gone through this many times with hubby.

Another thing we bicker about is that he will leave things on the floor which are clean and tell me off for washing them... If it's on the floor I assume it's dirty. Period.

[TKramar]

My ex-girlfriend thought it was my responsibility.

Of course, if I'm doing my OWN laundry, then I check the pockets before I put it in the washer. Stuff's gotten washed before--receipts, coins, bills...

Any money that survives the wash, she claims as hers. [When she did it].

[Norm24x7]

No wonder why the chinese are laughing to the bank .. blow dry the stuff might work again if u get lucky !

[andthentherewere3]

Originally Posted by max's mama

I wonder if she would have made the same fuss about something that got washed that wasn't her GIFT. I think she got upset that you were careless with the remote.

You need to be the one checking pockets before throwing anything in the laundry, although it's a collective effort.
She was blowing it out of proportion, but I think the reason was that it was her gift that got ruined.

ITA. And I wonder how old the happy groom-to-be is? I'm wondering because of this poll, and some of his comments.

[TempesT68]

Let it dry out, it may just work again. Otherwise don't give in like that, you're going to be in for a world of trouble as it's going to get worse and worse over time with her belittling you. I would tell her to S.T.F.U., it was a $15 item and easily replaceable.

[Ivorytickler]

Originally Posted by sharpie1234

Hi,
so fiance and i just got into an argument for NO reason.....

problem:
she did laundry today, and when i got home, she said that she's upset cause i didn't check my pockets before putting my pants in the laundry basket. as a result, my digital camera's remote control (value 15 dollars. she got it for me as a gift) was washed.

i said, it's ok. don't worry.
then she went on about how i'm not careful and i don't care and etc. and i said well, since you brought it up, i think it's the responsibility of the person who's putting in the laundry to check everything again before putting them in. She said "i can't believe you're blaming me...etc." to which i said "i'm not. i don't care. it's not worth fighting over. we'll just disagree about who is at fault. it doesn't matter. not worth a fight. if you'd like, i'll do my cloths myself from now on."

sure enough, she got upset and we stopped talking.

OH I CAN'T WAAAAAIT UNTIL WE'RE MARRIED! (/END SARCASTIC STATEMENT)

Who is at fault?
who should be held responsible?

Depends on where the pants were. If they were in the hamper or down the laundry shoot or wherever you put clothes ready to be washed, the pockets should have been emptied by the owner of the pants. If they were left somewhere else, say the bedroom floor like my dh will do , it's up to the person doing the laundry to check the pockets.

Since they were in the hamper, the owner of the pants is responsible.

Usually, in my house, it's money that gets washed. My rule is if my washing machine spits it out, it's mine.