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On eHarmony profiles I sometimes see the following mentioned:
"I'm just doing this to make new friends, if I find romance then it's a plus" or something along those lines So, would you consider this an indication that they are not really that serious about finding a partner or a relationship?
No I don't think they are not looking for a relationship I'd think it's more of an indication they have an out clause in their personal dating contract. For instance maybe you both meet and you like the person and the other person is thinking "boy what a butt monkey" they can say - look I already said I just wanted to make new friends. It definitely says you aren't getting any anytime soon.
Last edited by Thursday007; 05-23-2010 at 08:00 PM..
no, they just wish it would happen more naturally than actually having to depend on a dating sight, so they say they are just looking for friendship and hoping that love hits them like a ton of bricks.
"I'm just doing this to make new friends, if I find romance then it's a plus" or something along those lines So, would you consider this an indication that they are not really that serious about finding a partner or a relationship?
Maybe they just want things to go slowly. None of that "third date with the expectation of sex" stuff. Maybe their "I'm just doing this to make friends and if I find romance that's a plus" bit is their "disclaimer" that they're not interested in jumping into something hot and heavy right off the bat. (My guess is that they really DO want romance, but just don't want to feel harried about it.)
On eHarmony profiles I sometimes see the following mentioned:
"I'm just doing this to make new friends, if I find romance then it's a plus" or something along those lines So, would you consider this an indication that they are not really that serious about finding a partner or a relationship?
it seems like a form of insecurity. they feel too embarssed to admit that they are really looking for a boyfriend on the internet, which some people view as a personal failure of sorts.
It depends.
If they're new to the area, if they've recently come out of a relationship, and their friends have dumped them, or if they've lost touch with them.
Have you never dated anyone, and you get on great as friends, but not as a couple ?
It's not something i'd be suspicious of.
If you can't be friends, you can't be lovers. maybe they hope one will lead to the other.
On eHarmony profiles I sometimes see the following mentioned:
"I'm just doing this to make new friends, if I find romance then it's a plus" or something along those lines So, would you consider this an indication that they are not really that serious about finding a partner or a relationship?
I don't understand that either...maybe they just want casual sex, no strings attached? But why would they pay to use eharmony? If thats what they want, try plentyoffish.com or something! lol. I wouldn't pay any attention to those people with profiles like that. Unless that is what you are looking for as well.
It depends.
If they're new to the area, if they've recently come out of a relationship, and their friends have dumped them, or if they've lost touch with them.
Have you never dated anyone, and you get on great as friends, but not as a couple ?
It's not something i'd be suspicious of. If you can't be friends, you can't be lovers. maybe they hope one will lead to the other.
Dang bobman you are on fire today. I can't rep you again.
I'm a firm believer in that your SO should be a best friend. And with that said their is NOTHING wrong with taking your time. If the person is right for you, you'll have the rest of your lives together.
The biggest mistake I see my friends making, is just rushing into things headfirst. They fall "madly" in love...and ditch all their friends and spend every waking moment with their new BF/GF. Then 3 months later they hate each other.
HUH? What happened to all those vacations you went on, and plans to buy a house together? Oh, you smothered each other.
I want my SO to be one of my Best friends, but I still want to have lots of friends.
I don't understand that either...maybe they just want casual sex, no strings attached? But why would they pay to use eharmony? If thats what they want, try plentyoffish.com or something! lol. I wouldn't pay any attention to those people with profiles like that. Unless that is what you are looking for as well.
I'd think that it's just the opposite. By saying "friends first, maybe more" they're saying that just because you answer their ad they're not going to sleep with you.
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So, would you consider this an indication that they are not really that serious about finding a partner or a relationship?
