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So here is my deal. I've been married to a very hyper, fun loving, dymnamic sugar mama. Since we've met, she has always made a massive income as she is married to her career. We have always had a connection like 2 kids in a sandbox. As we enter are 4th year of marriage (NO Kids) I constantly flirt with the idea of divorce. We constantly fight. She has ADD, she has alot of noise in her head. Getting her to engage and focus on fundamental conversations requires me repeating myself over and over. She is Not maternal. While she is the breadwinner and does pay for 99% of Everything, she doesn't lift a finger. I am a very modern-doting husband running ever single task needed to get done. She hasn't checked the mail once. As an unemployed husband, I refuse to be a dead-beat. I want to be married, but I want to be happy. She is very selfish, which is why she is so consistently successful in her career. Her job zaps her energy leaving me to do alot of things on my own (for fun) on the weekends. I am getting my Masters and banking on getting a job the day I graduate. So whats the problem?
I am not sexually attracted to her. I've told her this as a result of things she does and does not do. She never cared until recently. So I have a sugarmama who provides a incredible life of luxury, but all the while absent and disinterested in being a proverbial wife. At 36, Im really starting to yearn for a woman who values being domestic, less rigid, and wants kids! She committed to having 1. But my gut tells me her parenting style will stem from worry and stress vs. enjoying the process of parenthood. I am a self proclaimed free spirt, but it has been ruined by being 'a kept man'.
Financially, she is my best shot (realistically) of having a kid, and having the American Dream. Emotionally and Sexually I am suffering. And whats worse is I have no leverage. Everyday I try to approach the day with a fresh start, but she inevitably pisses me off with her natural 'me first' mentality. The term 'sweet' is not something she wants to be known as, rather, smart and efficient, which she is. I just think I'd work better with a sweetheart who values her man and all I do.
I do believe money is keeping me stuck in a marriage that has become more and more stressful, resentful, and frustrated for at LEAST a year.
Thanks in advance for your feedback.
Financially, she is my best shot (realistically) of having a kid, and having the American Dream.
"It's called the American Dream because you have to be asleep to believe it." - George Carlin
You gotta get that crap out of your head. The American Dream is a giant, fat lie. Do what makes you happy in life, not what you think you should be doing. Clearly, you are not happy. You sound downright miserable.
Staying in a marriage for money, isn't worth it, you 're paying a price regardless. If it's only been 4 years, imagine a lifetime with her... Now is the perfect time to divorce because you don't have kids. Also BEWARE if you do divorce and enter the single world again: Most women prefer equals or a breadwinner husband when it comes to money and careers. Good Luck
So here is my deal. I've been married to a very hyper, fun loving, dymnamic sugar mama. Since we've met, she has always made a massive income as she is married to her career. We have always had a connection like 2 kids in a sandbox. As we enter are 4th year of marriage (NO Kids) I constantly flirt with the idea of divorce. We constantly fight. She has ADD, she has alot of noise in her head. Getting her to engage and focus on fundamental conversations requires me repeating myself over and over. She is Not maternal. While she is the breadwinner and does pay for 99% of Everything, she doesn't lift a finger. I am a very modern-doting husband running ever single task needed to get done. She hasn't checked the mail once. As an unemployed husband, I refuse to be a dead-beat. I want to be married, but I want to be happy. She is very selfish, which is why she is so consistently successful in her career. Her job zaps her energy leaving me to do alot of things on my own (for fun) on the weekends. I am getting my Masters and banking on getting a job the day I graduate. So whats the problem?
I am not sexually attracted to her. I've told her this as a result of things she does and does not do. She never cared until recently. So I have a sugarmama who provides a incredible life of luxury, but all the while absent and disinterested in being a proverbial wife. At 36, Im really starting to yearn for a woman who values being domestic, less rigid, and wants kids! She committed to having 1. But my gut tells me her parenting style will stem from worry and stress vs. enjoying the process of parenthood. I am a self proclaimed free spirt, but it has been ruined by being 'a kept man'.
Financially, she is my best shot (realistically) of having a kid, and having the American Dream. Emotionally and Sexually I am suffering. And whats worse is I have no leverage. Everyday I try to approach the day with a fresh start, but she inevitably pisses me off with her natural 'me first' mentality. The term 'sweet' is not something she wants to be known as, rather, smart and efficient, which she is. I just think I'd work better with a sweetheart who values her man and all I do.
I do believe money is keeping me stuck in a marriage that has become more and more stressful, resentful, and frustrated for at LEAST a year.
Thanks in advance for your feedback.
How old is your wife? Quite frankly she doesn't sound like much of a catch for someone that wants a family, as are most ball busting "career" women.
You are living that great life that so many American women have, you know before feminism. What, not so peachy?
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