Double standard: Women can be openly bisexual and wanted by opposite sex but men can't?

[Chowhound]

That's right, cause men's sexuality is gross.

[Trimac20]

Originally Posted by DMoon

It’s a double standard because women’s bodies have always been sexualized throughout history and the current media compared to men. In addition, the proliferation of porn has reinforced the common lesbian fantasies that many men have. After all, the biggest consumers of porn are men and the biggest consumers of lesbian style porn—are men. Therefore it is obvious that this is what men want to see-- therefore women who are attention wh*res will use this fantasy hook to attract male attention. The book Female Chauvinists Pigs talks about the raunch culture that women engage in order to attract male attention and attempting to be bicurious or bi is just a signal to men that she is sexually open and does not necessarily follow that they are truly bi-sexual.

Even though sexuality is fluid for many people, there are very few people that are truly bi-sexual (people that are truly homosexual comprise less than 10% and true bisexuals are even smaller) in which they are attracted to both sexes equally. So men should either blame porn or be flattered at the girls who are pawing at each other so openly—since all that exhibitionism is just for the men’s benefit.

Yeah you see that in clubs and music videos. It's common to see women touching each other in a suggestive way, or grinding up against each other. I think it's a transition of viewpoint: females beginning to think like males. By this I mean, if men keep on saying how women are so sexy, and a woman grows up with this 'truth' enshrined in her dominant frame of reference, she too will consider women sexy. Sexy enough she too has to get some of that. Men who are turned on by this encourage it.

[jeepgirl27]

Originally Posted by Alanboy395

I've been thinking of something.

Women can be openly bisexual and men still want to be with them with few reservations. But if a man says he is bisexual (or even bicurious) women won't come anywhere near him (especially in the black community.)

Now I personally feel this is a double standard. I wonder why this stigma against bisexual men exists. I know the STDs play a role.

(Disclaimer: I'm a straight male.)

Its just creepy thats all
for some reason its sexier if 2 women are together, Most women I know want a straight man.
And lots of men think its sexy for 2 women to be together.
Im straight, I love men
It may be double standards but this is the way it is

[rebelwoman]

A lot of men have fanticies about women with women. Not many women have fanticies about two men. I don't know why, I guess that's just the way it is.

I wouldn't exactly call it a double standard because it's just people's preferences. I see it, though. Bi sexual men generally have more of a negative impact on straight people than bi sexual women. If I had to take a wild stab in the dark, I'd say it's because men are supposed to be strong & manly in everyone's eyes. When men are with men, it looks not manly & a little weird.

Jessie

[Trimac20]

Originally Posted by rebelwoman

A lot of men have fanticies about women with women. Not many women have fanticies about two men. I don't know why, I guess that's just the way it is.

I wouldn't exactly call it a double standard because it's just people's preferences. I see it, though. Bi sexual men generally have more of a negative impact on straight people than bi sexual women. If I had to take a wild stab in the dark, I'd say it's because men are supposed to be strong & manly in everyone's eyes. When men are with men, it looks not manly & a little weird.

Jessie

What I find interesting is the acceptance of lesbianism compared to male homosexuality. Back in the 80s alot of men found lesbianism gross (although many did secretly enjoy it in porn.etc), as did most women, but now most men admit they are turned on by it, and women see it as not such a big deal.