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I an 44 (did I just say that out loud?) and do not want children. I have never wanted children, and do not enjoy being around them. I cringe when someone wants me to hold their baby.
Over the years a few people have told me that once I got pregnant I would love the baby. I have never believed it, not for a single moment.
My figure is not the kind that anyone would ever think I would be worried about ruining. My first husband shared my feelings about not wanting children and my current husband has a child who lives with her mother.
I have never been in a financial position to afford a child. There are plenty of unwanted children in this world and I feel that it would be irresponsible to have a child that I did not want and can not afford.
Not always, geez!
DD is in her early twenties and has made known for many years that she has absolutely no desire for children, ever. I am behind her 100%.
Been there, done that, know how hard it is and why it's not the right thing for everyone. Completely understand.
It's her dad who gives her grief about her decision.
Sorry, I guess I am just going off my own experience. I will never forget the look on my mom's face when I told her I wasn't sure if I wanted kids.
No.No...and NO! Im 23, and like Desert, I dont even like kids. They irritate the crap out of me, and what most people find cute about them makes me cringe.
Yes, I get flak about it at times, because while Im polite to a coworker that has a baby, I dont fawn over it.
Right on Diamondgirl. I don't understand what is supposed to be cute about a brat. There is no such thing as a cute baby. They are ugly, and even uglier when they open their mouth.
When this thread started I thought it might die out after 2 pages of people defending kids rather then people not wanting them. Instead look at it......7 pages long of people who think like me. Guess I ain't the only genius in the crowd.
I have never been in a financial position to afford a child. There are plenty of unwanted children in this world and I feel that it would be irresponsible to have a child that I did not want and can not afford.
Yeah the financial aspect is a problem for me as well. By the time I have paid for things for the car, insurance, bills, food, rent etc etc etc I have about $20 left at the end of the week lol. There is NO WAY I could afford a child, and unless you are rolling in cash, I honestly don't know how people do it without stressing themselves sick. The expenses that come with raising a child nowadays are outrageous.
They say when you have a child your life stops being about you. Call me selfish but I hate the thought of that.
No, because the topic is about parenting, not about relationships between people.
Actually it's about non-parenting and a woman's desire to make connections between other women who are like her. Since when is a relationships board strictly about discussing romance? Unfortunately, the issue of a person being childfree is one that just does a sonic *whoosh* over the heads of many, bringing out the critics and yabbutters ("yeah, but ..") though there are a few enlightened posts by people like Urban Sasquatch (who I agree with in some ways, though I had to grin a little over how you were tripping over the efforts to not give offense ).
I have always said I wasn't just put on this earth to have children. I am 37, succesful, beautiful and have very good values. i have never been pregnant. I ended up with a man who actually has 4 children from 2 previous relationships and I can't say I exactly love it. I didn't know about the children for a long time then we really started getting serious so he had to spill the beans......well after you are madly in love with the man how can you possibly imagine not being with him. So I said what the heck and were giving it a try.
Now I am not sure what I was thinking because it is super hard and because they are not mine I really don't want to invest my whole heart and soul in to each one because they already have a mother. Sometimes I think maybe I should just go ahead and have one of my own and that could possibly help me adjust etc. Don't know? Just find that when he goes to pick them up on Friday for the weekend I can't wait for him to take them home on Sunday....I am just about pushing them out the door.
I love him dearly and would hate to be without him but this could be the deal-breaker!
Actually it's about non-parenting and a woman's desire to make connections between other women who are like her. Since when is a relationships board strictly about discussing romance? Unfortunately, the issue of a person being childfree is one that just does a sonic *whoosh* over the heads of many, bringing out the critics and yabbutters ("yeah, but ..") though there are a few enlightened posts by people like Urban Sasquatch (who I agree with in some ways, though I had to grin a little over how you were tripping over the efforts to not give offense ).
Unfortunately, the issue of a person being childfree is one that just does a sonic *whoosh* over the heads of many, bringing out the critics and yabbutters ("yeah, but ..")
Oh God, the yeah buts...
"Yeah, but maybe you just haven't met the right person yet..."
"Yeah, but you'll change your mind in a few years when the biological clock starts ticking..."
"Yeah, but when you hold your own baby you'll think differently..."
and my personal fave
"Yeah, but what more is there to life than having a family?"
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I will never forget the look on my mom's face when I told her I wasn't sure if I wanted kids. 
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