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Old 06-10-2010, 11:39 AM
 
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Ewww!! Dude you gotta go see a witch doctor or something to ward off the evil spirits.
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Old 06-10-2010, 11:42 AM
 
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As far as the overal topic, I always get really annoyed at my gay friends who do this to people. Acting all gay and being overly nice and flirting.

They KNOW you're straight, they KNOW nothing is going to happen. It's just something some (not many from what I've seen) gay guys will do because they think it's hilarious. Some straight men act all macho and this and that, but then some gay guy kinda corners them/is hitting on them - and they get all fussy and nervous and awkward.

It's usually done just to see the reaction. Gay guys can normally tell if you're actually gay or not. They're just doing it for kicks.

I think it's mean unless it's done to someone who's already being a di** about things in general.
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Old 06-10-2010, 11:57 AM
 
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I have gay guys making passes at me too, but usually it doesn't really amount to anything.
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Old 06-10-2010, 12:05 PM
 
Location: Whiteville Tennessee
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For whatever reason, I have been approached by four gay men in just as many weeks. This is the first time in my life in which I have been approached by men. While I am not homophobic, it makes me sad that they are not women. I think it is related to the fact that I started weightlifting again a couple months ago and gained 30 lbs. And the fact that I have allowed my facial hair to grow.

Has anyone else had an experience like this?
I told you wearing those knee pads was going to get you in trouble some day!
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Old 06-10-2010, 03:46 PM
 
Location: Austin, TX
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As far as the overal topic, I always get really annoyed at my gay friends who do this to people. Acting all gay and being overly nice and flirting.

They KNOW you're straight, they KNOW nothing is going to happen. It's just something some (not many from what I've seen) gay guys will do because they think it's hilarious. Some straight men act all macho and this and that, but then some gay guy kinda corners them/is hitting on them - and they get all fussy and nervous and awkward.

It's usually done just to see the reaction. Gay guys can normally tell if you're actually gay or not. They're just doing it for kicks.

I think it's mean unless it's done to someone who's already being a di** about things in general.
I had a gay friend tell me that in the gay community, there are a lot of guys who fantasize about about being with a straight guy kind of how lots of straight men get excited by lesbian porn. I wonder if that has anything to do with the behavior you described?
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Old 06-14-2010, 10:42 AM
 
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It happened again today with an older man approaching me at a clothing store. I do not know what is causing this, and it distresses me because I want women to be attracted to me. I have been single for the last six years, so I am anxious to get back into dating, but the only people that approach me are gay men. While I am flattered by it, I am now reaching the point where I am kind of worried that there is something about me that turns women off while turning men on.
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Old 06-14-2010, 10:47 AM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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It happened again today with an older man approaching me at a clothing store. I do not know what is causing this, and it distresses me because I want women to be attracted to me. I have been single for the last six years, I am anxious to get back into dating, but the only people that approach me are gay men. While I am flattered by it, I am now reaching the point where I am kind of worried that there is something about me that turns women off while turning men on.
If it makes you feel better, a gay guy has also hit on me at a clothing store recently.

HOWEVER I've said it before and I'll say it again.....you want women in your life, then you need to take the bull by the horns and become far more pro-active. Talk to women, ask them out, its not rocket science.
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Old 06-14-2010, 11:10 AM
 
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For whatever reason, I have been approached by four gay men in just as many weeks. This is the first time in my life in which I have been approached by men. While I am not homophobic, it makes me sad that they are not women. I think it is related to the fact that I started weightlifting again a couple months ago and gained 30 lbs. And the fact that I have allowed my facial hair to grow.

Has anyone else had an experience like this?
Hi BadJuju,


Yes. When I was 18 I began to attract gays due in part to being in very good shape. I was still clueless about women.

Its probably because you look good and healthy now. Men do the approaching thus gay men are approaching you. It probably means when you begin to approach women then you will have some success. As a general rule you are better off as a confident, fat slob approaching women than a decent looking man who does not.
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Old 06-14-2010, 11:17 PM
 
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It happened again today with an older man approaching me at a clothing store. I do not know what is causing this, and it distresses me because I want women to be attracted to me. I have been single for the last six years, so I am anxious to get back into dating, but the only people that approach me are gay men. While I am flattered by it, I am now reaching the point where I am kind of worried that there is something about me that turns women off while turning men on.
Its all about the eyes. Are you fluttering the eyes like crazy when you look at these men. Some might take that as a clue that you are being feminine.
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Old 06-15-2010, 01:08 AM
 
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I can relate here, back in my single days I would get more attention from gay men than I would straight females.
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