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Old 05-31-2010, 04:38 PM
 
Location: Jacksonville, FL (Northside)
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This quote was inspired from the Men & Drama Thread (courtesy of Madonna). No disrespect to Madonna, but this quote is stupid because it implies couples should take whatever crap their s/o throws at them. Sorry, that's not how the world works. If you give someone hell in a relationship, either they'll give it back to you twice as worse, leave or do both. Sad to say, some people agree with this quote but to each their own. Personally, if my woman said/says this to me I'm out like a light because to me it would signal doormat. Yes, there are going to be good and bad times in relationships but some people have a knack for throwing out quotes like this an others as a way to test their partner. Well, even though I pass tests all day, if a woman ever tried this with me, she will be testing her a$$ out the door
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Old 05-31-2010, 04:43 PM
 
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I prefer to look at it as 'You get the good with the bad'. You said it yourself, there will be good and bad times in any relationship.

I feel like it's more a sentiment that you can't just show up for the good times and abandon when the bad come around.
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Old 05-31-2010, 04:47 PM
 
Location: Jacksonville, FL (Northside)
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Great assessment. When I think about this thread, I think of it as you can't have the milk without the cow. It all boils down to how much transgression you are willing to overlook in your partner.
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Old 05-31-2010, 04:51 PM
 
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I think Marilyn Monroe said it first, but..wth. I disagree with that statement because it seems to come from someone who might lack inner strength. I say, be smart enough to know what you can deal with and stop depending on "true love to conquer all" That's a crock, it's just that most people won't admit it. Besides, how do I know for sure if "your best" is going to be worth what you put me through at "your worst"? How do I know if you're even going to be around then? Maybe you'll want to leave me because I'm someone who has seen you at your worst, and you don't want a reminder of that.

Bring your best to the relationship, and expect the best from your partner. But going in, be clear on what your "wobblers" and your "deal breakers" are. Then when (not if) "worst" shows up you'll at least know what you're dealing with.
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Old 05-31-2010, 04:56 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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If you don`t take the bad, with the good, then you will never get the good.
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Old 05-31-2010, 05:19 PM
 
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yes you need to take the bad with the good always, but that quote just gives me the impression that the person (in this case Madonna) is just moody, pretentious, and will probably have a lot of "worst" days---which i wouldn't be able to stand.
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Old 05-31-2010, 05:19 PM
 
Location: Whoville....
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Originally Posted by NorthsideJacksonville View Post
This quote was inspired from the Men & Drama Thread (courtesy of Madonna). No disrespect to Madonna, but this quote is stupid because it implies couples should take whatever crap their s/o throws at them. Sorry, that's not how the world works. If you give someone hell in a relationship, either they'll give it back to you twice as worse, leave or do both. Sad to say, some people agree with this quote but to each their own. Personally, if my woman said/says this to me I'm out like a light because to me it would signal doormat. Yes, there are going to be good and bad times in relationships but some people have a knack for throwing out quotes like this an others as a way to test their partner. Well, even though I pass tests all day, if a woman ever tried this with me, she will be testing her a$$ out the door

If you can't handle the bad, the relationship will not survive so there's no use worrying about the good. You won't be there to see it. So the quote is right.
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Old 05-31-2010, 05:24 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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If you can't handle the bad, the relationship will not survive so there's no use worrying about the good. You won't be there to see it. So the quote is right.
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Old 05-31-2010, 06:00 PM
 
Location: NYC
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There is a huge difference between "handling the bad" and "handling me at my worst."
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Old 05-31-2010, 06:03 PM
 
Location: Hawaii
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I watched my mom put up with a lot of abuse under the philosophy of taking "the good with the bad".

Expressions like that shouldn't be used to excuse inexcusable behavior. Blech!
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