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Somewhere on another site, I read someone posting about a married couple.
This is how it goes....
Married for 7 years and they have 2 kids.
Background: He cheated on her when they were exclusive. She actually walks on him with her friend in his house.
Fast forward: Man begs like crazy, expressing remorse and they worked it out (counseling, open book thing, etc...). 4 years down the road, she still marries him.
The cheating isn't brought back for many years until 2nd child is born. The wife lashes out at him but only when she's drunk.
According to the story the man hasn't cheated since and his wife brings the cheating incidence out of no where while drunk but regrets it when sober (she has also punched him and threw plates on the floor twice). Man in the story is running out of patience and thinks of possibly leaving her as he doesn't know what's got into her to bring it up again after so many years and doesn't want to talk about it no more.
I'm not an expert in cheating (never been cheated but will never cheat either) but didn't that woman had enough time to lash out at him years before marrying him? Or is she still within her rights to express her hurt over his long ago cheating since she's only drunk?
It sounds like she still has residual anger buried somewhere and, like bile, it comes up when she's drunk. Between that and the violent behavior, she doesn't sound very stable. First step would be to lay off the sauce. Second step would be to get some counseling.
I can't say I blame him for thinking of leaving. She's well past the statute of agitations on the matter. If she was still angry about it, she shouldn't have married him in the first place.
Well, sounds like this woman needs to sober up and quit drinking.. Right?
She obviously hasn`t dealt with the cheating incident and has it buried, until she gets drunk.
If she felt this way, she shouldn`t have got married to begin with!
Well, sounds like this woman needs to sober up and quit drinking.. Right?
She obviously hasn`t dealt with the cheating incident and has it buried, until she gets drunk.
If she felt this way, she shouldn`t have got married to begin with!
LOL...We posted at the same time!!
I was just going to post that we posted at the same time, too! Too funny.
If she felt this way, she shouldn`t have got married to begin with!
Exactly and I hope the kids in the story don't have to see those horrible episodes she throws.
It would sure affect them... maybe it's starting to or has.
Exactly and I hope the kids in the story don't have to see those horrible episodes she throws.
It would sure affect them... maybe it's starting to or has.
Exactly! If only more parents would think about the kids when they show their butt, it would make for a better world!
This does not sound like a woman that hardly drinks except for that one time at Chuck and Nancy's anniversary party when she had too much wine in the celebration...and then brought up something from the way past when she had overindulged.
She is a mother of two.
She drinks
Especially when she drinks, she gets extremely unstable.
I don't think its the "mentioning of the cheating incident" that's bugging Dad.
I think the core issue is that Mom isn't willing to keep her act together.
I can't blame Dad for wanting out. He made a mistake 4 years before they were married, he owned up to it, they as a couple moved on.
Somewhere on another site, I read someone posting about a married couple.
This is how it goes....
Married for 7 years and they have 2 kids.
Background: He cheated on her when they were exclusive. She actually walks on him with her friend in his house.
Fast forward: Man begs like crazy, expressing remorse and they worked it out (counseling, open book thing, etc...). 4 years down the road, she still marries him.
The cheating isn't brought back for many years until 2nd child is born. The wife lashes out at him but only when she's drunk.
According to the story the man hasn't cheated since and his wife brings the cheating incidence out of no where while drunk but regrets it when sober (she has also punched him and threw plates on the floor twice). Man in the story is running out of patience and thinks of possibly leaving her as he doesn't know what's got into her to bring it up again after so many years and doesn't want to talk about it no more.
I'm not an expert in cheating (never been cheated but will never cheat either) but didn't that woman had enough time to lash out at him years before marrying him? Or is she still within her rights to express her hurt over his long ago cheating since she's only drunk?
If my math is right, she gets angry at him from time-to-time about an incident that occurred 11 years ago and before they go married? And she hits him? She needs to get her act together.
I think she still has the right to be hurt about it BUT if it's been 11 years and she obviously still hasn't gotten over it or completely moved on, she probably shouldn't still be with him. At the same time, it does sound like the drinking is the bigger problem. If that's the way she behaves when drunk, she need to stop drinking.
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