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I keep thinking that I really don't think I want children at all. Especially now that most people seem to be struggling, education costs are out of control, housing is ridiculous, and many other things are going on in this world. Why would I want to bring a child into this mess unless I was completely stable in all aspects of my life? So many people just have them to have them.
I know quite a few couples that never want to have kids and they are happy as well. I enjoy being around children and have been teaching for a few years, but it's nice to get out and have the rest of the night to myself and my husband and be spontaneous when we want to do something or go somewhere.
So who else has been contemplating not having children??
I keep thinking that I really don't think I want children at all. Especially now that most people seem to be struggling, education costs are out of control, housing is ridiculous, and many other things are going on in this world. Why would I want to bring a child into this mess unless I was completely stable in all aspects of my life? So many people just have them to have them.
I know quite a few couples that never want to have kids and they are happy as well. I enjoy being around children and have been teaching for a few years, but it's nice to get out and have the rest of the night to myself and my husband and be spontaneous when we want to do something or go somewhere.
I agree with what Dr. Oz said on Oprah as well about having children - "I think, and we have a very cavalier and careless attitude to conceiving children in this country"
So who else has been contemplating not having children??
Me too. I'm in the same boat. Everyone says oh yeah I always said that too but then when you get in your thirties you will change your mind. I don't know if I'm gonna change my mind. I'm thirty now and if I have them I should by the time I'm 35 because I wouldn't want to be any older then that having kids. But I don't feel like I will be ready in the next five years. I don't have anything worked out. Like a house, an area I like living in and now a steady job. I might be losing my teaching job this year due to the cut backs. Plus aside from that I don't have any desire what so ever to have kids at this point even if I had all the other things. My husband says he wants kids but he's not ready either. I don't know if things will change for me. It would be interesting to hear others’ stories and what was there changing point making them decide kids were what they wanted.
Me too. I'm in the same boat. Everyone says oh yeah I always said that too but then when you get in your thirties you will change your mind. I don't know if I'm gonna change my mind. I'm thirty now and if I have them I should by the time I'm 35 because I wouldn't want to be any older then that having kids. But I don't feel like I will be ready in the next five years. I don't have anything worked out. Like a house, an area I like living in and now a steady job. I might be losing my teaching job this year due to the cut backs. Plus aside from that I don't have any desire what so ever to have kids at this point even if I had all the other things. My husband says he wants kids but he's not ready either. I don't know if things will change for me. It would be interesting to hear others’ stories and what was there changing point making them decide kids were what they wanted.
Hahahah I'm almost 33 and still thinking about it. I have all these people tell me "Oh you should have one" WHY?? are you going to help me pay for it? WHy SHOULD I have anything? If I do decide to have a child I probably won't be ready till about 38ish... then we'll have to see if it's possible.
And I really hate it when people say to me "Oh you'll make due somehow" WHat??? That is so idiotic. So I'f I'm out on the street with no job, living in a shelter and my kid is hungry that is making due??
Been married to the same spouse for 36 years and we NEVER wanted any children. After about 10 years we made it permanent. It was and continues to be the best decision for us and was made by both of us freely.
I was pretty old when I had my children at the ages of 28 and 30. This was nearly 22 years ago and all the panic buttons were hit because of my "age", tons of test and this and that, I worked up to delivery with both and they were fine. (Trying to quantify myself here.)
Now I was so to say a hesitant mother. Married a fellow who said why would you not want children so I thought well maybe I am weird? Fast forward to today, and when I reflect as they are both in college and fairly on their own, it was a growth experience for me on a personal level. You push outside of yourself, develop new skills, understand the meaning of dying for someone. It is really to sound cliche, a way of revisiting things through their eyes. Doesn't mean it is for everyone, but I do find it unbelievable to consider them not being on the earth. Just my opinion, I think having children should be a licensed activity I also applaud your introspective thinking, it is a lifelong commitment.
Well, not much, but ask this question in the Relationships forum and you will get post after post after post calling you selfish.
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Who never wants to have children?
I also applaud your introspective thinking, it is a lifelong commitment.
