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Old 06-10-2010, 12:10 PM
 
Location: Rochester, N.Y
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Originally Posted by laorbust61 View Post
Unless it's related to love or affection, or sex, no one should be putting their hands on anyone. And only with their partners permission.

I've heard this crap from men like, "If she hits me, I'm gonna hit her back to prove I'm not weak or a p**nk." Proceed at your own risk and assume that once you hit her, she will want the relationship to be over. If that's cool with you, bring on the consequences.



Please don't play little head games and act like any time a man if he decided to defend himself is doing so to prove that he is not weak or is a punk. Like I said before, I have never hit a women but every situation is different. Some women are big and can fight. Also every man who decides to hit back, it isn't always for the reasons mentioned. Most time they are freaking pissed if say a women punched them in the face, other times it could be reflex, sometimes pride, sometimes ignorance, sometimes warranted. Please stop stereotyping every situation as the same. That is really annoying. Your not intelligent enough to manipulate every guy on C-D with your absolutes.

I think most people know that every situation is different, therefore for every man there goes a unigue response. Some will walk away, some will fight back. Some men will simply get beat up by the women. Some men simply can't fight and some women can. All women are not made the same, and neither are all men. Please stop generalizing and manipulating the situation so that any man who would ever defend himself is some kind of punk or has false pride..

Furthermore, abuse is abuse. If a girl ever hit me in the face whom I was dating. It's over. Just like I don't hit women, they don't have the right to hit me. So whatever girl who would hit me, it's simple, goodbye. Don't want you know more anyhow.
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Old 06-10-2010, 12:26 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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The one caveat to all this is that not every man has the skill to restrain an attacker--be it a man or a woman. If I'm not mistaken, most self-defense courses are going to teach you how to strike, so that you can run away. If you're defending yourself, especially if the person comes at you with a weapon, it is understandable if you strike the person.

However, with the situation described in the OP, there was no need to strike the person. Punching someone in the stomach will not make them leave. Escorting them to the door in an armlock or headlock will. If you choose to seek help from "the law", such as that help might be, sure, you could try calling the police to make them leave.
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Old 06-10-2010, 12:41 PM
 
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WHOEVER slugs me in the face better have some gym shoes close by! I don't believe in violence and a means to curve behavior.
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Old 06-10-2010, 02:25 PM
 
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The thing about hitting a woman is that it is totally unnaceptable by society and frowned upon. Violence towards men by women seems to be cute, funny, brave, heroic, admirable, etc. It is seen countless times in sitcoms, movies, funny videos, etc. Watch a woman hit a man with a pan on his head, a kick between his legs, etc. And the crowd roars in laughter in the movie theater, living room, bar/club, etc. Have a guy kick a girl between her legs, knock her down, etc. And everybody will jump in to beat him up, call police immediately, have him handcuffed and thrown in jail, etc. I rather not see violence towards nobody regardless of gender.

If a woman feels brave and tough enough to go punch a guy then she should feel brave and tough enough to be ready to receive a punch.
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Old 06-10-2010, 02:28 PM
 
Location: City of Central
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If a woman wants to fight like a man , she needs to be treated like a man .
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Old 06-10-2010, 03:01 PM
 
Location: Vermont
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I'll admit I've hit a guy before, albeit nowhere like the face or genitals, just the arm or sides. He said a lot of intentionally cruel things and I didn't have the power to leave the situation. He responded by shoving me, really hard. I don't fault him for that per se, but I think whatever force you deal to somebody in retaliation, it should be proportional, acknowledging your respective strength levels. If a woman taps a guy, she should not be punched in the face by the full strength of your fist.
He said intentionally cruel things and you responded by hitting him?

You were in the wrong.

He responded by shoving you?

He was in the wrong for doing that.
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Old 06-10-2010, 03:16 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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^I have to disagree. He hurt her, so she hurt him back.

That's why arguments should be avoided like the plague.
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Old 06-10-2010, 03:17 PM
 
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It is never permissible. Any man who would hit a woman is nothing but scum in my eyes. If she's really violent, call the cops and let them cart her away.
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Old 06-10-2010, 03:20 PM
 
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If a woman wants to fight like a man , she needs to be treated like a man .
If it's worth ruining your record and talking to cell mates then by all means do it. In the end, nothing happens to her while you get the short end of the stick.
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Old 06-10-2010, 03:22 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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It is never permissible. Any man who would hit a woman is nothing but scum in my eyes. If she's really violent, call the cops and let them cart her away.
Not all of us want to run to others to solve our problems.

I've merely restrained them. I've never hit a woman.
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