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You only know because when Prop 8 passed she said "It's a victory for people like me, but I do know your side means well." On evolution you only know because while watching something on dinosaurs she said "The Bible shows the world can't be that old, but eh it's just TV I guess." Otherwise she doesn't talk about her views and does all the things a room-mate should do plus is friendly and tolerant. (She doesn't believe in same-sex marriage, but is never unkind to gays she sees or that you know)
Last edited by Thomas R.; 09-02-2010 at 02:30 AM..
Dear Thomas! This is an interesting topic. I would have voted in your poll, but it was directed at the irreligious and liberal. I am not liberal, so I didn't vote.
I would not live with a creationist or bible literalist. I would hope to know this about them before living with them.
Well, I have basically had 2 roommates who very nearly fit that description. One of them thought homosexuals were gross but wasn't really religious. The other one was very Christian, didn't believe in same sex marriage, and was a republican.
The first roommate - my college roommate - had grown up not being exposed to - well, anything. She had never met a gay person until she had met my friends and she had never had any kind of ethnic food. She wasn't religious but her mom made it very clear that she thought it was hypocritical of me to celebrate any of the Christian holidays when I was over at their house for Easter. Anyway - the first time homosexuality came up was when there was an article in the school newspaper about gay pride. She made a face and said it was gross. I asked her why she thought it was gross - and she said it's just wrong. Then I told her that some of my friends that she had met were gay. I told her that it wasn't a choice and that they were simply attracted to members of the same sex. She thought about it for awhile and kind of shrugged her shoulders. We didn't talk about it much - but I think the more she was around some of my friends - the more she realized that they were just normal people. I did try to educate her a little bit - since she had never been exposed to anyone that wasn't just like her but I never pushed anything on her. And like I said, these things rarely came up. She was my best friend at college that year and we only drifted apart later because she transferred and I never saw her again. She was a wonderful person with a good heart.
My second roommate was my roommate when I was on tour with a show. All of her friends were gay but she was still against gay marriage. She was very Christian and I believe has become even more so now. She would defend waiting until marriage until having sex but had slept with about twice as many people as I had. She voted for Bush in the election and said that she was voting for who her parents were voting for. She said she was going to vote for him because that's who her parents were voting for but had looked into things a little bit and agreed with them. Well - I'm a hard core democrat, agnostic, gay rights person. We were very close on tour and for the most part got along great. She was old enough to make her own decisions so I didn't find much of a point in discussing things with her. When all of your friends are gay - even your closest friends - I don't see a point in trying to convince you of gay rights. Although - when she found out that one of her family friends was getting divorced - and she told me that I didn't understand how traumatic this was for them since Christians don't get divorced - I did inform her that people of all religions get divorced. It may be frowned upon - but it most definitely happens.
So - I didn't check any of the options - because I was very close with both of my roommates. I wasn't pushy, I tried to educate a little when appropriate, I wasn't distant, but didn't just overlook everything either. I have some friends that feel the complete opposite way that I do on many issues. For the most part - we just don't talk about those issues - or we might make fun of each other for them! You can be a good person and still believe some bad things. They probably say the same thing about me!
I wouldn't worry about it as long as we got along well otherwise. But if she started making certain comments more and more often, then I'd be obliged to do the same.
Absolutely not! There is no way in hell you would ever find me shacking up with George W. Bush or Sarah Palin! Not in a million years!
I wasn't really thinking of this as any kind of romantic or sexual "shacking up" situation. Some people here are women, besides that a man and woman can live together without it being "shacking up."
I wasn't really thinking of this as any kind of romantic or sexual "shacking up" situation. Some people here are women, besides that a man and woman can live together without it being "shacking up."
Hmmm... Perhaps it's a difference in colloquialisms as I've always thought of "shacking up" as living in the same place, i.e., roommates.
Of course, I guess I could also see how it could have romantic connotations behind it. Hmmm... I'll have to pay attention to that phrase a little more closely to see how it's utilized in everyday speech...
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