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Originally Posted by Chango
Has it ever occurred to anyone that it's as simple as: $@!# happens!?
Wire your brain one way and you want a woman, another and you want a man, another and the hind end of a Hippopotamus looks pretty fine. It's not all that complicated people. It doesn't take much to mess up the calibration, and we rarely get to choose where we fall on that continuum.
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Yes, "
$@!# happens!" - the question is "How & why did
$@!# happen"? The OP assumes that homosexuality is nature's doing, when it's more environmental influences... which we, as conscious human beings have respons-ability for. As newborns, we were born with our brains only 25% developed, so that they may continue to develop to adapt to environmental influences. Some want to think that we are just "born" one way or the other when that's a lie... a harmful lie that is causing a lot of pain, sickness & death.
You want to pretend that we are so simple... that "it's not all that complicated."
Well, Chango... consider just some of the influences that contribute to what makes human beings think, feel & act as they do...
1. Age
2. Physical Development
3. Sex (Male or Female) & how we regard our sexuality
4. Financial Opportunity
5. Education (& the education of influential people around us - esp. parents)
6. Health of body systems: (which is largely influenced by lifestyle habits of diet, exercise & sleep)
-Cardiovascual
-Digestive
-Endocrine
-Lymphatic
-Muscular
-Nervous
-Reporductive
-Respiratory
-Skeletal
-5 Senses
7. Genes & inherited tendencies (which are only expressed along with certain environmental influences)
8. Intelligence - & how it is pursued or not (many types of intelligence
-Musical
-Natural
-Logical/Mathematical
-Existential
-Interpersonal
-Bodily-Kinesthetic
-Linguistic
-Intra-personal
-Spatial
9. Self Management (Character/Maturity) - choice
10. Psychological development (see Erikson's stages of development)
-Infancy: Birth to 18 months, Trust vs. Mistrust (possible strengths: drive & hope)
-Early Childhood: 18 months to 3 years, Autonomy vs. Shame (strengths: self-control, courage & will)
-Play Age: 3-5 years, Initiative vs. Guilt (strengths: purpose)
-School Age: 6-12, Industry vs. Inferiority (strengths: method & competence)
-Adolescence: 12-18, Identity vs. Role Confusion (strengths: devotion & fidelity)
-Young Adulthood: 18-35, Intimacy & Solidarity vs. Isolation (strengths: affiliation & love)
-Middle Adulthood: 35 to 55 or 65, Generativity vs. Self-Absorption or Stagnation (strengths: production & care)
-Late Adulthood: 55 or 65 to Death, Integrity vs. Despair (strength: wisdom)
11. Thinking Distortions
A) Filtering: filtering out positive aspects of a situation while magnifying negative
B) Polarized thinking: black- or white (when often it is a mix)
C) Overgeneralization - something happens once, but general conclusions are based on that one happening
D) Jumping to conclusions - concluding with out knowing or considering all of the facts
E) Catastrophizing - magnifying or minimizing, expecting disaster
F) Personalization - taking things personally, comparing
G) Control Fallacies - Viewing ourselves victim to external controls, or internalizing others pain (to feel control)
H) Fallacy of Fairness - Constantly looking for fairness & being disappointed (because life often isn't fair)
I) Blaming - holding others responsible for our pain, or blaming ourselves for others pain
J) Shoulds - making rules about everything - & inducing shame when rules aren't kept
K) Emotional Reasoning - thinking feelings are facts (when they aren't)
L) Fallacy of Change - Thinking we can change others & then we'll be happy (both aren't true)
M) Global Labeling - Generalizing
N) Always being right - Continually on trial to prove our opinions & actions are correct
O) Heaven's Reward Fallacy - Belief that if you suffer enough, the pay-off will be worth it after-life
12. Self Esteem (unconditional esteem for existing, & conditional esteem for living up to one's perceived potential or not)
- Others Esteem/Relation to others
13. Birth/Sibling Order & Family Dynamics
14. Cultural/Religous beliefs
15. Temperament: (which affects how one pursues natural talents, abilities & types of intelligence)
- Activity
- Regularity
- Adaptability
- Persistence
- Sensitivity
16. Personality: (I'm most familiar with the "Color Code" book)
- Red (want power, to be right, to hide insecurities tightly, leadership)
- Blue (want intimacy, to be good, to reveal insecurities, to be understood)
- White (want peace, to feel good inside, to please others, protection)
- Yellow (want fun, to look good, to be praised, freedom, playful adventure)
17. Social Support - family, friends, community (& how one reaches out & appreciates others reaching out, or not)
18. Experiences (which are countless!!!) & how we interpret & react to them
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