Have any of you ever stumbled upon "Christian Marriage Advice" sites?

[Vizio]

Originally Posted by TheSoundOfMuzak

With regards to marriage, I find it funny how there is so much social pressure in the Christian community to keep divorces from happening. If God is working His magical powers to bring together all 3.5 billion men and 3.5 billion women into perfectly compatible couples, then why do you need any social pressure at all? You'd think that marriages would be coming together and staying together organically. But no, Christians actually have a higher divorce rate than secularists.

Wow....you're just working it today, aren't you? Not very tolerant and nice of you.

The Bible never suggests that marriage is easy, or that there is any kind of magic that makes a husband love his wife and vice versa. Fact is....we are all sinful human beings....doing what sinful human beings do. We are selfish. That's why the divorce rate is 50% or higher. Even among Christians. Nothing in the Bible says that Christians are magically cured of that.

Here's a dose of reality: There are very few pairs of men and women in the world who are able to live happily ever after with each other. No amount of marriage counseling, no amount of complexity in a dating site algorithm -- nothing! -- will change that.

How do you know that? Are you just blowing smoke again? Or is that your opinion? My experience says otherwise. If a couple WANTS to be married and they WANT to be happy...they will.

My wife and I are approaching 20 happy years. My parents lived happily for 28 years before my mom died. My in-laws were married 52 years before my MIL died. I just did a funeral for a man a few months back that was happily married for 65 years before he died.

[mordant]

Originally Posted by Vizio

My experience says otherwise. If a couple WANTS to be married and they WANT to be happy...they will.

My wife and I are approaching 20 happy years. My parents lived happily for 28 years before my mom died. My in-laws were married 52 years before my MIL died. I just did a funeral for a man a few months back that was happily married for 65 years before he died.

I know people who are livin' the dream too, in and out of the church.

I also can tell you that wanting to be happily married doesn't mean you're going to be. It tends to be true if both parties want to be -- truly want to be -- but even then it's no guarantee.

That divorce rates are no different for Christians, even conservative ones, suggests that god puts no special blessing on his favorite institution, though.