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One of the reasons why I came to the States in the first place is to escape Indian traditions like arranged marriages. Women are more than pieces of property to be bartered away to secure political and business alliances.
Some traditions deserve to die.
I really like Indian traditions besides arranged marriage though. Is it possible for me to be devoted to god, and marry out of my race.
Last edited by Adi from the Brunswicks; 12-05-2014 at 09:52 AM..
This is the bitter truth that I have with great difficulty realized today. I'm the only one among my high school buddies who follows south Indian traditions so closely among all my high school friends from India. Its shameful, and I kind of feel left out. I just cant work up the guts to change my mindset and move forward like they did. Trust me, I've tried, but my heart stops me from proceeding in such a direction. Why ?
Please avoid derogatory replies. I feel conflicted about myself as it is. I need to find a way past my contradictions.
When you say "south Indian", do you mean spiritual practices, such as Hinduism? When you say they've liberalized, are they religious at all? Have they just ditched religion all together, or do they hold to a nominal Hinduism?
I used to work with a number of Indians. A few are Christians, and many of them are Hindu--in various degree of devotion. I can imagine it's a much different world to come from India and live in the US.
The problem is, my mind thinks in one way, my heart feels that way, and then makes a complete 180, hence the reason I feel conflicted. I'm confused, as my heart keeps oscillating from one side to another in terms of feelings.
Who can help me deal with this problem. Psychologists deal with the mind, but its not my mind that's the issue. My heart is the big culprit here.
When you say "south Indian", do you mean spiritual practices, such as Hinduism? When you say they've liberalized, are they religious at all? Have they just ditched religion all together, or do they hold to a nominal Hinduism?
Just remove arranged marriage but hold on to other cultural beliefs. Especially the food , I love making spicy briyani (yum ).
Is that the main issue? The arranged marriage deal.
Yes, for the most part, they don't want me with anyone outside my brahmin caste. I want to open up a bit more. I want to spend my life with strong, sexy, independent ladies, who respect me as a partner, not damsels in distress. Someone who has the guts to fight back when needed.
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Yes, for the most part, they don't want me with anyone outside my brahmin caste. I'm not so intent on marrying brahmin women. I want to spend my life with strong, sexy, independent ladies, and not damsels in distress. Someone who has the guts to speak up or fight when needed.
How close are you to "expected" marrying age?
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