Could you/would you date, marry, or raise a family with someone who didn't share your religious beliefs? (Jewish, children)
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I figure a fundie or any other type of irritatingly devote person would be obvious enough before serious dating and certainly before the idea of marriage ever had a chance.
Since that should pretty much leave only reasonable prospectives with whom I think it wouldn't be a problem.
In fact I did and it wasn't.
Marry/raise a family? I don't think so. For most definitions of 'religious', that would just be too much divergence between fundamental worldviews for compatibility. But that's me. Some people do make it work, and some of them post here. And I'm not inclined to state that just because it wouldn't work for me, then it can't work for you.
Really, this is something you need to decide for you and based on who you are and what you need - not whether it works or doesn't work for anyone else.
Marry/raise a family? I don't think so. For most definitions of 'religious', that would just be too much divergence between fundamental worldviews for compatibility. But that's me. Some people do make it work, and some of them post here. And I'm not inclined to state that just because it wouldn't work for me, then it can't work for you.
Really, this is something you need to decide for you and based on who you are and what you need - not whether it works or doesn't work for anyone else.
The religion they belong to would not matter. If they were willing to change their views as they learn more, as I am, would be more important.
A fundamentalist of any religion that is unwilling to accept science would never be considered. That would leave out any literal interpreters, young earth people, anti vaccine people, and anti evolution people. I may give it a shot to change them but probably not put in too much effort or waste too much of my time.
I think that when we first got married we were more apathetic about relgion that we were athesists, in fact for awhile I think my wife was looking at Wicca and she still reads a fair amount about it. The advantage that we had was neither of us came from religious families even though we did get married in a church. When my wife told her dad that I was Jewish his commented on that he had served me pork at his house and my wife assurred him that I eat pork (how can one not eat ham or bacon) and he was relieved. That is how religion or lack of it should work out, as long as you can work out the pratical problems such as diet or going to church then the differences in faiths should be workable if you really love each other. When religion is an overpowering part of one's life then perhaps you will need to have someone with either a shared belief or one who does not care at all about religion. But I do not think that religion should be the driving force in one's life. We do not even know if her siblings and their families are religious or not, I do not think mine are but these are not topics that come up.
I guess I would be more willing to date a Bible-believer. But ONLY date.
Back when I was a Bible-believer myself and I first started going to church heavily in my young adult years, I first began to hear about the idea (from older couples) that you should only date believers. It sounded so absurd at the time. Maybe marriage, but dating also?
I should have trusted my instincts. I could sense even back then that there was something psychologically wrong with that idea, and with the kind of people who promoted it.
So now, those are the only kinds of people I would tend to avoid.
It needs to be compatible, not identical in beliefs and practices
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